Yinto enye, xa unesithandwa, udibana naye ixesha elide. Yonke into ibonakala ihamba kakuhle. Ubuhlobo bakho bukhula ngokukhawuleza. Uhlangene imini nobusuku, kunye kunye neeholide, uchitha iiholide kunye kunye neeholide, abazali bakulindele into ebaluleke ngakumbi kuwe, njengomtshato. Uyaqonda ukuba ulwalamano lwakho kunye nalo mfana alusekho kule ncazelo.
Ukuqhathaniswa nomntu wephupha lakho liphupha elibi kakhulu, elingenakukwazi ukuliphupha ngcaciso. Luthando. Kwaye apha kule ndawo kwenzeka into eyingozi: ukugwenxa, ukungcatsha okanye enye into engavamile. Ingqungquthela iphelile ebusuku. Ewe, le ngxaki. Unzima, ngesiphumo esingalindelekanga kunye nemiphumo. Kodwa kukho "kodwa" apha. Ngabathengi, ngokwenene, bahlukana. Nonke niyayiqonda: loo mntu uyindoda, kwaye uxhoba. Ubudlelwane buqhubeka nokungaqondi. Kwaye uhola zakho iinjongo. Icandelo kunye nenqaku. Omnye ushiya intloko ephakamileyo, kodwa abantu abalinganisekile ngokwengqondo bambalwa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngaphambi kokuhlukana, intombazana yenza uhlalutyo olunzulu lweenqwelo. Ngaloo ndlela kuphela, enokuziqhayisa kwaye ecaphukile, uyahamba. Le nguqulo yokuhlukanisa icacile kwaye ilula, kungakhathaliseki ukuba isingeniso esivakalayo.
Yaye yintoni oyenzayo kulabo abasenalo ulwalamano ekuqaleni. Ngesizathu esithile, baqhubeka baze baqhube. Kuyingxenye? Oku kuba yinto ebalulekileyo kakhulu. Kodwa indlela yokwenza oku, indlela yokwenza inxaxheba kunye nomfana, ukuba ubuhlobo buqhubela phambili kwaye abuyi kubangela intlungu? Ndiyingozi gqitha ukuba ndiwuthathe uxanduva olunjalo. Kulula xa umfana engekho nentshisekelo ekuqhubekeni "ngothando" olunjalo. Nantsi yonke into ixazululwa ngokukhawuleza kwaye ingenabuhlungu kwimiba yomibini.
Kodwa kwenzeka ukuba olu budlelwane lunzima kuphela. Kule meko, amaninzi amantombazana ayawayika kwaye aphelelwe ithemba. Indlela oyithandayo ayiyikugqiba isigqibo, kodwa kuqala ukugqithisa zonke iingxaki zakho kumntu: iintombi, oomama. Ukuphulaphula iingcebiso zabo "zokwenza" kunye ... Wenze njalo nangendlela yakho. Ngoku kuye kwanyusa ukukhangela indawo ye-Intanethi, ukukhukula iifom zowesifazane kunye neendaba zabo zentliziyo kunye nokubuza: njani? Kwaye uqala ukuqala. Ngakolunye uhlangothi lwemeko, abantu abangaqhelekanga ngokupheleleyo, ngokuqinisekileyo bona banqatshelwe ngandlela-thile, xa bechitha ixesha behambisa isiluleko samahhala kunye nangaphandle, baxhomekeka ngeengcamango.
Unqwenela ukunceda "ushiye umntu ukuba ubuhlobo bulibazisekile" - ngoko umbuzo wakho uzwakala kwiifom. Kwaye uzama abantu abafanayo ukuba babuze umbuzo ofanayo, into encane ukuchaza ngokucacileyo: "Ngaba ndifuna ukushiya loo mntu ukuba ubuhlobo bulibalekile?" Musa ukukholelwa, kodwa umthombo "ongaphezu kwezinto ezixabisekileyo" aziyi kumeka. Abachasene nabo baya kuqala ukukuqinisekisa okuchaseneyo, ukuphikisana. Ngaphandle kwesazela sesazela. Asiyi kuhlalutya ukuba kutheni kwaye kwenzeka ntoni. Esi sihloko esicacileyo, esinomdla kakhulu. Yazi nje ukuba ngaphezu kwakho, akukho mnye umphefumlo ophilayo uza kukwazi ukwenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo, ukufumana amagama afanelekileyo.
Indlela kuphela yokuphuma kule ngxaki ingxoxo. Kanye nje ukuba le ngxoxo iya kuba njani, iyakwakho kunye nekhethiweyo. Nokuba uza kuhlala phantsi etafileni yokuthintana kwaye ubeke ngokuzenzekelayo zonke iingongoma ezingentla "i". Ingxoxo yakho iya kwenzeka kwenye imeko. Kuxhomekeka kwizinto ezininzi, ukusuka kumgangatho wokukhulelwa, ukuphela kweziphepho ezinamandla.
Into eyona nto kukuzigqiba isigqibo sokuba le yisona sigqibo esifanelekileyo kwimeko yangoku (oko ke ngoko awuyizisoli, kwenzeka ngaloo ndlela). Emva koko kuyimfuneko ukuba ube nesibindi kwaye uzimisele ukuthatha eli nyathelo, ukuzisa isivakalisi ukuba senze. Ewe, kubalulekile ukuba ulungelelanise kwangaphambili, ukuba umphumo wengxoxo yakho ecacileyo ingaba nayiphi na, mhlawumbi, mhlawumbi ingaqali. Zama ukuziqinisekisa ukuba iqabane lakho liya kuba nelungelo lokugwenxa kunye nokuba le nxaxhiso izakuchaphazela njani-ke kungcono ukubonelela zonke iinketho.
Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba kunoma yintoni na imeko ihlala iphuma indlela. Naliphi na ingxaki kufuneka ihanjiswe kunye nokulahla kobugovu obuphilileyo kunye novelwano, ukuqonda ukuba ngubani, mhlawumbi, uya kubangela intlungu. Nangona intlungu leyo ingenxa yokusindiswa. Ukwazi ukuzibeka kwindawo yaloo. Ezinye ziya kuvela ngokwazo: indlela ekufuneka ifakwe ngayo, xa kuyimfuneko ukubizwa. Ziphulaphule, intuition yakho nengqondo yakho. Ukuzimisela ngakumbi nokuzithemba. Emva koko yonke into iya kuvela. Yonke into, njengoko ukhulelwe.