Ukuba uhlala nomyeni wakho ngaphezu konyaka omnye, hlalutya ukuba umyeni wakho usela kangakanani imihla ngemihla. Ukuba inani lezonxila alinyuli kwaye umyeni akaziphathe kakuhle, ngokufanelekileyo, ngoko umyeni wakho ulungile. Uthando ngobhiya kwaye ngenxa yoko - utywala obunxilisayo.
Yintoni inxila yobisi? Ukuba umntu udla ubhiya ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngobuninzi, ngoko uhlamba utshwala obunxilisayo. Ukususela ekusebenziseni imihla ngemihla ibhiya, iifestile zobuchopho ziyafa, ezikhokelela ekudemeni kwengqondo ngenxa yoko, ukunyanzeliswa komngcipheko kuphakama.
Umkhwa wokusela ibhiya imihla ngemihla, kwiminyaka embalwa ingathintela impilo yakho. Ukusela ubhiya ngobuninzi bunciphisa ukukhuseleka, "kubonakala ubhiya" kubonakala kuthintela amandla.
Ubunxila obunxilisayo, bufana nokusela utywala obuqhelekileyo, kuphela olu ludakwa lukhula ixesha elide kwaye luhlala lungafunyanwa ixesha elide. Le ndoda ngokwakhe iphika ukuxhomekeka kwibhiya kwaye ikholelwa ukuba unokuyeka ukusela ubhiya xa efuna.
Xa umyeni ehlaziya, ngaloo ndlela, kufuneka uzame ukuze akwazi ukuphumla ngaphandle kwebhiya. Kungaba ngumsizi wokuhlwa, ukuhamba, ukuhlamba, ingxoxo enomdla, umoya ococekileyo wentsapho, isidlo esiphundu. Udinga ukutshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo kumyeni wakho, kungekudala, mhlawumbi, wayengenalo okwaneleyo ukuthuthuzelwa kwintsapho.
Yintoni endiyenzayo emva kwayo yonke into?
Kubalulekile ukuxelela umyeni wakhe ukuba yintoni inyosa yotywala kunye nemiphumo yayo. Tshela umyeni wakho ukuba uphelelwe ngumsebenzi wokusela ubhiya imihla ngemihla. Yaye jonga ukuphendula kwendoda yakhe, ingaba kulungile ukuba uzive njengotywala obunxilisayo.
Ukuba umyeni uyakuthanda ubhiya, mema ukuba athenge wena, ngenxa yesi sixa, uthe amaqebelengwane, into enhle okanye umnike imali. Kwaye ekupheleni kwenyanga, xa ufumana imali efanelekileyo, unokuchitha ixesha lokuzonwabisa. Makhe umyeni aqiniseke ukuba uchitha ixesha elingakanani ngenyanga kwibhiya yedwa.
Sifanele siphendule yonke into ngokuthula. Ukuba umyeni uyazilawula, kunye nokuba uyadla ubhiya imihla ngemihla, akukhathazeki kakhulu, kungcono ukumshiya wedwa. Makhe akwazi ukuxhomekeka kwebhiya kwaye ishishini lakho kukumxwayisa.
Kodwa xa kukho utywala obunxilisayo, ukuba umyeni, utywala, uhlasele kwaye uhlale njalo, kufuneka udibane nodokotela.
Inhlanhla kuwe!
UTatyana Martynova , ngokukodwa kwisayithi