Ingxaki enye: yengqondo. Emva koko, umntwana akayidodoli, edlalwa kwi-mezzanine. Le ndoda encinci ihlala rhoqo, iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku kufuna ukunakekelwa kwaye uziqwalasele. Kwaye kwintsapho kukho imeko enzima: abazali abancinci, abajwayele ukuziphilisa kunye nomnye nomnye, ubunzima obunzima buya kwakhiwa kwakhona kwindlela entsha yokuphila. Ngokutsho kweentlalo-ntsapho, iintsapho zanamhlanje, njengomthetho, azikhawulezi ukuba zithole i-posterity: kuqala, ukuphucula ikhaya, ukuhamba, ukuhamba kunye kuphela-ukuzalwa komntwana. Ukongezelela, kudla ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba iimbono zokukhuliswa kwesizukulwana esincinane kubazali bazo azihambelani ngokubanzi. Ngoko ke, nangona umntwana ekulindelwe ixesha elide, kunjalo nokuqhawula umtshato emva kokuzalwa komntwana.
Ingxaki ezimbini: ubudlelwane bezesondo. Ayikho imfihlo yokuba ngokukodwa kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi, umntwana ufuna ukunakekelwa rhoqo, ngokukodwa kumama: kukutya okuqhubekayo, kubandakanya ukutya ebusuku, nokuguqula i-diapers, ukulungiselela ukutya kwezingane, kunye nokuzibandakanya nje. Utata omncinci, nangona anikezela ngoncedo olunokwenzeka kumfazi wakhe - ukuhlamba, ukusetyana, ukuthenga ukutya, usatshintshi indlela yobomi ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye kaninzi akaqondi ukuphazamiseka kweentlanzi, ukukhathala komfazi kunye nokungafuni kwakhe ukwenza uthando, njengoko kwakuqhelekileyo ngaphambi kokuba kufika ilungu elitsha lentsapho.
Ngapha koko, umfazi wakhe owayengumfazi omhle kwaye wayenomdla ngokukhawuleza wayeka ukumlandela, ukulahlekelwa ngumtsalane wakhe, kunye nesisu sakhe namathanga kukho "ukugqithisa emva kokubeleka". Kwaye indoda iqala "ukujonga kwicala," akusiyo imfihlelo yokuba zizele ngokuzithandela kwabasetyhini abakhulu ngaphandle kweengxaki. Ngoko ukutshatyalaliswa emva kokuzalwa komntwana - into eqhelekileyo, eyona nto ingayimfuneko yokuqhawula umtshato.
Ingxaki yesithathu: izinto. Ewe, ukuba ingeniso yendoda yakhe ayifuni ukuvela "kweengxaki zemali zentsapho", kodwa, ngokomthetho, kwintsapho ephakathi le ngxaki ivela, ntsho! kaninzi. Ayikho yonke intsapho eyamkela umlinganiselo "kunye neendleko zezingane zokunciphisa ingeniso yabafazi" ngeentlungu. Umtshato uhlambalaza uyise wentsapho ngenxa yokungaphumeleli, nguye yena-ngenxa yokungahambi kakuhle. Ngenxa yoko - ukunganeliseki omnye kunye nobomi bentsapho ngokubanzi, ukuxabana kunye nesiphumo - umtshato.
Ngaba unokuthintela umtshato emva kokuzalwa komntwana? Impendulo ayinakucala - inokwenzeka kwaye iyimfuneko! Emva koko, umntu omncinci uyimfuneko kwaye umama noyise. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezilula kodwa eziyimpumelelo.
Yiba nomonde omnye komnye, musa ukuqala kwiintlobo. Ngokukhawuleza, faka indima yabazali kwaye ujabulele. Zivakale ukuba ucinga ukuba ngonyaka okanye ezimbini kwixesha elikhululekile liya kuba ngaphezulu, ubomi buya kuhlahla ngokuqhelekileyo. Abasetyhini banokululeka ukuba bahlale bemeko kwaye bahlale bekhohlisa indoda, amadoda - ukuqonda ngokuqonda ukukhathala komfazi kunye nomntwana oxakekileyo.
Musa ukutshatyalaliswa ngokwesondo kunye nokuzama ukuyidibanisa, kuba kubasetyhini abaninzi emva kokuzalwa kobunzima bovuko. Yabelana ngemisebenzi yakho yasekhaya, ukuba kunokwenzeka, kwisiqingatha. Musa ukunxibelelana nabahlobo (emva koko, emva kwenyanga ubudala banokumenywa ngokwabo, ukugcina imithetho yokucoceka). Ubusuku obuhlangeneyo buhamba nomntwana basondele kakhulu kwaye bahamba ngendlela yothando. "Uya kukhula njani, le ncinane?" "Ewe, inene, kwaye siya kuba nekratshi ngaye!" Suka, kuba ngabazali - injabulo!