Kuyaziwa ukuba abantwana bayintyatyambo yobomi. Nangona kunjalo, ngelanga, akubona bonke abantu ababelana ngale ngcamango. Ngokukodwa amadoda. Esi simo sengqondo kubantwana singakhokelela kwisithuba. Yingakho abafazi abaninzi bezama ukuqonda ukuba kutheni amadoda engathandi abantwana.
Enyanisweni, kukho ezininzi iimpendulo kumbuzo: kutheni umntu engathandi abantwana. Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba umntu ngamnye uchatshazelwa yimoya yengqondo apho akhula khona. Mhlawumbi, le ndoda yashiya iinkumbulo ezingathandekiyo ebuntwaneni bakhe, eziyimbangela yesimo sengqondo esinjalo. Ngokomzekelo, xa umfana eselula, wayenomntakwabo omncinane okanye udade omncinane, ababelethi abanikela bonke uthando kunye nokunyamekela, bayeka ukunika umntwana omdala. Ngenxa yoko, wayenomdla wokuba wayengathandwa. Kwaye naphezu kwexesha elide elikhulile, kwi-subconscious, uye wahlehlisela into yokuba abantwana abancinci baya kuhlala bebathanda ngaphezu kwakhe. Mhlawumbi yena ngokwakhe akaqapheli ukuba umona umfazi wakhe othandekayo kumntwana, ngenxa yokoyika ukuba uya kuphelelwa ngqalelo, njengokuba kwenzeka kwabazali bakhe.
Ukoyika abantu
Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo abanqweneli abancinci, kuba bavakalelwa kukuba abanako ukuthatha uxanduva lokuphila kwabo, uphuhliso kunye nokunye okuninzi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kwenzeka xa ulutsha lusakhula kwiintsapho ezinomzali omnye okanye eceleni kootata abangasebenzi. Kakade ke, akusoloko abantu beqala ukwesaba abantwana. Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba umfana oye waqhelwa ebuntwaneni ukuba abe noxanduva lwabo abathandayo kunye nokuzikhusela, ngokukhawuleza ulungele ukuthatha uxanduva lomntwana wakhe. Kodwa iimeko zihlala zihlala apho abantu abatsha babona ooyise ngokwabo kwaye bakholelwa ukuba nabo abanako ukunika abantwana babo into enhle. Kule meko, ukungathandeki kwabo kubantwana kubakhokelwa nguloyiko kunye nokungaziqondi. Nangona kunjalo, ku funeka kuqatshelwe ukuba ukwesaba okunjalo akuveli kuphela kwalabo ba khulele kwiintsapho ezingasebenzi. Kukho imeko ezininzi xa abantu abatsha bengakulungeli ukuthatha nawuphi na uxanduva. Ngaloo nto nayiphi na into ekuthethwa ngayo ngabantwana bayabathukuthela baze bacaphuke. Abafana nje bacinga ukuba intombazana izama ukumnyanzela umntwana, ithathe inkululeko yakhe, indawo yakhe kunye nokukwazi ukwenza into ayifunayo. Kule meko, indoda ayifanele ibe yimizimba kuphela, kodwa isifo sengqondo sigqibe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu badinga ixesha elingakumbi lokufumana inkululeko kuyo nayiphi na imbopheleleko kwaye bafunde ukuyeka iiminqweno ethile. Kubamabhinqa, umama uvela kwimvelo, ngoko kulula ukuba benze "imihlatshelo" efanayo ngenxa yomntwana.
Uvavanyo lokulingana
Kodwa kukufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba umntu onengqondo eqhelekileyo kunye nombono owaneleyo wehlabathi unokucaphukiswa ngumntwana, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo akubanga ukuhlaselwa inzondo kunye nobudlova. Ukuba ubona ukubonakaliswa kohlobo lomntu omncinci, kufuneka ucinge ngendlela efanelekileyo ngayo. Ngaphezu koko, ukuba uyayinyamekela into yokuba umfana akasho nje izinto ezingathandekiyo ngabantwana, kodwa usongela nobudlova. Ukuziphatha okunjalo akuvunyelwanga ngokupheleleyo kumntu oqhelekileyo, ngenxa yokuqonda okanye ukungazi kakuhle kwi-psyche eyaneleyo kunomnqweno wokukhusela ababuthathaka okanye ubuncinane abaphatha kakubi, kunokuba babandezeleke kwaye bahlekise. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba umntu omncinane ubona kubantwana iintshaba eziphambili kunye neentlungu, cinga ukuba uya kuba ngumzali oqhelekileyo kumntwana wakho.
Ngethamsanqa, abameleli besondo esomeleleyo abanako. Ngokuqinisekileyo, bonke abantu bajamelane nokungafuni abantwana xa bekhula kwaye belahla umnqweno ongenamdla wokuhlala abantwana abangenayo imfanelo yento. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kwenzeka xa umntu ephethe unyana okanye intombi yakhe, apho azibona khona. Emva koko ukucaphukisa kwakhe kutshintsha kwindlela eyahlukileyo, ukuguquka kwintsilelo yothando kunye nokuthanda okungenammiselo.