Ngoku ukuqinisekiswa ngokubanzi ukuba umntu ungumntu ukususela kumzuzwana wokukhulelwa kubonakala kukunyaniseka. Ingqungquthela yintsimbi, kwaye i-oki imithi ye-oki. Yaye ukutsho ukuba ukungalimi isityalo kufana nokusika umthi kuyinto engafanelekiyo. I-acorn ingaba ngumthi oki. I-Zygote (iqanda elikhulelweyo) - linokuba ngumntu. Kodwa oku akusiyo yoluntu, kwaye kunzima ukuqinisekisa ngokucacileyo ukuba ukuphucula kwiiveki zokuqala zokukhulelwa kuyahluke ekusebenziseni i-contraceptive okanye ukulahlwa kwesondo. Emva koko, zombini, omnye, nowesithathu - eqinisweni, kuphela ukulahla ukuzala umntwana. Eyona nto ingqiniswanga ngokungqalileyo yicawa, engavumi ukukhipha isisu kuphela - isisu sokukhupha isisu, kodwa kunye nokukhulelwa komzimba, iikhondom kunye nokuba nesondo ngesondo, ngaphandle kwenjongo yokukhulelwa. Yonke isono ...
Ngombono womnye wababingeleli, ndifunda ingcamango ecacileyo: kubalulekile ukuvuma ukuphulwa komyalelo owodwa, indoda iphula ngokuzenzekelayo okwesibini - ngokukhawuleza ukuba i-revolution yezesondo ibe yatshatyalaliswa, kwaye ukuguqulwa kwamalingani ezesondo kwaba yinto evumelekileyo, kufuneka ukuba isombulule isisu kwisigaba somthetho. Emva koko ndiyavumelana naye ukuba kungekhona ekuhlolweni, ngoko-ke awukwazi ukuvuselela isiseko ngaphandle kokuvuselela indlu yonke!
Kwiminyaka eyikhulu edlulileyo, imibandela yokungabikho komtshato yayingekho kumgaqo jikelele kwaye, ngokukodwa, ukukhupha isisu, ukupheliswa kwezonyango zokukhulelwa. Ngaphambili, ingxaki yokukhulelwa okungenakulungeleka yayizalelwe kuphela kwiimeko ezikhethekileyo. Ngoku ke oku kuye kwaba ngumgaqo. Kwaye unokwenza izandla zakho zininzi kwaye ucele: "Iphi ilizwe eliya khona?" - alihambeli ngasemva. Uhamba phambili kwaye ufuna ukuba afune iindlela ezintsha: ukwakhiwa kwindlu entsha, uluntu olutsha, imithetho emitsha kunye neembono.
Ukuqinisekisa ukuba "umfazi akanako ukukhipha isisu ngenxa yokuba akanako" - uyaphinda ubuwula ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwisicatshulwa kwiminyaka eyikhulu edlulileyo, ekhohlwa ukuba kuloo mihla abanye abantu banamathele kuye: "umfazi akanako ukuvota okhethweni kuba akakwazi"; "Ibhinqa ayikwazi ukuhamba ngaphandle kwemvume yomyeni wayo" ... Oku kubaluleka kokungabi namthetho kwalandelwa lilungelo elibalulekileyo - ekubeni yena, into ephosakeleyo, akakwazi ukwenza nantoni na, umnike ngokupheleleyo kwaye abantwana kufuneka babe noyise okanye umyeni. Kodwa isiseko sitshintshile. Abasetyhini bakhululekile. Abaninzi babo abanamadoda. Abanye abanalo nabani na, bazinyamekela kuphela. Akukho mntu unokubanceda. Ngako oko, abanamnye umntu omele. Kwaye akukho mntu unelungelo lokubakhusela ukuba bangaphili kweli lizwe, apho balwa khona. Kwaye ukuba ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo kubathintele ukuba basinde kwintlango yasemadolobheni okanye baphephe nje ... ke silapha sihlala embuzweni ongenakuhlaziywa kwefilosofi: yintoni ebaluleke ngakumbi - ubomi bomntu omnye okanye inkululeko yomnye?
Ngubani oza kuthetha ukuba kulula ukuzala nokuvusa umntwana, vumela ilitye liphose kuqala! Iinyanga ezilisithoba kunye nobomi obulandelayo bomntwana kufuna ukutshala imali rhoqo, ixesha, amandla omzimba kunye nengqondo. Ubuncinane ukusebenza kanzima, kunzima kwaye kwansuku zonke. Umbuzo wabantwana abangafunekanga ubuncinane umbuzo: kutheni umntu kufuneka asebenze mahhala? Emva koko, amakhoboka kuphela asebenza ngokukhululekile kunye nomnqweno.
