Into ephambili kule meko ayikulibazisa, ukuqhubeka uvuke, kuya kuba buhlungu kakhulu kuye ukuba uphile kwisithuba sakho. Ukuba uyakuthanda ngokwenene, kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kukuqonda, vumela uhambe uxolele. Uthando-into enomsindo kwaye ngoko umthandayo, njengomgaqo, uhlala efuna uvuyo kuphela. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyakuthanda ngokwenene, uya kuxolela. Into ephambili ukuyichaza ngokuchanekileyo. Ngaphandle kokumemeza kunye nokuhlambalaza, zama ukuthetha naye, unqabise. Fumana isizathu sokungqina ukuba awufanelanga ukuba kukho nezinye iimantombazana ezibhetele kangcono kunoko. Nangona kunokwenzeka, ukwazi ukuthanda kwakhe, mxelela, kunye nezinye zeentombi zakhe. Okanye umkhangele intombazana ngokwayo (umzekelo, ngokusebenzisa intanethi ye-intanethi okanye iindawo zokuxoxa), thetha naye kwaye ukuba uyayithanda, zama ukulungiselela intlanganiso kunye nabo. Ngokuqinisekileyo ayikho into, kodwa ngokukhawuleza into iya kuphuma. Njengoko uyazi, kwimfazwe zonke iindlela zilungile. Into ephambili kuye inyanisekile kwaye iyinyanisekileyo, musa ukuphuma ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo zezizathu nezizathu. Mxelele yonke into njengoko kunjalo. Ubulungile inyaniso enenzondelelo kunamanga amnandi. Nantoni na oyenzayo, musa ukuza kunye kwaye ungenzi, kuya kubuhlungu. Kodwa uya kukwazi ukuba awukhohlisi kwaye unyanisekileyo naye. Into ephambili ayiyenzi ngeSMS, ngefowuni okanye kwi-intanethi. Kufuneka ujonge ngaphakathi kwamehlo kwaye usombulule le ngxaki, ujonge kunye. Lapha sifuna "intetho ephilayo" intsimbi. Akuzange nanini ngethuba incoko, ungazami ukumthobela. Bonisa ukuba uyayihlonela iimvakalelo zakhe, ezivakalelwa ngayo kuwe, kodwa, njengoko zithethayo, awukwazi ukuyalela intliziyo yakho. Ukucima iimvakalelo zakhe kuwe kuphela uzinceda. Mema ukuba ahlale engumhlobo angamthinteli umnxibelelwano naye, akayi kukulibala konke ngokukhawuleza. Chaza kuye izinto eziphambili ezifanayo, ubuhlobo. Thembisa ukuba awuyi kuyeka ukuthetha, ukuba uya kukwazi ukukubona ngokukhawuleza njengoko ufuna. Le ndlela echazwe ngasentla iyaziwa xa iphendula umbuzo wendlela yokuthatha inxaxheba kumntu ukuba uyandithanda?
Ukuba ungalindelanga ukuthetha naye ngokuthe ngqo kwaye ufuna ezinye iindlela zokusombulula ingxaki, zama ukuphula ubuhlobo bakho ngobuqhetseba, kodwa uyazi, ungeke wenze ntoni, kuya kuphazamiseka. Nazi ezinye iindlela. Zama ukuphikisana naye nangasiphi isizathu (cinga isizathu esisekelwe kwimeko). U-Zatey uhlazola ngamabango kunye nezikhalazo, uze ubeke umnyango kwaye ushiye. Into ephambili kukuba ukhethe isizathu esihle sokuxabana kwakho, ukuze ukuba uzama ukwenza ingqondo yakho, ube neengxabano ezinamandla. Kodwa ke, ukuba uqale lo mbambano-ke ungayeki ukuzivikela ekupheleni kwayo, ukucela ukuba abuyisele yonke into kwindawo yakhe, uphendule ngokubanda. Khawukhumbule ubuhlobo bakho kulolu hlelo lokuhlukanisa kwaye alukhanyisi, kodwa isongelo sokuba, ngokukhawuleza, uya kukuthiya, uhla ukuya phezulu.
