Kwafuneka ndibize isikhulu sangaphambili kwaye ngoku nguGorynycha ukuya kumaphephethi. Ngaphandle kwetangatye kunye nokunyamekela ingozi yokumanga ama-amphibians, wabeka ukusebenza kumbali yendlela ubuhle bokulala, emva kokuvuswa, kwasasazeka ukuze kube ngcono ukuvuka, kunye nendlela amthanda ngayo isibuko ngaphezu kwehashe yakhe kwaye wenqaba ukunika indlalifa. Kwaye ... ndacela ukunceda ukuphepha umtshato. Kwaye ndacinga ngengqondo yesimo sengqondo kunye nobungakanani bentetho yesahlulo somtshato phakathi kwabatshatileyo.
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Ukuqhawula umtshato ngokugqithiseleyo kugqitywa ekubeni ngumdala, xa abantu bezimeleyo xa benza izigqibo zabo. Abantu abancinci abaqhelanga ukuba benze izigqibo kwaye banomdla. Abazange bahlangabezane neemeko zobomi kwaye banokukwazi ukufumana ulwalamano oluthandayo.
Ukusuka kwinqanaba lezesayensi, ukuwela othandweni yinkqubo ye-biochemical ebonakalisa kwizinga le-hormonal ukuba iqabane elingafanelekanga lifunyenwe ekuqhubekeni kohlobo. Kodwa uhlobo alukwazi ukusixhasa. Ukuphazamiseka kwezinto eziphilayo kwimiba yothando ngumlinganiselo weenyanga ezili-18. Emva koko, siqala ukufumana ubuthakathaka bomntu obakhethiweyo, amacala angamanga kunye nezinto ezimangalisayo. Ngoku siyabona ukuba umfazi unomphunga omde, umsila ongaqhelekanga kuye, akwazi ukuphulaphula kwaye akawunyamezeli iinyembezi zezingane.
Kunzima kum ukwahlula izizathu zokuqhawula umtshato kumabhinqa kunye namadoda, kuba ndiqhele ukuphatha umtshato njengobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu ababini abenza konke. Sidinga ubuncinane amabini ukudanisa i-tango, kwaye ukuba umdaniso awusebenzi, bobabini abalingani bafanele bagxeke, kwaye ngamnye "abadansi ababi" uphelelwa yinto ethile. Ukususela kwisenzo ndingatsho nje ukuba amabhinqa alula kwaye axolela ukuthengwa komlingani kunamadoda. Abantu baseUkraine bemi kude kube sekupheleni, de kubekho ubomi obungenakuze bubekezeleleke. Phakathi kwezona "zibhinqa" izizathu zokuqhawula umtshato ngokuqhelekileyo ukusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala ngumlingane. Amadoda ethu alungele ukuya kutshatyalaliswa, ukuba isimo sabo sitshintsha kakhulu kangangokuthi bacinga ukuba umfazi wabo akafanelekanga.
Isimo sengqondo sokuqhawula umtshato phakathi kwabatshatileyo sitshintshile kwaye oku kusemgangathweni. Umtshato akufanele ube "ngumtshato", kwaye umtshato uqhawulo-mthetho. Umtshato opheleleyo ngumxhelo, uhambelana nobomi babini, kwaye ukuba into ayisebenziyo ngokukhawuleza, simele sithathe ithuba lesibini.
Icala eliphambene neengqekembe yinto engavumelekanga yokutshatyalaliswa kwengenakucala kwentsapho, ngaphandle kwemiphumo ekhethekileyo, enokukwazi ukuyenza kwinkqubo yethu yomthetho. EmaNtshonalanga, inani leqhawulo lomtshato lincinci kakhulu kunezethu, kwaye kungekhona ngenxa yokuba ayinakonakalisa ubudlelwane babo, kodwa ngenxa yemiphumo yomthetho kunye nemali yokuphuka komtshato kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umtshato uyinyathelo elibi kakhulu. Abantu nje abatshati, ukuba abayilungele isinyathelo esinjalo, kuba akukho bani owenqabela ukuba babe kunye.
Inani lamanje liyilo lendalo, kodwa ngelo xesha ndikholelwa ukuba akuyona into ebuhlungu njengoko kubonakala kuqala. Yimangalisa njengoko ivakalayo, ngokuqhelekileyo umtshato uyintsikelelo, ukuqala kobomi obutsha, enye inzame yokufumana ulonwabo.
Umtshato uyinyathelo elinoxanduva, ngoko ke ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isinyathelo esinjalo, yonke into imele iqwalaselwe ngokucokisekileyo kwaye iyavunyelwaniswa.