Isibonakaliso sokuqala sokuba ulwalamano lwakho luya kuphelisa, luhlobo lwabahlobo bakhe. Ukuba abahlobo bakho bebhinqa bahlala bexubana nawe ngaso sonke ixesha, babelane ngeendaba kunye neemfihlelo kwaye ngokukhawuleza bayeka ukunxibelelana nawe, ngoko kufuneka ucinge ngobuhlobo bakho. Mhlawumbi abahlobo bakhe sele bekwazi ukutshintsha kwexesha elizayo kulwalamano lwakho kwaye bazama ukukrazuka kude nawe.
Le meko ingaba nzima nakakhulu: intombi yakho ikumisa ekumemele ukuya kwimibutho kunye neentlanganiso ohlala kuzo. Nangona unobungane kakhulu kunye nabahlobo bakho beentombi, ngaba aba bahlobo bakho baya kukhetha phakathi kwakho. Emva kobudlelwane buphela kunye nabahlobo bakhe, ngokuqhelekileyo bakhethe elinye icala kunye neyona nto ibhinqa. Ngoko ke, ukuba intombi yakho iphendule umbuzo othi "uza kuchitha njani ngeveki?" Ukuba uya kuchitha kunye nabahlobo bakhe, ngoko unokwenza ulungelelaniso lwezobudlelwane.
Enye impawu yokuphuka ubudlelwane kukutshintsha kwimeko yakho kwindlu yakho. Ukuba izinto ngokukhawuleza ziqala ukunyamalala kwindlu yakho, njengebhokisi lezinyo, i-t-shirt eyintandokazi kunye needivaysi kunye nama-comedies akhe athandwayo awakhutshwa ngaphambili, oku kungumqondiso ocacileyo kwizinto osuke uzinqwenele ukuzenza kwaye uza kutshatyalaliswa kungekudala " mahala ". Ngokuqinisekileyo, konke oko kubangelwa ukuba intombazana yakho yenza nje ukucoca kwendawo yakho kwaye kungekudala yonke into iya kuhlaselwa, kodwa, ngokusemthethweni, ezi zinto azibuyiswa kule ndawo. Esi sibonakaliso sokuphuka kwezobudlelwane kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye esi sisilumkiso sokugqibela ngaphambi kokuhlukana.
Abantu abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba ukuxabana okuqhubekayo kunye nokudabuka nje kukungabikho ubudlelwane obubi phakathi kwabantu ababini. Kwaye ukuba ngokukhawuleza le ngxabano kunye nokucaciswa kobudlelwane buphela, oku akuthethi ukuba konke kulungile kakuhle kwiintsebenziswano zakho, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, kufuneka uhlaziye i-alamu kwaye uqale ukulungisa imeko njengoko kunjalo, kuba mhlawumbi umfazi wakho ozithandayo uye wagqiba yonke into yakhe kwaye akayi kuyenza ingqondo yakhe nayiphi na indlela u nxalenye. Ukuba intombazana yakho iphelile ukuvusa okanye ukucaphukisa ezo zinto wayenokuzibona ngaphambili, ngoko kubonakala ukuba ubuhlobo bakho buphelile ngokupheleleyo.
Ngenye yale mpawu ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye ikunike isizathu sokuqala ukukhathazeka, kwaye ukuba ezi zibonakaliso zinkqubo enzima, ithetha ukuba ubuhlobo bakho bubuqili obunzima kwaye kufuneka uyenze into malunga nayo kwaye uyisombulule, kuba awunaso ixesha. Kubonakala kulula ukuba abanye bavumelane ukuphula ubudlelwane kunokuba babalekele kwimigaqo yabo, kodwa kusadingeka usebenze kule mimpawu, ngenxa yokuba uqhubeka udibanisa olu lwalamano, kunzima kwaye kunzima kuwe ukuba uphumelele ekuqhekekeni kobudlelwane.
Ukuqinisekisa ukuba ezi ngxaki azivuki, zombini iinqunithi kufuneka ziqaphele ngesiqingatha sawo: ziqwalasele iimbono, yenza ezinye izinto, ungayikhohlwa malunga nokuncoma, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uyonakalisa iindidi zeentyatyambo.
Ukuba nithandana, ngoko-ke nganye yesahlulo kufuneka ihambisane kunye kwaye ukuba uyahambelana nazo zonke ezi ngcebiso, ngoko ulwalamano lwakho luya kulawula kuphela uthando nokuqonda!