Enye indlela yokwenza inxaxheba kunye nomfana kukuthintela ukuba iimvakalelo zakho ziye zacima. Ukukhawuleza ukutyelela, ungaphenduli iifowuni zakhe, ngesibonelelo sakhe sokumbona, uthi uhlale exakekile. Zama ngokucacileyo ukubonisa ubuninzi bakho begazi. Kukho iinguqulelo ezimbini zokuqala: mhlawumbi uya kuqonda yonke into kwaye azame ukuyeka ukunithanda (okungenakwenzeka kakhulu), okanye mhlawumbi ingxoxo ingentla kuwe.
Zifumana umntu omtsha okanye ubuze umhlobo engaziyo ukuba adlale indima yakho yintombi. Mxelele ukuba uthandana nomnye umntu kwaye ufuna ukuba naye. Zibonise emehlweni abo bantu abaqhelekileyo kunye nabafana bakho abasandul 'ukuzenza. Indlela ilungile, kodwa inkohliso kakhulu. Kwaye umnquli wakho uya kugula.
Ngoko yenza, ilungelo lokukhetha indlela yokwenza oko lixhomekeke kuwe kuphela. Kodwa khumbula, indlela efanelekileyo, kuseyiyo. Ingxoxo yakho ngokubhekiselele ingatshintsha kakhulu. Zama ukufikelela engqondweni yakhe. Ndikholelwe, akayena umonakalo, awuyi kulwa nentando yakho. Ukuba ufuna ukuhamba, - jikela uze uhambe, uyeke-hamba. Othandekayo ngokunyanisekileyo awuyi kuthi. Yaye yintoni okumele yenziwe, oku kuyiqiniso, asizange siyilwe. Musa ukwesaba inyaniso, ungesabi ukuthetha. Ukuba unquma ukushiya ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye ungenakwenzeka, uze ushiye ngaphandle. Kodwa ke, zama ukulula ngakumbi: abantu bajika, bahlukane, bajonge omnye nomnye. Zama ukuchaza, ukuqonda - kakuhle; Cha - unokwenza ntoni akusikho iphoso lakho. Khawundixelele indlela yokutya nokuhamba ngaphandle kokujika. Kwixesha elizayo, ungayihoxisi isicelo sakhe sokuba uya kubuya, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani kuwe.
Into ephambili akuyikumnika nayiphi na ithemba lokuba "mhlawumbi ..., ngelinye ilanga" uya kuvuka kwakhona. Khumbula iimvakalelo zakhe, kwaye iimvakalelo, njengomthetho, azikwazi ukudlalwa. Wena ngokwenene uyaqonda, ukuba ayikho enye indlela yokuphuma. Uya kutsala, ucinge ngendlela enokuyenza ngayo - kuya kuba nzima kumaxesha amaninzi. Musa ukuthetha naye emva kwesigqibo sakho sokugqibela, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzame ukukuxelela njani ngendlela enzima ngayo kwaye engenanto ngaphandle kwakho. Musa ukuphulaphula konke oku. Emva kwakho konke, ngenxa yothando lwakhe ngawe, uyimpumputhe njengengane, akaqondi kakuhle ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuba ube nomntu ongathandekiyo. Kwaye akanako ukuhamba (okanye mhlawumbi akafuni), kuba le yimihlobo yabantu: abayithandi ukulahlekelwa, ukuyeka kwabo. Kwaye uhamba kwaye kwaye naluphi na uhlobo ungabuyi. Kubuhlungu? Ndiyayiqonda. Kodwa khumbula ukuba awukwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane kuzo zonke. Nangona ungayibetha njani le meko - uyazi ukuba kunjalo, ukuvuthela entliziyweni akunakuphetshwa. Ngelizwi - ungayithuthuli loo mntu. Unqwenela ukwenza inxenye - yenza ngokunyanisekileyo, ungabi ngeemidlalo ezingabizi. Uyamthanda, mhlawumbi uya kuqonda. Khumbula, ixesha liphilisa yonke into. Kwaye mhlawumbi, wena, ebomini, uya kuba ngabantu abasondelene kakhulu - kuphela phantsi kweenkwenkwezi zabahlobo abahle.