Ukwahlukana kuyinkqubo ebuhlungu kubo bonke abathathi-nxaxheba, bobabini kunye nabazali. Kule xesha elixakekileyo, umntwana uhlaselwa ngumsindo.
Abazali bafanele baqonde ukuba basengabantu abaluleke kakhulu ebomini babo kunye neqhawulo-mtshato akufanele kube negalelo elikhulu ekunxibelelaneni nomntwana.
Iimvakalelo zezingane kunye nomtshato
Kubo bonke abantwana, iingxaki zengqondo zikhula xa zilahlekelwa ukudibana nomnye wabazali.
Ukuba umtshato ungenakunqandwa, ngaba abazali kufuneka baqwalasele iimfuno zomntwana, ukuze ulawulo lwakhe lube luzinzile kwaye lulinganise.
Ukunyamekela kunye nokuqwalaselwa kwabantu abadala emva kokuqhawula umtshato kuya kunceda abantwana bathwale le nkxwaleko enzima ngokulula.
Ukunceda umntwana emva komtshato
Emva kokuqhawula umtshato, abo baqala ukutshatana nabo baqhagamshelana.
Kodwa xa kuziwa kumntwana, kufuneka basebenzisane kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba imfuno yomntwana kwaye uyayinyamekela. Abantu abadala akufanele baxoke baze bafihle ubuhlobo bokwenene babazali bakhe. Ukunyaniseka kuyisiqinisekiso sokuhlonipha kunye nentembelo phakathi kwabantu. Musa ukufumana ubuhlobo kwaye ungafungi kumntwana.
Lungiselela umntwana wakho ngenguqu oluya kwenzeka ebomini emva kokuqhawula abazali. Qinisekisa umntwana ukuba uqhawulo-mtshato alukho ngenxa yephulo lakhe.
Thetha kumntwana. Ncedise ukuba aqonde isizathu sokuqhawula umtshato. Mkholise ukuba ubudlelwane kunye nomama nobaba kwiindawo zabo ezizayo aziyi kutshintsha.
Ukufumana uncedo lobuchule
Nangona abanye abantwana bejamelana noxinzelelo emva kokuqhawula umtshato kunye noncedo lwabahlobo kunye nabahlobo, abanye banokuthatha uncedo lomcebisi oqeqeshelwayo osebenza ngamava kwiintsapho eziqhekekileyo. Ezinye izikolo zinika amaqela enkxaso kubantwana abanjalo, oku kunceda ukuxoxa ngeemeko eziye zavela. Abazali banokuqhagamshelana nomcebisi ukuba bafumane ukuba luncedo luni. Okokuqala, abazali kufuneka baqhubeke besebenza kwinqanaba elincomekayo lomntwana kwaye balungiselele ukuba imiqondiso yoxinzelelo kumntwana ingaba ngumphumo wokuqhawula umtshato.
Uqhagamshelwano emva komtshato
Amama kufuneka avumele abantwana babo baxoxe noyise emva komtshato. Ukuba abantwana bafuna ukuthetha nomyeni wakho wangaphambili, akufanele uphazamise. Emva kwakho konke, abazali bahlala bebazali, nangona baxabana phakathi kwabo. Isizathu sokuqhawula umtshato sibazali kuphela, kodwa kungekhona abantwana. Abantwana kufuneka babone uyise, bahambe naye, babelane ngeengxaki zabo kunye nempumelelo.
Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, abantwana abancinci banako ukunyamezela ukuhlukana komzali kunabantwana, ngoko zama ukunikela ingqwalasela ingakumbi kumntwana kwaye unikezele ixesha lakho lokukhulula. Oku kuya kunceda ukunqoba imeko exinzelelekileyo ngexesha elifutshane. Umama (ekubeni iimeko ezininzi zihlala kunye naye), kufuneka uxoxe ngakumbi nabantwana, uthande umdla ebomini nasemva kweeyure zesikolo. Umntwana uya kuziva ukuba kufuneka kwaye uyathandwa, ukuba ngexesha lokuqhawula umtshato kuyimfuneko kuye. Fumana amagama alungileyo ukuze umdumise, ukuvuya kunye naye nempumelelo yakhe. Ungaphuthelwa umzuzu ukumanga nokukhathaza intombi yakho okanye unyana. Ukuzixhasa kule miba yobomi bunzima ngumsebenzi wakho oyingcwele.
Ukunxibelelana nomntwana emva kokuqhawula umtshato kufuneka kwenzeke kunye nabazali bobabini. Naphezu kokuhlambalaza, umntu makangamvumeli umntwana, ubone uyise. Ungaze umxelele ngokungcatshwa ngumama wakho ukuba ufuna ukubona uyise. Umntwana uyakuthanda kwaye uya kuhlala emthanda abazali bobabini, nangona imeko yangoku.
Izibini ezitshatileyo eziqhawule umtshato zibophekile ukuba zivumelane ngendlela efanelekileyo ngokuphathelele iintlanganiso kunye nabantwana.
Abantwana abanakuhlukana njengendawo yokuhlala. Emva koko, abantu abancinci badinga ukunakekelwa, uthando kunye nenkxaso yabantu abadala. Imiba yokunxibelelana nabantwana emva kokuqhawula umtshato isisombululo ngasinye. Isisombululo sale meko akufanele sihlanganiswe nezifiso zobuqu kunye nokuzithemba. Cinga ngeminqweno yabantwana abafuna ukuthetha kunye neentsapho zabo, nokuba ngaba ngabaziwayo kwabanye.
Ukuba umfazi okanye umyeni akaboneleli ithuba lokuthetha nabantwana emva kokuqhawula umtshato, isigqibo esisodwa esifanelekileyo singathathwa enkundleni.
Funda kwakhona: indlela yokufaka umtshato, ukuba kukho umntwana