"Intombi O'Key"
Ngamanye amaxesha ndifuna ukuzibuza ukuba kutheni ababizwa ngokuthi "amantombazana e-O'Kay" bakhala, ngubani na, nangona ubunzima bobubomi, abayikukrazula ebusweni babo? Oku kunokukhokelela ekuzaleni ngokupheleleyo. Akunakuba yinto? Kodwa hayi, yonke into yenzeka nje ngale ndlela. Yaye yintoni isizathu esiphelele bonke ukuba umntu uhlala ehlelekile kwaye akaze akhononde nantoni na? Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abanjalo baphumelela ngokupheleleyo kwaye bamkele bonke abanomdla omkhulu. Ufuna isiluleko - uhlala ufumana, ufuna lonke uncedo - awusoze wenqatshwa, kufuneka ukhulume, uya kuphulaphulwa njalo njalo njalo. Ngamagama, umntu onjalo akakwazi ukukhala, kuba uhlala ehlelekile. Kodwa ngokwenene apha yonke into iyinkimbinkimbi kunokuba ibonakale ekubonweni kokuqala: into ehlukileyo ye "ntombazana O'Key" yinkcazelo yakhe yokwenza ubuso obuhle nangomdlalo ombi.
Zivela phi iinyembezi?
Sonke siyazi ukuba nayiphi na umdlalo, nokuba ngowona mhle, unamathuba okudlala. Kungenxa yeso sizathu, ukubonakaliswa ngokusisigxina kwamazinyo angamashumi amathathu namabini kuma-degree amathathu namashumi mathandathu akufanele kube yeso sizathu sokuba unokulibala malunga nesimo esiqhelekileyo somlinganiselo. Ukungaphumeleli lo mva, iziphumo aziyi kuthatha ixesha elide ukulinda.
Kwaye iziphumo ziyahlukahluka:
Ukuzikhohlisa
Le nto kukuba nangona uchitha usuku ubuncinane iiyure ezimbalwa kuzo zonke iintlobo zamathambo ezindala ezifana: "Ndiyena mhle", "ndiyena mhle kakhulu," "akukho mnye mhle okanye unonwabe kunami", "Namhlanje ndiyanda", "Sashka ekugqibeleni "kwaye" i-pusher ayikho nto kodwa i-mirror defect "kwaye ngenxa yoko" ndinezinto ezilungileyo, "ke oku akuyi kuba ngumncinci, umvuzo uya kuhlala ungancinci, zonke izibuko zehlabathi ziza kuhlala ziphosakele kwaye . Kukho izinto ezininzi ehlabathini, apho, ukuzisola kakhulu, ukuqeqeshwa ngokuzenzekelayo akukwazi ukuchaphazeleka ngenxa yezizathu ezifanelekileyo, kwaye oku kufuneka kuhlale kukhunjulwa.
Ukubeka i-mask a-la "Ndile tsholeti epheleleyo," ngandlela-thile okanye enye into ngathi ngathi asiyiyo yonke injongo yinjongo. Oku kukhokelela ekungalinganisweni okupheleleyo kwangaphakathi nangaphandle. Kwaye oku, okokuqala, yindlela ecacileyo yokuphazamiseka kwemihlaba kunye neentsholongwane. Kwaye akuyinto ehlekisayo kuyo yonke into, sisifo.
Ukukhohlisa abanye
Yiyo kanye into exoxwa ngayo ekuqaleni kwendima yethu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kuzinza kwaye uyityebe entloko yomntu onjalo, kodwa ngelo nani awunakufumana ukutshatyalaliswa kwenkcubeko encinci. Ukuba ungeke ususe isiskotho sokonwaba, ngoko, xa izimpisi ziza kusebenza, akukho mntu uya kukukholelwa, kwaye konke ngenxa yesizathu sokuba intsapho yakho kunye nabahlobo abakwazi ukuziva beza kuwe ngokukodwa. Nasi isiphetho sokuba iinyembezi zakho zibhekwa njengezingcingo, ii-athomu kwaye zibi nakakhulu- "ekungabikho kwemisebenzi." Ngamanye amazwi, abaninzi banokucinga ukuba ingxolo enkulu iphakanyiswa ngenxa yokuba uvele utyhuke!
Ukuphepha Ukuhlala
Ukuzisola okukhulu, ngenxa yokumomotheka kweHollywood yodwa awunakukwazi ukuhlala emphefumlweni wakho uxolo noxolo, kwaye ukungafihli kugcwalise loo mida. Emva kokubeka isiskingi secebo "Ndikwazi ukuphumelela wonke umntu" awukwazi ukusombulula iingxaki kuzo zonke, kwaye njengokungathi uyinkozi enesabisayo, ukufihla intloko yakho.
Ukungamkeli abanye
Ngethuba elilodwa eligqibeleleyo, ngokumomotheka kwangaphandle, uya kuhlakulela i-amanthropy: "Ziyintoni abantu abanobuqili nabangenabubele, akubonakali kubo, njani ndiziva ndibi? Ewe, ndifa apha nonke, kodwa abanandaba! Ukumomotheka, ngokungathi akukho nto yenzeka! Ndiya kubazonda bonke! "Kakade, abayiboni. Kwaye kutheni bafanele bayenze?
