Kutheni ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba umntu omnye ixesha elide uthi, "ubethela" phambi kwabaphulaphuli okanye kwinkampani encinane, kwaye akayikuphulaphula kwaye akafuni ukuva, ngelixa elinye lamagama alinomdla kumntu wonke? Indlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba uphulaphule kwaye uyayiqonda, kwaye ngokubalulekileyo, ukuzalisekisa izicelo okanye imiyalelo? Kulula kakhulu: kufuneka nje ufunde indlela yokuthetha ngokufanelekileyo nokufundisisa ingqondo yengqondo.
Into yokuqala yokwenza ukufumana isizathu sokuba unqwenela ukuva okanye kutheni uvalelwa, kodwa ungaqondi. Hlaziya intetho yakho ngokungathi ivela ngaphandle. Ungakwazi ukufaka ngokufihlakeleyo umrekhodi wezwi xa uthetha into enkampanini, kwaye emva kwendawo yokuthula uphulaphule yonke i-monologue yakho. Mhlawumbi, intetho yakho ayicacile kumnxibelelwano: ukhawuleza, xa uthetha okanye ngokuphambeneyo, uthetha ngokukhawuleza kangangokuthi abantu baqala ukugubha kwaye bayaphuthelwa intetho yakho. Okanye mhlawumbi uphulaphulwa, kodwa nje ungathathi into oyithethileyo kwaye uyakwazi ukuthobela izicelo okanye imiyalelo?
Masiqonde, ngenxa yento ongayifuni ukuphulaphula nendlela yokujongana nayo.
- Intetho engapheliyo
Asiyi kujonga iingxaki ze-logopedic apha. Ibhizinisi lihluke kakhulu. Kufuneka ukwazi ukucacisa ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo intsingiselo yombuzo wakho okanye ingxaki. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ufuna ukuthenga umgubo, yithi: "Uya evenkile, uthenge iikhilogram ezimbini zomgubo ngomgubo ngexesha elifanayo." Ukuba uthetha into efana nale: "Wena, ... kwakuya kwivenkile. Kwaye ndifuna i-pie i-apula ibhaka, kodwa apha kufuneka ndiqale inhlama, kunye nomgubo, kubonakala ngathi ... ukuthenga ngaphezulu. Ewe, uya, kwaye ndiya kuhlamba izitya. " Umzekelo, okwenyani, ibhalwa, kodwa ibonisa ngokucacileyo intsingiselo yokuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukwenza ngokuchanekileyo isicelo sakho nombuzo. Ngako oko lawula inombolo ye-1 - uthethe onke amaxesha ngamazwi angabonakaliyo, ukuba awuqiniseki ukuba baya kuqondwa.
- Ukungaqiniseki, intetho edidekile
Ziziphi iintetho ezihlala ziphulaphule? Abo bathetha ngokuzithemba, ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukuphulaphulwa, qulunqa ukuzithemba. Ukuba ngethuba le ngxoxo unenkxalabo, qalisa ukunciphisa umzimba, qhafaza uphendule impumlo yakho, ebunzini, inqanawa, ulungele iinwele okanye ikhola ye-blouse, ekugqibeleni zonke ezi zinto ziqala ukucaphukisa nokuphazamisa umnxibelelwano. Njengomthetho, abaphulaphuli bazive kakuhle xa isithethi singaqinisekanga. Ara zvakare baya kuthatha ngokungathandabuzekiyo amagama aloo mntu? Oku kuthetha ukulawula inombolo 2 - ukuqeqesha ukuzithemba.
- Ininzi yolwazi olungadingekile
Kutheni ucinga ukuba kudla ukuba kwenzeka ukuba abantu babonakala bethetha into ebalulekileyo kumntu kwaye weva, kodwa engazange ayenze? Umzekelo, tshela kumyeni wakho: "Mzalwana, ndiya kuza eNastia namhlanje emva komsebenzi, okanye umzala ka Natasha kunye noNatasha kunye nomyeni wakhe waseSt. Petersburg baya kuza kusibona, asizange sibonane ixesha elide, kwaye ikati likaMurzikdom lilambile, ukuba awuyi kuphuma kunye nabahlobo bebhola, ukuba ukutya kugcwele. " Kungenzeka ukuba ukususela kule ntshukumo yentetho umyeni wakho akayi kukuva oko kuyimfuneko ukunyusa uMurzik olambileyo. Ngoko-ke, lawula inombolo yesi-3 - "ungagxininisi" ulwazi olubalulekileyo ngobunzima beengxoxo ezingenalusizo.
Indlela yokuthetha ngokuchanekileyo
- Ngeentetho ezibalulekileyo, jonga kumntu kwiso. Oku kuya kugcina ingqalelo kwaye kukukuncede uqonde ulwazi.
- Gwema amagama-ama-parasites. Infinite "em ...", "kakuhle", "oku", "apha", njl. sivale intetho yethu kwaye sitshintshele ingqalelo kwiinkcukacha ezisisiseko. Ewe, kwaye uphulaphule umntu ofaka igama elithi "apha" okanye "ixesha elide" ngokukhawuleza, uyaba neentlungu kwaye abaphulaphuli bathuke.
- Ukudlala amagama. Kusuka kukuphi intetho esenza rhoqo siqala ukulala? Ukusuka kwizinto ezizimeleyo, ukuya kwinqaku elilodwa. Kunelungelo lokukhumbula ezinye iintetho ezithandekayo esikhungweni, xa umfundisi weeyure ezithe wachaza into ekhulelwe, ephilileyo. Nika umbala wakho wegama, utshintshe ithoni, xa ubiza intetho, uthetha ngokukhawuleza, ngoko ucebile ngokukhawuleza, ugxininise ilizwi lakho ngexesha elibalulekileyo. Misa okwimimandla ebalulekileyo kwaye abantu baya kukuphulaphula ngokuzonwabisa kunye nomdla.
- Musa ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza. Intetho ekhawulezayo ibonakala yimbi ngaphezu kokuqhelekileyo kwaye ilinganiswe, ngoko ke ukuba uthetha inyaniso, wanciphisa kancane ukuze kube lula ukuba abantu bakuve kwaye babambe intloko yencoko.
- Gwema iinqununu "kungekhona" kwingxoxo. Wonke umntu unengqondo ephikisana kakhulu. Xa into enqatshelwe, omnye uhlala efuna ukwenza yonke into echasene nayo. Ukuba ufuna ukuphulaphulwa, zitshintshe izenzi nge-particle "kungekhona" ngokuchasene nentsingiselo. Esikhundleni sokuba "musa ukuhamba" bathi "hlala", esikhundleni sokuba "ungalibali" - "khumbula", esikhundleni sokuba "ungenzi oku" - "yenza okungcono njengaye ...", njl.
Ukuba ufuna ukwenza abantu bakuphulaphule, gcina imiyalelo elula engqondweni. Ukongeza, ukuba ulandele intetho yakho, kuya kuba lula kakhulu kwiimpahla ukufumana oko ukufunayo kumntu othetha naye.