Ungathethi ukuba bakubone, akunakwenzeka, mhlawumbi abayikukrokra malunga nobukho bakho, ukuba uye wahlala kunye nendodana yakhe ethandekayo iintsuku eziliqela, nangona iminyaka, ukulungiselela ukutya kwasekuseni, ukuhlamba, ukucoca nokujongana nayo walala ngesondo, kwaye mhlawumbi asikho. Kodwa awuyi kuva nantoni na kwesikhumba sakho, yintoni na, ukumazi nabazali. Kuvakalelwa ngathi udlala kumdlalo waseMelika. Kule meko, kuxhomekeka kumntu. Ingumyeni omele enze intetho yokulungiselela, zombini nomtshakazi kunye nabazali.
Ngethuba le ngxoxo, indoda kufuneka ixelele umtshakazi indlela eyazi kakuhle ngayo abazali bomyeni. Ekubeni ngaba ngabazali bakhe abaya kubaphulaphula ngakumbi bakhe abakhethiweyo. Kumele atshele intombazana ukuba umama-mkhwenkweza uza kukuphatha njani ubuso obomvu, umlomo obomvu emlonyeni kunye nokunye okunjalo. Ukuba uhlazileyo malunga nokhethiweyo wakho, ngoko uya kuphila kwaye akukho nto iya kuhamba ngayo. Ngethuba lethu, umcimbi ophuthumayo kubazali: ingaba intombazana itshaya, isela, isebenzisa iziyobisi, kunye nosapho oluhle, kunye nabanye ngohlobo olufanayo. Indlela yokufunda kakuhle nabazali bomyeni kuyisifundo esingunaphakade sokuxoxa. Eyona nto inokukhethayo kwintsapho (wena, umyeni kunye nabazali bakhe). Unokwenza kwakhona itafile etafuleni. Ukuba ufuna ukubenza bamangalise. Kodwa ebaluleke kakhulu, yintoni abazali abajongeyo. Yaye ngokukodwa umama-mkhwenkwe-mva, ezi zizinto ezintle. Bamele bahlawule ingqalelo kwinxalenye yakho.
Nceda ubuze isiluleko kumntu, mhlawumbi uyazi ukuba unina uyinikele ingqalelo. Ngaphantsi, kukho nantoni na. Okokuqala, ukusuka ngqo uhlala, kwaye, ekugqibeleni, nokuba uyidla yonke into kwisitya, ngokunyameko uyadla, uphuze, ngamnye ukuba uthethe njani iintuthwane entloko yakho. Ngenxa yoko, akukho mfuneko ukuba ufune ukuphakamisa isikhalazo kunye nokumemeza (ukuba uyayithanda, eqinisweni, ukhethiweyo wakho), kufuneka ukhuthazelele sonke isibindi uze uginye. Ngethuba lethu akukho mithetho ecacileyo indlela yokwenza abahlobo kunye nomtshakazi. Kodwa kukho ubulumko obunokuba bathi bahlangana ngeengubo, baze bajonge engqondweni. Kubaluleke kakhulu kubazali bomyeni kukubona okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuba uyigcine kwindawo ephakamileyo, kodwa nangona ungaphumeleli, awuyikukhathazeka. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba umntu uyakuthanda, uya kuzinto zonke, kwaye abazali baya kukuqinisekisa ukuba uyona nto ibhetele. Kwimihla yakudala kwakukho iindlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo, kungekhona ezo ndlela, kodwa izithethe ezipheleleyo ezihlobene nokuqhelana. Umntu oyintloko kwakukho umdlali wokudibanisa, owafunda konke malunga nolutsha, oko kwanikezwa njalo njalo. Kodwa le mihla, ngelishwa, le miba ayisetyenziswanga.
Ukukwazi kunye nabazali bomyeni kuyisiganeko esibaluleke kakhulu, kuba imbono yabazali ixhomekeke kule nto, kwaye oku kulungele ukuzama okuncinane. Abazali bomyeni, ngokukodwa nobawo, unokuthetha ngokulula malunga naliphi na isihloko (ukunyanzeliswa kwekhosi), buza ukuba uyihlo uyayithanda ibhola, iHockey, ukholelwa ukuba ithemba lakhe limele lilula kunomama womyeni.
Ucinga ukuba ukuzisa ulwazi kwimeko kumaphaphu, ngoko uphosakeleyo.
Yiba nesisa kubantwana. Akusoloko iqala ukucinga. Kwaye ngokubanzi, khumbula wena, bazali, ebusheni bakho. Ukuba ngokwenene awuyithandi into ethile, zama ukuxoxa ngengxaki yakho kunye nonyana wakho, ukusuka kwiso ngeso, njengoko abantu bethetha. Kule nqanaba, unelungelo lokufumana umntwana omnye, kodwa unokulahlekelwa enye.