Iingxabano zentsapho malunga nezingane ziqhelekile. Oku kuphakamisa umbuzo onzima, ngubani oya kuhlala umntwana emva komtshato? Ubunzima obukhulu obuvela ngexesha loqhawulo lomtshato kukuba umntwana unokuhlala kunye nomnye wabazali. Ukuba indoda kunye nomfazi emva kokuqhawula umtshato baye bahlala bebudlelwane obuhle kwaye baqhubeka bexubana phakathi kwabo, bavame ukubonwa, nangona kunjalo, indlela endala yobomi iza kuhlala ihlala njalo kwixesha elidlulileyo kuwo onke amalungu entsapho. Njengomthetho, abantwana bahlala kunye nonina. Nangona oku akusoloko kuthathelwa ingqalelo iminqweno neminqweno yomntwana.
Isiseko sempikiswano ekunqumeni ngubani oza kuhlala nomntwana emva kokutshatyalaliswa komtshato kukungqubana phakathi komyeni nomfazi wangaphambili. Nangona kunjalo ukuba amalungelo abazali phantsi kwemithetho yeRussia Federation ayifanayo, enkundleni ngokuqhelekileyo indawo yokuhlala iyakunikwa ngumama. Nangona kunjalo, akuyimfuneko ukuthatha isenzo somgwebo esele sikhokelo. Ngokuhambelana nesicatshulwa seKhowudi yoLuntu yaseRashiya, ukuhlala, ngokuqwalasela ukuhlukana kwabazali, kusekwa ngesivumelwano phakathi kwabazali.
Ukuba ngaba abazali abazange bafikelele kwisivumelwano, impikiswano phakathi kwabo isisombululo senkundla. Xa usenza isigqibo, inkundla kufuneka iqhubeke kwiminqweno yomntwana, inikwe uluvo lwakhe. Ukongezelela, xa ucinga ngolu hlobo, inkundla kufuneka ithathe ingqalelo ekuncediseni umntwana kumntwana nonina, odade kunye nabazalwana, ubudala bomntwana, iimpawu zokuziphatha zabazali, ubudlelwane obukhoyo phakathi komama nomntwana kunye nobaba kunye nomntwana, ithuba lokubonelela iimeko ezimnandi zokuphuhliswa nokukhuliswa komntwana umzekelo, imeko yemali yabazali, uhlobo lomsebenzi, uhlobo lomsebenzi, njl.).
Xa uqikelela apho umntwana uya kuhlala khona emva kokuqhawulwa kwabazali, ukuthatha inxaxheba ngokuthe ngqo kwiinkathalo ezifanelekileyo, ukukhuliswa komntwana kunye nokunye kubalulekile.
Kubalulekile ukuba phawula ukuba enkundleni ininzi abazali bathetha ngokunyamekela abantwana kubazali nootatomkhulu, ekubonweni kwabo sisisiseko esibalulekileyo sokumisela indawo apho abantwana baya kuhlala khona. Kule ngxabano, inkundla ivame ukungazithembi, kuba ngabazali abangamalungu kwimpikiswano kwinkcazelo yokuhlala, kungekhona abanye abantu.
Kwakhona, abanye bakholelwa ngephutha ukuba into ephambili ekuqaliseni indawo yokuhlala yokuhlala yimeko yepropati yomnye wabazali. Nangona kunjalo, kuyafaneleka ukuba siqaphele ukuba isiseko senkundla yokumisela ukuba umntwana uya kuhlala phi emva kokuba umtshato ungabikho ukukhusela iimfuno zabazali, kodwa ukukhusela iimfuno zomntwana, amalungelo akhe.
Yingakho kubakho ngokwaneleyo, ukuba kukho ukungafani kwimali yabazali, inkundla yenza isigqibo malunga nokuhlala kwabantwana abanomzali onomlinganiselo omncinci wenzuzo kunomnye umlingane. Esi sigqibo senkundla silawulwa, njengomyalo, kukuba umzali onomvuzo ophezulu unamaxesha asebenzayo amaninzi kwaye asebenze ngokungahambelaniyo, ukuhamba kwexesha elide kunye nexesha eliqhelekileyo, okwenza kube nzima ukubonelela ngononophelo kubantwana abangaphantsi kunye nokukhuliswa kakuhle.
Ukungavumelani okuqhelekileyo kukukhathalela ukuba umzali omnye akavumeli umzali wesibini ukuba axhumane nomntwana emva kokuqhawula umtshato. Isiseko salo mkhuba luyiyo mpazamo yokuba umzali ohlala ngokuhlukana nomntwana, emva kokuqhawula umtshato, ulahlekelwa ngumzali. Nangona kunjalo, oku akunjalo.
Ukuvela kwamalungelo omzali kunye nokupheliswa kwawo akuhambelani nokuba indoda okanye ibhinqa isatshatile okanye hayi.
Ngokomxholo weNkcazo yoLuntu yaseRashiya, umzali ohlala nomntwana akanalo ilungelo lokuphazamisana nomnxibelelwano womzali wesibini nomntwana, ukuba unxibelelwano olunjalo aluyikulimaza indlela yokuziphatha, yengqondo kunye / okanye yempilo yomntwana. Yona kuphela inkundla enokukwazi ukucacisa oko umzali akwenza kakubi, kwaye akukho mzekelo ungumzali wesibini.
Ukuba omnye wabazali wenqabe ukuvumela ixesha lokunxibelelana nomntwana kumzali wesibini, inkundla inokumisela umzali onetyala ukuba angaphazamisi umnxibelelwano. Umzali ongahlali nomntwana unelungelo lokukwazi into eyenzekayo nomntwana wakhe, kuquka ukufumana ulwazi kwiinkonzo zonyango, zemfundo namanye amaziko.