Kukulungele ukulungela ukuba izihlobo zomyeni ziza kuqala ukubonisa uluvo lwabo malunga nendlela yokukhulisa umzukulu wabo kusasa okanye emva kwexesha, kwaye nayiphi na inkcukacha ingaxhomekeke ekugxekeni: amathoyizi, intlawulo yokutya, iincwadi, ixesha lokulala. Kwiimeko ezininzi, impendulo yokugxeka iyakwazi ukusika nokugqithisa, kodwa inokuzisa, into eqondakalayo, eyingozi ngaphezu kwesizathu. Kukho iindlela ezininzi eziza kunceda ukuphuma kule meko ngesithunzi.
Iqhinga lokuqala: ungagxeki ixabiso
Enye yezona ndlela ezilungileyo zokulondoloza uxolo kwintsapho nje ukungazihoxisi ukugxeka. Kule meko, ukuphendula kwakho okusemgangathweni ukugxeka kufuneka kube ngummothekabungane, endaweni yokucaphukisa okanye intloni. Bomomotheka kwaye bathi iingcebiso zabo zibalulekile, kodwa awuyi kuzifaka de uxoxe ngazo nodokotela wezilwanyana. Emva koko, tshintsha isihloko ukuze uthathe ingxoxo kwindawo ekhuselekileyo. Ayikho ingqiqo ekuzameni ukukholisa izihlobo zendoda ukuba ulungile - oku kubakhokelela ekubeni akukho nto, njengoko wonke umntu uya kuhlala evoti zabo, nayiphi na ingxoxo.
Ngexesha elifanayo, khumbula ukuba akusiyo yonke ingcaciso ishicilelwe ngomlomo, ebonwa ngu-interlocutor. Jonga ukuhamba kwakho, ukubonakalisa ubuso kunye nesenzo-akufanelekanga ngandlela-thile ukubonisa intlungu okanye ukunganeliseki. Kungaba yimpazamo enkulu ukuphinda ulandele umlomo wakho ngokugquma okanye ukuphazamiseka kwamehlo. Yiphathe abazali bakho ngomyeni, ngokuba ungokokhulu nonogogo wakho umntwana kwaye ufuna nje ukuba alungile.
Isicatshulwa sesibini: into ehloniphekileyo
Ukuba usebenzisekile ukuphikisana nabantu bonke kwaye ungaze ufihla uluvo lwakho, ngoko akunakwenzeka ukuba uhlale ucebile ekuphenduleni ukugxekwa. Yiba. Enyanisweni, uluvo alubaluleke kakhulu, njengokuba luhlobo luni olusekwe. Zama ukungabhabhanga kude nentukuthelo evela kwiibhuleki, kodwa ukuphendula ngenhlonipho nangengqiqo. Kucacile ukuba uninzi lwabasetyhini olugxekayo iindlela zabo zokukhulisa abantwana lubonwa ngenyameko, kodwa khumbula ukuba umkhwekazi uvakalelwa nje ukuba ubandakanyeka kwimicimbi yentsapho kwaye luncedo. Ngaba uyaqiniseka ukuba ngokuphendula ufuna ukukratshi?
Ngombulelo ngokubulela isiluleko esilumkileyo kunye nomdla obonakalisiweyo, kwaye ke uthi kufuneka uziqonde ngokwakho, ngoko uza kuxhomekeka kumava akho. Ngoko unako ukwanelisa isidingo sakho sokuthetha, kodwa ungenzi umama wakho untshaba.
Isicatshulwa sesithathu: ukufumana isisombululo sokwamkelwa
Kwezinye iimeko, ukujonga okuvela ngaphandle kungakunceda ukujonga imeko kwi-angle entsha. Nangona usuvele uthintele kulo mqhudelwano, zama ukuyeka kwaye ucinge malunga nokuba kukho naziphi na iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo kwiibhunga ezicetywayo. Kungenzeka ukuba oku kuya kunceda ukufumana ingqiqo efanayo kubo kwaye unike ithuba lokubuyisela ingxoxo kwimisebenzi eyakhayo.
Iqhinga lesine: cela indoda yakho inkxaso
Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba akukho ndlela ufumana ngayo ukuphulaphula iindlela zakho zemfundo, ngoko unokuzama ukungawuphenduli ngokuthe ngqo kumamazala. Phuma kwimpendulo uze uxhumane nomyeni wakho. Ngaphandle kokumangalelwa kunye nokuthuka, mxelele oko ucinga malunga neengcebiso ezingathandekiyo zeentsapho zakhe kwaye umcele ukuba abe ngumlamli kwingxoxo elandelayo kunye neengqiqo ukuze amagama akho aqondwe njengezizathu zokuzimela okanye ukuhlambalaza.
Ekugqibeleni, usoloko unethuba lokuzenza ngathi uya kulandela icebiso kwaye uqhubeke usebenza njengoko ufuna. Akukho mntu unokukunyanzela ukuba wenze nantoni na. Wena unina, kwaye nguwe kuphela oya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba ufanele ufundise njani umntwana wakho kunye naluphi na icebiso ekukhuliseni kwakhe okumele uliphulaphule kwaye ngubani ongayithobeliyo.