Iingcali zeengqondo kunye neengqondo - into efanayo?


Ngeli xesha xa inqanaba leenkonzo lizisa inzuzo engaphezulu kunemveliso, sinikwa kunye kunye nale nto. Iimfundiso kunye nokuqeqesha "ukukhula komntu", amanye amaqela ezenkxaso (ngenxa yezizathu ezithile abangela ubudlelwane obuqhubekayo kunye namaqela angabonakaliswa ngotywala). Yaye, xa, ngenxa yezizathu zabo, amantombazana okanye abafazi banquma "ukuphatha" incwadana ebandezelekileyo kunye nomntu ongafanelekanga, ukufumana umntu ongayikuphulaphula nje kuphela, kodwa unika uncedo lokwenene, kubakho ukuba, ngokubanzi, baninzi. Kwaye endaweni yokuxazulula iingxaki zokuzama ukuzama ukuqonda, isazi sengqondo kunye neengqondo zengqondo zifana okanye akunjalo?

Iingcali zeengqondo, iingqondo ze-psychotherapists kunye ne-NLP masters zikulungele ukunyamekela impilo yethu yengqondo kunye nentuthuzelo yengqondo, kunye nalabo banikela iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokwelapha - ukusuka kwi-body oriented to therapy-story tale, kwi-yoga ukuya kwi-holotropic breathing ... lolwandle lwamasevisi? Okokuqala, masizame ukuthatha iikhombandlela ezimbini ezibalulekileyo - iingqondo kunye neengqondo zengqondo - kwaye uziqwalasele ngokubanzi.

Iinkalo eziphambili ezisebenza "nomphefumlo" (psyche - ukusuka kwisiGrike "umphefumlo"), ngokwenene, ncinane. Kwaye zonke zihambelana nezindlela ezimbini ezibalulekileyo. Kodwa abaninzi abayiqondi, isazi sengqondo kunye nengqondo ye-psychotherapist enye enye, okanye ngaba ayingcali ehlukileyo ngokupheleleyo?

Okokuqala, simele sikhumbule umbala ombi weqhosha legama ngalinye - "ngengqondo". I-psychoneurology dispensary, izibhedlele zengqondo ziza engqondweni ... Kodwa zikhona kwiimeko zonyango, kwaye ingcali yesazi sengqondo! Ngoko ke, sivuselela isazi sezengqondo kunye nesifo sengqondo-emva koko konke, banamakhasimende abo. Bajongana nalabo abavakalelwa, ukubeka ngokuthobeka, kungeyona ndlela efanelekileyo. Kwaye kunikezelwa ukuba kuphela izilwanyana zonyango kunye nezilwanyana ezidakamizwa "zihlala ziphakamileyo" zivuya, ngeendlela ezihlukeneyo, umntu ngamnye unokuba ngumthengi wengqondo yengqondo kunye neengqondo zengqondo, nangona oku akufani into efanayo.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kummandla weenkonzo "zokomoya" bahlala kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo kwaye bahluke kwiinqanaba ezahlukeneyo zokungenelela.

Ukuba ulungele ukuqonda izizathu ezibalulekileyo zokuziphatha kwakho, "dive" ngaloo mihla xa ubumba bakho benziwa nje, ukuba uziqwalasele njengomphumo wezemfundo kule ndawo okanye kwindawo leyo, ngoko wena-kwi-therapist. Ukuba ukwesaba le nkqubo, kwaye awulungele inkqubo yonyaka (okanye ngaphezulu) ("okanye udelele") "ukulungiswa" ngokwakho - uye kwi-psychologist.

I-Psychology njenge-science isifundo somphefumlo, kunye ne-psychotherapy iyayiphilisa. Ngoko ke, ukuba ulungele "ukuhlawula amanxeba" kungekhona yodwa, kodwa nangempumelelo - kuwe kumgqirha. Yaye ukuba ulungele ukuphatha abanye okanye ukulahla ukuphathwa, sebenzisa amathiphu, "i-lotions", "i-glue plasters" kwizilonda zakho - uze uye kwi-psychologist ngokuphepha.

