Kwaye nangona kunjalo ukuba eNtshonalanga kuye kwathethwa ixesha elide ukuba amantombazana aseRashiya ayona nto ayilungileyo kwaye enhle. Kukho impendulo eyodwa kumbuzo othi kutheni abafazi abaninzi bewuncancisayo. Kulula kakhulu, ubeka isohlwayo kwiintlobo eziqhelekileyo ezithatyathwa ngabafazi abaninzi. Siza kuhlalutya ukuba zeziphi iingxaki ezithatyathwa ngabafazi abaninzi.
Ewe, into ebaluleke kakhulu inganeliseki ngokubonakala kwakho. Nangona ngoku uthabatha nje ukuphuma kwaye udliwano-ndlebe nabaninzi abasetyhini kunye namantombazana, ngoko ngamnye wabo uya kubaxelela ngokungahambi kwabo ngokubonakala. Oku akuthethi ukuba bonke bayazibona bebububi okanye bubi, kukho phakathi kwabo bazibona njengabo, njengokuba bayazixabisa, nangona ukuba ukubonakala kwabo akukude. Oku akusebenzi kuphela kubafazi baseRussia, uphando olufanayo lunokuqhutywa kwi-Intanethi nakweyiphi na i-website yehlabathi jikelele kwaye umphumo uya kufana. Abasetyhini baneliseke ngokupheleleyo ngabo ngokwabo, ngo-20-25 ekhulwini. Bonke abanye bayazigxeka kakhulu, kubonakala kwabo. Abanelisekanga nge "belly belly", "ukungabikho kwinqeni", "isakhiwo esingafaniyo saloo nto," "imilenze ephosakeleyo," "isifuba esincinci, okanye ngokugqithiseleyo kakhulu", "isisindo esininzi", "cellulite". Kwaye olu luhlu aluphelelanga. Yintoni eyona nto inomdla kukuba ngeengxaki zabo, aba bafazi kunye namantombazana ahlupheke kwiimeko eziphantsi kwezona zinto zinokubangela uvuyo novuyo kwii-salon ezininzi zezonyango, kunye nabagqirha bezonyango. Izikhalazo ezininzi malunga nokuvela kubasetyhini, abameli abaninzi beemisebenzi bangakwazi ukufumana kule nto. Ngenxa yokuba owesibini umfazi, enganelisekanga ngokubonakala kwakhe, kufuneka afune iindlela ezilula zokusombulula ingxaki yakhe, kunye nabameli beenkampani zonyango, i-salons, nangakumbi kunjalo amagumbi okuhlinzwa eplastiki ahlala ekulungele ukunceda abafazi bafumane iphupha lokufezeka.
Singaxelela ukuba ezinye izakhiwo zingenza ngokukhawuleza abanye. Isicatshulwa sesibini, singathandwa kangako kunokuba ngowokuqala "ubunzima". Imvelaphi yale ngxaki, ngokulandelanayo, ivela kwezinye izakhiwo. Omnye wabo ukhuluphele. Isisindo esiphezulu yinkinga yekhulu lama-20 leminyaka. Le ngxaki iye yabangela imfashini kwiintlobo zezidlo. Intombazana nganye yesibini imele ihlale kwisondlo, nangona ihamba ingubo engu-44, ifuna ukulahlekelwa isisindo, kuba xa umntu ngokukhawuleza wadala i-stereotype yokuba ubuncinane bomzimba womntu, ngcono kwaye ngaphezulu libukeka selutsha.
Kodwa kakhulu kunabo bonke, kunye nenyaniso yokuba abaninzi abantu baqala ukuqwalasela okufanayo. Kwaye namhlanje, ininzi amadoda ekhetha abafazi abancinci. Bajonge kubo, kunye nabasetyhini okwangoku, bekhangele, bahlale bodwa baze baphakanyise ngokwabo iindidi ezilandelayo, kuba baqiniseke ukuba banobubi kwaye "banqabile kakhulu njengoko bacinga", akukho mntu uya kuwathatha umtshato. Baqala ukuzizonda kunye nomzimba wabo, oku kubangela ukuba baqala ukuphepha iintlanganiso kunye nabaziwayo ngesini esahlukileyo, kukho intloni ekusebenzelaneni nabantu. Abaqondi ukuba kufuneka nje ukuzithanda ukuba ungubani. Yaye zonke iziphoso zabo zenza iziqu zabo.
Ngoko, kumbuzo wokuba ubunzima besininzi sabasetyhini bahlupheka, ngaphezu kwezo zidweliswe ngasentla, sinokwenza omnye umntu, angabalulekanga, isisiseko esisisiseko sesithathu. Le yinto ebizwa ngokuba "yindlala eninzi". Uninzi lwabafazi banamahloni ngeentlanganiso ezithandana nendoda. Kwaye kwakhona, ingcambu ayineliseki ukubonakala kwayo. Abasetyhini banamahloni ukuba umntu uyambona engathembekanga kwaye, ngoko ke, abone zonke iziphoso zakhe. Kwaye le imeko ezininzi ziyingxaki enkulu kwizibini ezininzi. Kodwa kunokwenzeka ukujamelana nale ngxaki. Awuze ufune ukuzigxeka. Kufuneka uziqonde kwaye uhloniphe, kwaye amadoda ayadingeka ukuba adumise abafazi rhoqo kwaye awathulule ngamancoma.