Uphika umtshato?

Ikhowudi yeeNtsapho yangoku ye-Russian Federation iqulethe umthetho othi kwezinye iimeko zikhusela ilungelo lomyeni xa engavunyelwa umtshato. Ngokutsho kweCandelo le-17, indoda ayifanele ifake umtshato xa ikhulelwe ngumfazi kwaye emva kokuzalwa komntwana ngaphandle konyaka ngaphandle kwemvume yeqabane lakhe.

Xa umtshato uqatshelwe

Lo mgaqo uyamkelwa ukukhusela iimfuno zomama nomntwana, ngoko akukho mfuneko kulo mgaqo apha. Kwakhona, indoda ayikwazi ukufaka ifayile yokuqhawula umtshato xa umntwana engazange afumane unyaka omnye aze aphile nootatomkhulu wakhe, ngokwahlukileyo kubazali bakhe.

Lo mgaqo uya kusebenza kwimeko xa kuya kuqinisekiswa ukuba indoda ayiyiyo uyise womntwana. Kule meko, umthetho awunakucala, kuba uyaziwa ukuba amava anxulumene nomtshato kunye nokuqhawula ngokwawo angabikho kwimpilo yomntwana nonina. Kunzima ukucinga ukuba indlu iya kuzinza, ukuba umyeni ngesicelo somthetho kufuneka atshate nomfazi ongazange agcine ukuthembeka komtshato. Omnye unokuphela nje ukuba nethemba lokuba umfazi, phantsi komthetho, uya kwenza ngobulumko kwaye akayi kugcina umyeni wakhe emtshatweni. Emva koko ithuba lokuba umntwana akhule kwindawo ezolileyo uya kunyuka kakhulu.

Indoda ingafanelanga ukuba ifake umtshato xa umntwana efile, engazange afinyelele kwiminyaka emnye, okanye wazalwa efile. Ngenxa yokuba ibhinqa elahlekelwe ngumntwana lisesimweni esinzima sengqondo kwaye ifuna ukukhuselwa kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo.

Ukuze umyeni aqalise ityala lomtshato emva kokuzalwa komntwana ngunyaka wokuqala wobomi okanye ngexesha lokukhulelwa, umfazi kufuneka amnike imvume yokuqhawula umtshato, okufuneka ayenayo ngokubhaliweyo.

Ukuba kufuneka uqhawule umtshato kwiofisi yokubhalisa, kuyimfuneko ukuba umfazi, kunye nomyeni wakhe, afake isicelo sokuqhawula umtshato. Kwisicelo somyeni, umfazi makenze kuphela umbhalo othi umfazi akaphikisana nokuqhawula umtshato. Ukuba akukho migaqo edibeneyo yabalingani okanye umyalezo ohambelana nesicelo awukwenziwanga, abasebenzi bombhalisi bayayenqaba loo mntu ukuba yamkele ingxelo enjalo.

Xa indoda isebenza enkundleni yokuqhawula umtshato, umfazi wenza ingxelo ebhaliweyo yesitatimende somyeni wakhe okanye afake isicelo kwimeko yokuba umyeni akaphikisana nokutshatyalaliswa komtshato. Yonke into amaRussia ayidinga ukuqhawula umtshato kukuba ufumane imvume yomlingane ngokuqhawula umtshato. Kukho imeko xa esinye isizathu okanye omnye umfazi wenqaba ukuvuma umtshato. Omnye u nethemba lokuba unako ukusindisa intsapho, akusiyo yonke into elahlekileyo kwaye okokuqala uzama ukugcina umyeni ngoncedo lomntwana. Omnye akafuni ukuvumela umyeni wakhe aphinde athole uvuyo kunye nomnye umfazi kwaye uya kumgaqo. Omnye uloyiko lokuba yedwa ngaphandle kwenkxaso yempahla. Kuwo onke amabhinqa, izizathu zokugatya zingafani. Kubalulekile ukufikelela kunye nokucacisa kubasetyhini, ukungabikho kobudlelwane obusondeleyo, kodwa ubundlobongela abafazi abazizithulu ngeengxabano ezahlukeneyo zamadoda.

Kule meko, amanye amadoda azinikela, abanye bachaphazela isigqibo somfazi ukubuyela kummeli weentsapho. Igosa liyakwazi ukuqonda le meko kwaye ibonise iintlobo zokuqhawula umtshato eziza kumfazi, zikhuphe zonke ukwesaba kwakhe, ziphendule imibuzo malunga nokugcinwa kwezinto zomntwana nomfazi. Uya kumnceda ukuba abone ukuba le ndoda ayiyi kugcina ubudlelwane obusondeleyo naye. Kwaye kuya kuba ngcono ukuhamba, kwaye kungabi ukuwugcina ngamandla. Nangona umyeni wakhe wayedla ukuthetha oku ngaphambili, kodwa akazange avelelwe. Kodwa igqwetha elichanekileyo nelinenembeko linamathuba amaninzi okuzisa ingqondo yowesifazane onengqiqo kwaye iyakwazi ukunqoba intshutshiso yakhe.