Kuthekani ukuba akukho isondo phakathi kobudlelwane?

Ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, yintoni enokuba yinto enhle ngakumbi? Wonke umntu ukhumbula ukuqala kokuzalwa kobudlelwane: uvelwano, inzala, ukululabalalana, u-kiss wokuqala, umnqweno wokuhlala ujikeleze ... kwaye ngoku abanako ukuhlala ngaphandle komnye. Kukhona ukunyamekela komzimba, umnqweno wokuzonwabisa, ukuziva, ukutsala kunye kunye nokugqiba ngesondo ngqo.

Kukholelwa ukuba ukulala ngesiseko sobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, oko kuthiwa isiseko sobudlelwane. Kodwa khumbula, isondo kufuneka sifeze ulwalamano, singayifaki indawo. Kuthekani ukuba ngaba kungekho isondo kwizondlo, ukuba njani? Ngaba kukho ubudlelwane obunjalo? Ngaba banelungelo lokuhlala?

Ubudlelwane ngaphandle kobulili banelungelo lokuba khona, kodwa kuphela ukuba amaqabane aziva ekhululekile kwiimeko ezinjalo, oko kukuthi, le meko yemicimbi ifanelana namacala omabini.

Izibini ezininzi zibambene ubudlelwane obungavumelaniyo ngokwesondo. Ziyakwanela ngokubonakalisa ububele omnye komnye, uthando, ukufudumala, ukunakekelwa nokunyamekela. Ubundlobongela kubo akuyona into efunekayo kwintsebenziswano yabo, kule meko, ukungabikho kwesondo akuyi kuba yingxaki, amaqabane afumana abafakeli bezondo abayidingayo, kwaye baziva bevuya. Kwaye kuyamangalisa!

Ngokuqhelekileyo, khumbula ukuba akufanele uqhube phambili malunga nesimo sengqondo: ukuba akukho isondo kwezobudlelwane, koko kukho into engalunganga. Hlala iimvakalelo zakho neemvakalelo! Wonke umntu uneemfuno ezahlukeneyo zesini. Kwaye mhlawumbi, into yokuba enye ukungabikho kwesondo, ngokuba enye, ngokuchaseneyo, ithathwa njengobomi bobulili obukhulu kakhulu! Sonke sihluke - khumbula oku. Ngako oko, umba oyintloko akufanele ube "Kutheni kungekho belana ngesondo?", Kodwa "Ndiziva njani ngaphandle kwalo?"

Ngelishwa, ebomini kukho imimandla eyahlukileyo, xa ukungabikho kwesini kuba yingxaki. Xa ngenxa yokungabikho kwesondo, ubudlelwane buya kuncipha. Ngokuqhelekileyo amaqabane akholelwa: ekubeni akukho isondo, uthando luye lwadlula! Yintoni enokuyenza xa kungekho bulili kulwalamano, kodwa awuyithandi neze. Yiyo kanye into oyifunayo ukuyiqonda! Okokuqala, ungakhathazeki! Zama ukuqonda izizathu zokungabikho kwesondo kwaye ucinge ukuba ngubani omele uxanduva lokuba akukho isondo kwezobudlelwane. Izizathu zokungabikho kwesondo zingafani kakhulu. Mhlawumbi uneengxaki zengqondo zengqumbo okanye zengqondo, ngoko ingcali eneengcali (isazi seengqondo, isondo se-sexologist, njl njl.) Sinokukunceda amaxesha amaninzi kwaye uziva kwakhona!

Izizathu zokunqongophala kwesondo kunoku: ubudala, isimo sengqondo esibi, ukunganeliseki ngobomi, impilo (ngokuchanekileyo, ukungabikho kwayo), ukugwenxa, ukucaphuka.

Ukongezelela, esinye sezizathu kunokuthiwa kuthiwa "ukuxhaphaza ngokwesondo" Xa uwazi kwangaphambili. Yintoni kwaye kuya kwenzeka njani, kwimeko ephi. Kule meko, akunakuchukumisa ukwenza uthando. Ngokuqhelekileyo kubonakala kwiintsebenziswano ezide zisebudlelwaneni.

Kunokwenzeka ukubala izizathu zokungabikho kobudlelwane bezesondo ixesha elide, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukulungisa imeko. Akukho wesondo, mbuyise! Konke kusezandleni zakho! Faka isicelo yonke imizamo kunye nayo yonke ingcamango yakho yokubuyisela ubomi obunqunu besondo.

Zama ukuthetha ngokukhululekile kunye nomlingane, tshela ongakuthandi, thetha ngeengxaki zakho kunye neminqweno. Olu luncedo lokuqala kwiingxaki. Ungazivaleli! Zive ukhululekile ukuvula ingxoxo, ungazi ukuba uqale njani-funda iincwadi ezizodwa, kufuneka zikuncede. Zama nje ukukhetha ixesha elifanelekileyo kwintetho kunye negama elifanelekileyo. Musa ukuya kumathoni aphakamileyo kwaye ungazami ukubeka ityala lakho kuphela. Kule ngxaki, bobabini badla ngokusola. Xa uya kuba ngenyameko, kuya kuba lula kuwe kwixesha elizayo.

Yenza iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zobomi bakho bobulili, ngoko nangoko ngexesha elitsha. Yinyamekelane ngakumbi, zama ukuhlonela iminqweno neminqweno yeqabane lakho. Yenza umonde kunye neemvakalelo. Yiba nombono oqaqambileyo nakwindalo ebalulekileyo kwiqabane lakho. Mhlawumbi oku kuya kukunceda kumdlalo odlala indima, amatsha amatsha okanye nokuba indawo entsha. Unokwenza nje ukuchitha iveki yedwa kunye, uzinikele ixesha omnye komnye kwaye ke ukuthanda kwakho kuza kubuya. Kodwa ungakulibali ukuba umtsalane uvela kumntu oqeqeshwe kakuhle ojonga imbonakalo yakhe!

Ukuba iqabane lakho lifuna ukulala ngesini ngaphantsi kwakho, zama ukwenza eli xesha ukuba lingalibaleki ukuba iimvakalelo ziya kuhlala ixesha elide, de kube lixesha elizayo.

Ukuba ungazifuni ukulala ngesibindi ebomini bakho, zama ukungabi ncitshiswa ekubhekeleni kwintloko, ukukhathala kunye nomsebenzi. Unokuhlala ufumana ixesha lomntu othandekayo.

Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukungabikho kwesondo kukhulula ixesha elininzi, amandla kunye namandla, onokutshintshwa kwindlela eyahlukileyo! Ngako oko, unokwenza izinto ezisebenzayo, oko bekude bephupha ukwenza, kodwa bekungekho ixesha elaneleyo, linyeliselwe emsebenzini kwaye linyusa izinga lezemfundo, liphucula isimo sabo sezenhlalakahle. Kodwa ungahlali uphazamiseka ngonaphakade, umntu onentlonelo kwaye onokukhawuleza, njengoko eli lizayo lingachaphazela kakubi ubudlelwane bakho besondo. Kwaye enye ingcebiso ayizange uyibale wena!