Ngokubanzi, zombini izikhokelo zinika impembelelo efanayo. Ukutyelela kwengcali yengqondo kunye neengqondo zengqondo, nangona kungenjalo, kubangela ukuvala kodwa kungekho iziphumo ezifanayo. Kodwa ukuba ulungele ukubeka nje iimvavanyo kuwe nakwabanye, kodwa ufuna ukuguqulwa kwehlabathi kunye nesiphumo esihlala ixesha elide - ke unake ingqalelo kwi-psychotherapy.

"Andikwazi ukwenza oku" = ingqondo yengqondo

Ngesinye isikhathi kwakuyi-psychologist (kwindawo yokuqeshwa) eyandinceda ndabhala amanqaku. Ndaza ngeengxaki ezithile - "Andikwazi ukubhala, ukuba ivela ezantsi kwentliziyo yam -" ndingenise ". Yaye kungekhona entliziyweni-iyinto engathandekiyo. " Ekhohlo ngesigqibo esifanayo. Ukuba inkcazelo encinane - isazi sezengqondo "ebunzini" yandibuza: "Ngubani na onithwalayo?", Ndaqonda ukuba akukho mntu ngaphandle kwam.

"Kwam kubi, kwaye yintoni kanye-andiyazi ..." = isifo sengqondo

Ndaphendukela kwiprogram kamva. Ndaziva ukuba ndingumsebenzi kamama. Kwaye ekugqibeleni ndazibuza umbuzo wesakramente: yintoni na ubuntu bam - bam, kwaye yintoni umama? Ngokude, phantse unyaka, le nkqubo indifundise ukuba ndivavanye ngokwaneleyo kwaye ndabelane ngam "amaqhubu". Ndaqonda apho intlungu yam ikhona, kwaye phi-ukuphazamiseka kwintlungu yomnye umntu. Ngendlela, ngelo xesha ndandicinga ukuba i-psychologist kunye ne-psychotherapist ayifani.

Ngoko, isazi seengqondo sifanele sihambe kunye nengxaki ethile, kwaye umgulane uyamkeleka ngokuvakalelwa kukuba "Ndivakalelwa kukuba, kodwa kutheni-andazi!" Kancinci, umgqirha onemibuzo ehamba phambili uya kuba nokuqonda oko kukuthintela ukuba ujabulele ubomi, kodwa ulungele ukuba wena ngqo a ngaxelwa.

Ukucinga ngendlela entsha

Inkqubo yokuziqonda wena kunye nokuphendula kwakho kukude kakhulu kwaye kungenasiphelo. Oku kubangelwa ukusikhusela rhoqo kwiinguqulelo zengqondo. Kodwa, xa ufikelela kwingcamango yokuqonda kunye nomgqirha ongalunganga, kunye nendlela yokwenza njalo, uya kucinga ngokungafaniyo. Ezinye iindidi, ezinye iithemplates. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo - ukuqonda ukuba ezi ziimodeli. Ukungenelela kwinkqubo "yokucinga" yakho yansuku zonke ayikwazi ukuba ngumnye weengqondo. Ugqirha lwaluphi na ulwalathiso-ukusuka kwi-existingential ukuya kwonyango lwenyango yentsapho, ukusuka kumqhubi weFreud ukuya kwi-Gestalt -rapistist-unako. Okanye, ungangeneleli, kodwa bonisa nje ukuba kukho abantu abathile, nabo bonke ulwazi olufana nani, beza kwisiphetho esihluke ngokupheleleyo ...

Yilungele!

Yilungele ukuba utshintshe ingcamango yehlabathi kunye noxanduva lwakho kwintsapho, malunga noko ufuna ngokwenene ukuba uya kumgqirha. I-Psychology njengengxube yexeshana inokuba luncedo kwiqela elikhulu lezoshishino, kodwa akukho mntu uya kumenywa ukuba ameme i-psychotherapist (ubuncinane kuthi) kubasebenzi babo. Emva koko, unyango lithetha ukukhululwa, kwaye abaninzi banesaba kakhulu inkululeko ... kunye noxanduva lwabo, iimvakalelo zabo kunye neenjongo zabo, ezi nolu luleko.