Ukwenywa ngabanye
Ehlabathini kukho ilizwi: "Ukuba ufuna abantu bakuthande, musa ukubaxelela ngovuyo lwenu!". Akukho nto ibuhlungu ngayo, kukho inyaniso kule mzekeliso. Kwaye inyaniso yale malunga malunga nesithoba, ngokusekelwe ekuqikeleleni kwethu okuthobekileyo. Ngokweengqondo zethu, sithande ihlwempu kwaye singathembi ingxaki.
Kwaye konke kwenzeka kwi-genetic level. Ewe, oku akuwona umthetho, kodwa unelungelo lokuba khona.
Umlutha kakhulu
Uyazi ukuba ubizwa ngokuthi "ukuhamba ngokuthula," kwaye ukuba uyayandisa ngokuxhomekeka komthwalo wemfanelo, awukwazi ukukhohlisa ulindelo lwabanye abaza kuwe ukuze bafumane ithemba kuwe. Kwaye nangona ukucinga kwakho kuye kwadlula ixesha elide, uqhubeka usenza isimo sengqondo esonwabileyo kuyo yonke into, kuba ayikwazi ukuba yinto enye. Nantsi unesangqa esichukumisayo, esiya kuqala ukubangela ukuvutha komsindo kwaye ungavumeli ukuba ithemba lakho lenze njengentaka ye-Phoenix.
Yintoni intliziyo inokukwazi ukuzincama?
Ewe, akufanele uthuthuke, kuba ebomini bethu, ngaphandle komnyama nomhlophe, kukho imibala emininzi eyahlukeneyo, ngoko ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba sisenza njani ukunyaniseka komkhwa, "Ndihlala ndilungile," akudingeki ukuba uyiqwalasele. Le ndlela ineziphumo zayo:
Inxalenye yokuzithiba ayizange yonakaliswe nantoni na
Ekugqibeleni, isizathu esona sikhokelo sakho samanje singasayi kuba yintlanzi yenjongo yomhlaba (umzekelo, isichotho), kodwa into engaphantsi kwehlabathi kunye neyoyikisayo. Kungaba luhlobo oluthile lwenkathazo. Ewe, umzekelo, iisokisi zonyulwa wakho, zahlakazeka ukususela ngoMvulo yonke indawo. Oku akude nesichotho, kodwa kunjalo, uya kuvuma, ngaphandle komkhwa oqhubekayo we "le nkathazo siya kukwazi ukusinda", kwaye kwimeko enzima kuya kuba nzima kakhulu ukubulala bakho abathembekileyo ekufeni.
Ubukho bobukho besazela abuzange bumonakalise nabani na.
Makhe sicinge ngemizuzu embalwa malunga nabantu abasondelene nathi. I-Imtak ikhuni, kwaye banenkxalabo, kwaye abanye banomgangatho onjalo ukuba kungcono ukubeka intloko yakho ngokukhawuleza! Masizame ukuyiqonda nokuziva uxolo kubo. Kwaye asiyi kukhulula ubunzima bethu kwiimigxa zethu. Ukongezelela, uninzi lwazo nje umfokazi ngokupheleleyo.
Ndixolele, kodwa ngoku ndiza kuthetha ukulingana.
Zonke iingcamango zizinto eziphathekayo kwaye oku kuyinyaniso. Kwaye zizinto eziphathekayo ngokwemimandla yendawo. Unethemba eliqinisekileyo lokuba unakho konke (ngoku kwaye kuya kuba ngekamva) ngokugqibeleleyo - kwaye ngandlela-thile uzinzisa ngokwakho. Makhe, ke, kwaye kungekhona ngokukhawuleza.
Ngaba uhamba ngobuso obuqilileyo? Lindela ingxaki! Akukho nenye yezona zigqibo ezintle kunye nezikhethekileyo ukuzizibophelela kwizinto ezibuhlungu ziseyona nto yindyikitya kuzo zonke izilonda zengqondo.
Uxolelwe into eqhelekileyo? Emva koko-ukuxhatshazwa kuyingozi:
Umntu onomothekayo ukhangeleka ngakumbi. Kwaye noyena unako ukuthetha ngokukhuselekileyo ukuba kuhle kakhulu. Ngokuvisisana, ngokukodwa ukulingana komntu onjalo kunomdla kunokuba umphikisi wakhe obonwayo uhlale egazini egazini ngenxa yokungabi nabulungisa emlonyeni wakhe. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu (oku kungakhankanyi kuhluthwa) isibonakaliso sobuso sisoloko sivela kumbimbi engaphambi kwexesha, ngokuqinisekileyo nathi kunye nawe akukho mfuneko.
Ngako oko, akuyona inzakalo ukumncoma, kungekhona kwimpilo, kungekhona ukubonakala. Ncuma, nje ngokuba uhle!