Kubafazi abaninzi, into efana neengxaki zowesifazane iminyaka engamashumi amathathu ziba yingxaki engxamisekileyo. Umfazi ufanisa imeko yangempela kunye neengcamango zakhe ngobomi kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo umfazi uzive enganeliseki ngesiphumo esiphumelele. Umfazi unomvakalelo wokuba ubomi bakhe bungenanto engenanto, kunye nesingenakaneliseki ngayo yonke into, ngenxa yeso siphene esingabonakala ngayo.
Abaninzi bayazibuza ukuba kutheni ibhinqa elineminyaka engama-30 ubudala libhekwa njengento ebalulekileyo? Ngokuqhelekileyo ngeli nqanaba, abafazi "bazibonakalisa", waba ngumkhwekazi, umfazi, umama, mhlawumbi, wayebanjwe njengengcali. Kule nkalo, uye wandise uxanduva kubantu abakujikelezile, uxanduva oluninzi. Abantwana bathatha ixesha elininzi kunye namandla, kunye nexesha elingaphantsi kunye neeklasi. Nokuba oko kwazisa umnwabo novuyo, ngoku uye waba ngumgaqo apho umntu ngokwakhe elahlekile. Uninzi lwabasetyhini ngaleli xesha lijonganisa phambili izinto ezibalulekileyo zokuphila. Ukuba ibhinqa lenzeke njengomfazi nonina, ngoko umsebenzi wakhe wobugcisa uba yinto ephambili. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba ibhinqa ibanjwe njengengcali, iqala ukuzibona njengomfazi nonina.
Kulo xesha elibalulekileyo kubalulekile ukuba ibhinqa libe ne "ngengxowa" yengqondo (nokuba isemsebenzini, ekhaya okanye phakathi kwabahlobo). Kungase kubekho ingxaki, ukuba umfazi uyavuya, umsebenzi wakhe uyamkholisa, ubudlelwane beentsapho okanye ubomi bakhe buqule kakuhle. Ngokukodwa inkathazo yeminyaka engamashumi amathathu ivakalelwa kukuba abo bafazi abangenabomi bomntu, banokungazinzi kwezobugcisa. Emva koko baqala ukuvavanya ubomi beentombi zabo, abaye benza umsebenzi omhle ebomini, banomyeni nabantwana. Kwaye ukuba umfazi engenawo "intengiso", unokudandatheka.
Emva koko ubomi bunokubonakala bubukho obungenanto, kuba akukho mntu umlindele ekhaya, kwaye ukuba udibana nomlingane nomntwana kwisitrato, ngoko ke ukuvakalelwa kwindoda engabonakaliyo kuya kwandisa ngakumbi. Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko kubalulekile ukugcina amandla omoya nokukhupha ngokwaneleyo ingxaki yobomi. Kodwa oko kungenziwa njani?
Okokuqala thanda ngokwakho, qalisa ngokwakho ukunyamekela, njengale minyaka emncinci. Qiniseka ukuba ufumane ixesha lokwenza izinto ozithandayo - zitsala, zidibanise, zulule, zifake. Ukunyamekela umzimba wakho - tyelela i-salon beauty, thabatha ibhafu. Uvuyo luza kuzisa kunye neeklasi kwikomiti (bhalisa, umzekelo, kwi-gym, kwiklabhu yempilo). Ukongezelela, isifundo asiyi kuzisa uvuyo olutsha kuphela, kodwa kunye nomfanekiso ohambelanayo.
Kuyacetyiswa okufanayo kubasetyhini abatshatileyo, kuba ukuba unyoko unemvakalelo emihle, ngoko uya kuba nako ukunika abantwana ngakumbi ngakumbi kunokuba wayecaphukile kwaye ediniwe. Kucetyiswa kwakhona ukuba abafazi abatshatileyo bavuselele ubudlelwane babo kunye neqabane zabo, ngakumbi ukuba ukutshabalalana kobudlelwane kulahlekile. Shiya abantwana ku-ugogo okanye umntu osondele kuye kwaye uye kwi-cinema kunye nomyeni wakhe, okanye kwindawo yokutyela (okanye i-candle light dinner), ngokuqhelekileyo, ulungiselele ukuhlwa kobubele. Yenza i-make-up ephawulekayo, gqoka iingubo zakho ezigqibeleleyo, uzive umkelekile kwaye umhle kwaye indoda iya kukujonga ngendlela entsha.
Ukuba umsebenzi awukuniki uvuyo kunye nokwaneliseka, kuya kufuneka ukuba utshintshe imisebenzi. Cinga ukuba uthanda ukukhetha kwakho, uze uzibuze ukuba ufuna ukuqhubeka usebenza kule ngcali okanye ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha umsebenzi wakho. Usenayo ixesha lokutshintsha umsebenzi okhethiweyo ebusheni bakho.
Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo imbangela yentlekele ingoneleliseki ebomini bakhe. Emva koko, ukuba akukho mntu osondeleyo kufuphi nomfazi, ngoko yonke into ebomini yakhe iya kubonakala ingenanto. Ungalondolozi umtshato ongaphumeleli ngenxa yabantwana, abantwana abavela kwintlanano yentsapho phakathi kwabazali abayi kuba nemihlali, kwaye umfazi uya kuba nexinzelelo kunye / okanye neurosis. Ngamanye amaxesha kukufanelekile ukuqala ubomi bobucala kunye necwecwe ecocekileyo.
Yenza konke okukuthuthuzelayo, uvuyo, induduzo, kuba ngaphandle kwakho, akukho mntu uya kukuvuyisa. Gwema nayiphi na into eyenza ukhathazeke kwaye / okanye iphazamise. Gcwalisa ubomi bakho ngemifanekiso evuyo kwaye ungacingi ukuba kukho ubunzima bebhinqa elineminyaka engama-30!