Kumaxesha kaFreud, ukubonakalisa ubulili kwakungaphantsi kwesithintelo esibi kakhulu. Yaye nangona le nto yayimfuneko yendalo - kwanezwi lokuvakala ukuthetha ngalo nto yayingavunyelwe ngokuthe ngqo. Ngenxa yoko, ngenxa yokungabi naso kwempilo engokwenyama, iingxaki zengqondo zavela. Abantu bafuna ukukhululwa koluntu, ukuvuleka. Freud waza waqalisa ukuguquka. Kungekudala umba wesondo kunye nokubonakaliswa okuvulekileyo ngokwesini. Umbuzo uphendululwe.
Phantse umzekelo ofanayo, kunye nabameli abasemagunyeni abancinci. Ziyabakhusela kwaye zifuna ubudlelwane obufanelekileyo. Kwaye konke bekungekho nto ukuba ukuphazamiseka kuthathwa njengento yendalo. Enyanisweni, ukuphambukiswa okunjalo kuthathwa njengesifo. Ngaloo ndlela, abakhuseli babo bonke abantu abathandana nabasetyhini banikezela ilungelo lokugula ngengqondo. Yaye ipesenti phakathi kwabanye ababa "njengaleyo" ayinanto. Bonke abanye babenamava nje angenabuhlungu obuhlobo oluqhelekileyo lolwalamano. Kwaye ukutshintshwa kwenkcazo kwiimeko ezinjalo kuyindlela efanelekileyo yokulungelelanisa ukungaphumeleli kwabo ebomini nangaphambili. Sisabaphatha njani aba bantu? Yaye yintoni intsingiselo yenkinga?
Malunga ne ngxaki
Inguqulelo yafezwa, kodwa ingxaki yahlala enye. Kakade, yonke into ayimbi njengangaphambili, kodwa akunjalo kumnandi ukuvala ingxaki ephantsi kwengxoxo.
Ngenxa yokuba konke oku kuthethwa ngokuvulekileyo ngokucacileyo, abantu abaninzi bafumana le sihloko bengakhululekiyo. Nabo bethu banamathela kwimveli yesiqhelo, kunokuba kunzima ukuthetha ngokucacileyo ukuba bafunde ngokukhetha kwabo ngokwesondo.
Ukwabelana ngesondo kuthathwa njengononi-moni, iidemon kunye neentloni. Kwaye kuthathwa njengenxenye ngenxa yokuba kwihlabathi lanamhlanje yonke into ihamba ngokuziphatha kwezenkolo. Ukuba ucinga ngokuchanekileyo - ubulili buyimvelaphi ngamnye kuthi. Sonke siyazi indlela ukukhanya kuvela ngayo kwaye yonke into ibonakala iyimvelo. Kodwa sinamahloni ngokuziphatha kwethu ngokwesondo ngenxa yokuba iiminqweno zethu zesini zibonakala ngathi zihlazo kwaye ziphethe kakubi.
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngenye yezindlela ezibaluleke kakhulu zokuzimela, kunye nawe. Sisebenzisa ukuze sithole uthando olududuzayo okanye ukuva amandla. Kwaye xa sifumana umphumo onqwenelekayo ngoncedo lwesini, impembelelo yethu yokungathandabuli iya kwisicwangciso sesibini. Kodwa xa le ndlela iphela ukusebenza, yilapho iingxaki zethu ziqala. Izakhiwo ezikhoyo kunye namava amaninzi okuziphatha ngokwesini sonke sidibanisa ukusibonisa ukuba sitshintshela uphawu olungenanto. Kukho uhlobo oluthile lwesisu, kwaye kwiimeko ezinzima siya kwinqanaba lomfana wesini.
Ukuqaphela ukuba ukhokelo luye lwatshintsha, umntu uyifumana isizathu kunye nesizathu sokunceda. Ufumanisa le ngcaciso kwiingxaki zakhe zesondo zangaphambili. Ufumana impendulo kuyo yonke imibuzo - "Ndiyehlukile."
I-Homophobia kunye ne-homophilia
Umbutho uye wahlala ekholelwa kwiinjongo ezithile, imilinganiselo esekwe. Kwaye xa kwakukho abo abangazange bahambisane nale migangatho, uluntu lwabo ludelela kwaye lubazonda. Ngaloo ndlela kwakhiwa iintlobo ezininzi zokunyakaza kunye nokunye. Uluntu lufuna ukukhusela iingcamango zalo.
Ngoko kwenzeka apha. Iingcamango zethu zibekwe ukuba uthando lwesini esingaqhelekanga, luyinto enyanyekayo, abantu abanjalo kufuneka bahlaselwe. Umbutho uyaxhalaba xa ebona "engavamile", ongenamahloni 'ngokungaqhelekanga' kwakhe, ebonisa ukuba umyalelo.
Ngoko kukho abachasene nabancinci bezesondo.
Abo baxhasa uthando lwangqingili, nje bafuna ukubonisa inkxaso nenkxwabo. Sonke siyazi ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuvakalelwa kwenceba, inceba. Kwaye ukukhuthaza abancinci bezesondo bazama ukubonelela ngenkxaso, beqonda ukuba aba bantu baneengxaki abazifihla emva kokuphazamiseka kwabo. Ngaloo ndlela, abo abachasene namadoda angama-gay, zama ukukhusela abo uluntu olwenqatshiwe.
Ngamanye amagama, ukuvunyelwa kwesondo lomntu kuyindlela enhle yokuzikhethela ilungelo lakhe lokulala ngesondo. Ukukholisa abanye ukuba ukungafani kwabo ngokwesondo kuqhelekileyo, sinika ukukhanya okuluhlaza kwizinto zabo zokukhetha ngokwesondo. Ukukholisa ukuqheleka kwabanye, nathi sinokuqiniseka ngoku.
Kukho abanye-abantu abaqhelekileyo, bavumelana kunye nabo kwaye abanandaba nangomnye umntu. Ewe, ewe, kukho abantu abangaqhelekanga, ngokuqinisekileyo, abananto into ebomini, bahlala benandipha into abenzayo - ngoko. Kwaye akazimisele ukukhusela okanye ukugatya ukuphazamiseka. Oku kusemgangathweni.