- ukwesaba ukuba ulwalamano lwakho lwekamva aluyi kuhamba, njengoko ungathanda kwaye kuya kufuneka uqale ulwalamano olutsha ukususela ekuqaleni;
- ukwesaba ukuba unamathele kakhulu kumntu, uze ube nenxenye naye. Kule meko, kwakhona kufuneka uthathe ikhosi yokuthatha i-antidepressants;
- ukwesaba ukuba awuyi kuba ngumfazi oyingqayizivele, oyintanda kunye neyomfuneko kuye, kwaye emva koko, iminyaka ithatha umthwalo wabo;
- ukwesaba ekuthintaneni nomzimba - ngakumbi xa uhamba;
- Ukwesaba indlela izalamane zakho kunye nezihlobo zakho eziya kuthathwa ngayo xa ukhetha.
Ukuze uqalise ulwalamano olutsha kufuneka ubalekele ubuhlobo obudala kunye nomyeni wakho wangaphambili. Ukwenza oku, shiya yonke into ekhumbuza ulwalamano lwakho lwangaphambili kunye nendoda yangaphambili. Emva kokulibala konke, usenokucinga ngokukwenza ubomi bakho bube bhetele. Kwaye abantu baziva bebona xa umfazi elungele ulwalamano olutsha kwaye ngoko ke unokuza kuwe ukudibana. Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa emva kobudlelwane bokugqibela ukuzama utshintsho oluthile ebomini: utshintshe iinwele zakho, utshintshe indlela yakho yeengubo, ubhalisele umdaniso okanye ungene kwimpilo. Ngako oko, ngokukodwa ukhe ukhohlwe yonke into edibene nomntu wakho wangaphambili, ngokukhawuleza ubomi bakho obuvuyayo buya kuqala ukulungiswa.
Kuninzi ukwesaba kunye nokwesaba, ngenxa yokuba ngaba besetyhini banokwenza ulwalamano olutsha. Kodwa zonke ezo ntswelo zivela ngenxa yothando lwakho olunzulu. Emva kwakho konke, wena, ukunyuka kwiikratshi ezigubungelayo, ungalindeli kulolu hlobo oluthile lwoluvo olukhulu. Kule meko, unokuwela kwaye uhluthe amadolo akho. Kwaye ukuba uyayesaba konke oku kubomi bakho, ngoko ungazibamba into yokuzonwabisa. Ngokufanayo, ngobudlelwane: de kube uqala-awazi.
Ukwesaba nokwesaba kuvela kukungabikho kokuqonda kwabantu kunye neqondo eliphantsi lobungqina bakho, kodwa konke kuza namava. Ngoko ke, iingcali eziqeqeshelwayo zicebisa ukuba zingakheli iingcamango ezikhethekileyo malunga nokuba yiyiphi indoda ekumele ibe yindoda kunye nendlela ubuhlobo bakho bufanele buqhube ngayo. Naliphi na ibhinqa kufuneka nje kwaye ngaphandle kokwesaba iqale ulwalamano olutsha nabafana - ukufumana indlela abacinga ngayo, ukuphupha, ukuthandana, ukusebenza, okoyiko, njl njl. Yiba nolwazi ngokukhethekileyo kunye nokunyamekela ekunxibelelaneni, zama ukufunda okungakumbi malunga nalo mntu. Uya kuqonda konke oku kwinkqubo yoqhagamshelwano kwaye akudingeki ukwakha naziphi na izicwangciso zokuphuhlisa ubuhlobo bakho.
Funda ukuthetha nabantu, cela imibuzo eninzi kwaye uphulaphule, xa bakuxelela into ethile - vula kwaye ukhululeke. Unxibelelwano lube luncedo, xa uwedwa, kwaye luxabiseke kakhulu kumntu.
Musa ukucinga malunga nokuba kusemva kakhulu ukuba uqale ulwalamano olutsha, kuba wonke umntu unolwazi kweli hlabathi, kwaye amadoda alungile. Kodwa ngenxa yoko kufuneka uqhagamshelane rhoqo, wenze iziqhelana ezintsha, kwaye ngokubanzi uphumelele ebomini.
Abanye besetyhini bazibophelela ngezinto ezahlukeneyo, nje ukuba bangacingi ngobuhlobo babo obudlulileyo kunye nomntu wakho wangaphambili kunye nokusekwa kwento entsha. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukubi ukuqhuba amanyathelo amaninzi ngekanye, kodwa kusenjalo kufuneka ubeke ixesha kwixesha lakho elinzima ukuze wenze ulwalamano olutsha.
Ngaloo ndlela, ukususela ekugqibeleni, isiphelo esiphezulu sinokutsalwa ukuba akukho mfuneko yokwesaba ubudlelwane obutsha. Khumbula ngoyiko lwakho kunye nokwesaba uze ukhumbule ukuba ukuba ungazami ukuziqala, ngoko ke ubomi bakho buya kuzisola. Yiba nzima, yiba yinkosikazi yakho kwaye uza kuphumelela!