Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ngesini esona sifanelekileyo, asikwazi ukuphumla ngokupheleleyo kwaye sinandiphe inkqubo, sinqatshwa ngeengxaki, kwaye oku kusithintela ukuba sithande. Le ngxaki mhlawumbi iyaziwa kubafazi abaninzi, makhe sicinge ngendlela onokuphazamiseka ngayo kwiingxaki ebhedini.
Sifuna ukuqala ngento yokuba siyavuma ukuba asiboni nayiphi na ingxaki kwiqabane kunye nakwiimeko zobudlelwane obusondeleyo (oko kukuthi, sifuna kuphi, kunye nobani). Kwaye iingxaki ezisithintelayo ukuba sinandiphe iingxaki ezingabonakaliyo (umsebenzi, ubomi, intsapho). Ngezantsi siza kujonga ezinye iingcebiso kunye neziphakamiso zokuziphazamisa kwiingxaki, zihlengahlengise kwisini esilungileyo kwaye ufumane unonwabo oluphezulu.
Iingcebiso 1. Uthando oluninzi.
Ngethuba lethu, ubudala obuphambukayo, xa kufuneka wenze izinto ezininzi, yonke into ayinayo ixesha elaneleyo kwaye yonke into eyenzekayo ekuhambeni, u-romance ngokuqinisekile uyanyamalala kwintsebenziswano. Yaye ngaphandle kokuthandana, isondo esinobudlobongela asiyinto engaphezu kwesigcino sokuzonwabisa. Ngoko ke, zama ubuncinane kanye emva kweeveki ezimbini ukufumana ixesha lokutshatyalaliswa kunye nokugqithana. Amakhandlela, iindidi zokudlala ezithandwayo, umculo omnandi wokuzonwabisa, zonke ezi zingqingili zesondo. Kwaye ndiya kukuqinisekisa, awuyi kucinga malunga nayiphi na ingxaki, kodwa uya kuzonwabisa.
Incomo 2. Musa ukwesaba iimvavanyo.
Ukuthandana kuhle, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kulungile, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukufumana ukubuyela ngokupheleleyo ekuthandeni. Kule meko, unokukucebisa ukuba uzame ukutshintsha ubomi bakho bobulili. Izambatho zokuzihlaziya, izinto zokudlala ngesondo, imidlalo yokwenza umdlalo konke oku kunokwenza kube lula ukuphalaza igazi kunye nesifiso esikhulayo kuzo zombini. Ngaphandle, eli cebiso lifana nelinye elidlulileyo, kodwa isitshixo salo sisona sinomdla kunye nokuthetha. Ungesabi ukusebenzisa iziganeko ezintsha, unganqikazi ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho, mhlawumbi akuyi kuba yintando, kodwa ifana namadoda kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo inomdla kakhulu.
Incomo 3. "inzara yondlala"
Yintoni evumela ukuba siphumelele ekudleni, oku akusiyo ukutya okugqibeleleyo kunye neziqholo eziqhelekileyo, yindlala yokulahla. Zama ukungabi ngesondo iintsuku eziliqela, ngaphandle kokuba unamandla okwenza oko. Yaye wena uya kubona indlela oza kutsalwa ngayo kumlingane onomdla ngaphezu kokuqhelekileyo, kwaye akukho neengxaki entloko yakho ayikwazi ukuchasa, ngoko kuthi imvelo iya kuthatha! Kulo mzekelo, into ephambili akuyikuyidlula ngokulindela kwaye iqwalasele iimvakalelo kunye neminqweno yamadoda, kodwa ndicinga ukuba ngamanye amaxesha luncedo kubantu ukuba banike umvuzo.
Iingcebiso 4. Ukuphelisa iingxaki.
Akukho mntu, akukho ngxaki, sinokuphinda sichaze eli binzana, akukho ziingxaki, akukho nto iphazamisayo! Lo mveliso uphakamisa, ukuba into ethile ikuphazamisayo, kwaye awukwazi ukuphazamiseka kuyo kwi-embhedeni, mhlawumbi akufanele utshintshe nantoni ebhedeni, kodwa kufuneka usombulule ingxaki. Cinga ngolu hlobo, ukuba kukho into ephazamisayo isisombululo esilungileyo, kulula ukuyixazulula, kanye kunye nento yonke, kwaye ungabi ncingo kwintsimi. Kwaye kwenziwa ukulinganisa kunye nokuthandana kunye nokuzonwabisa
Zonke ezi ngcebiso kunye neengcomo, njengoko sele ndacacisile, sebenza kuphela xa yonke into ikufaneleyo kumlingane. Emva kwakho konke, mhlawumbi awukwazi ukuphazamiseka kwiingxaki, kuba indoda yakho ayihambisani nomthandi. Kule meko, zonke ezi ngcebiso zingenakunceda, kwaye kule meko kuyimfuneko ukulungisa ezinye iingxaki.