Ubukhoboka abukho nakude kakhulu kwaye kwabonakala kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba isiphakamiso sokuphelisa sasiqondwa ngabaninzi njengento yobuwula: "Kuvela phi na ngokukhawuleza? Esi siko esingcwele. Unamawaka eminyaka ubudala! "Kuyafana nokuzala nokukhupha isisu - isisu sokukhupha isisu sokukhulelwa. Iqiniso lokuba ngamashumi amabhinqa amabhinqa akwenzi oku ngaphandle kokukhononda, ngokukhawuleza, kwakuqhelekileyo. Ngoko / KC ikulungele, njengobungqina. Isiqhelo ngokwaneleyo kangangokuba akukho mntu wayenomdla kuzo: yayiyintoni iindleko zomnikelo onjalo kubo, ngubani oya kuwubuyisela kwakhona, nokuba ngaba kufuneka bathwale lo mnqamlezo? Ubukhoboka buphelile kwiminyaka engama-150 edlulileyo, isikhundla sokubanjwa kwesibhinqa esingenalo ilungelo lokwenqaba ukuveliswa kwembewu - ngaphantsi kwekhulu leminyaka edlulileyo. Kwaye kukho izizathu zokukholelwa ukuba ngeyure yesi-150 yamalungelo omfazi umbuzo: "Ngaba kulungile ukuba umfazi asebenzise ilungelo lakhe lokukhetha?" - akayi kuxoxwa, njengesihloko esithi "Ngaba sinelungelo lokugcina i-serfs? "Nangona iimbopheleleko zokubeletha zisathethwa njengomthetho, ukususela ekusebenziseni kwabo bafazi besinyameko ebuqilima, ukungcola nokuzingca. Kufana nokuthetha malunga neengxelo zemizuzu emihlanu yokuvavanya okanye, ekugqibeleni, igazi elizinikeleyo, kungekhona ixhoba, ixabiso apho ngezinye ixesha lobomi bakho.
Kwaye ukuba ukukhipha isisu kusalokhu kubulala, ngaba umfazi ohlala ekhulwini lama-21 kufuneka ukuba akhethe phakathi kokubulala nokuzibulala-ezempilo okanye ezentlalo? Ngubani unelungelo lokuligweba? Ngubo kuphela abayaziyo impendulo kumbuzo wesibini ongaphilikiyo lobufilosofi: "Yintoni engcono, kungekhona ukuba izalwe nonke, okanye uphile ubomi ngokungathi awuhlali?"
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukunyanzelisa umntu ukuba enze umdlalo okanye ngaba yinto yokuzithandela kuphela? Ukuba kusasa ufumana unamathele kumntu omnye ngokukhawuleza kwaye uva: "Akakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwakho" - nokuba uya kuzinyamezela iinyanga ezilisithoba okanye umemeza ngoyiko: "Wandibuza!" Ngaba uyavuma, nokuba ngenxa yokulondoloza ubomi bomntu, ngoku ngoku kunika umzimba wakho iimvavanyo, ukubeka ingozi kwimpilo yakho, ubomi, umsebenzi, umsebenzi, kwanokuxhasa imali kwiingxowa zakho. Bangaphi abathanda kangaka? Mabini? Ezilishumi? Abasetyhini mabavumelane naloo nto kwaye rhoqo, nangaphi na ixesha lobomi! Kumele bazinyanzelekile ukuba babele umthetho! Intshutshisi yekhulu leminyaka edlulileyo. Kodwa abo bathi bayalibala: ngoku umfazi kunye nendoda balingana namalungelo. Kwaye ukuba umfazi unyanzelekile ukuba abelethe ngenxa yokulondoloza ubomi-ke, nawuphi na umntu okhululekileyo unokunyanzelwa ukuba anike (ubuncinane!) Iinyanga ezili-9 zobomi bakhe ngenxa yokulondoloza omnye umntu.
Ukwahlukana phakathi kokukhulelwa okufunwayo nokungafuneki kufana nokuphakathi kobusuku bokuqala bezithandani nokudlwengulwa. Yaye indlela ephela yowesilisa ukuqonda ukuba umfazi uvakalelwa njani xa efunda ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo kukuzicingela yena, indoda, ixhoba lobundlobongela ngesondo. Ukudlwengulwa akukhona nje kuphela ngokomzimba, kodwa nokukhathazeka kwengqondo, ukuwa kwehlabathi. Kwaye baninzi, benethuba lokukhusela imbeko ngokuthumela inqabana kumdlwenguli ebunzini, uya kukhunjulwa kweso sithuba sokuba ubomi buntu buphezu kwayo yonke into? Ngaba ukhetha ukuzincama?
Mhlawumbi, isisu sokugqibela isisu singalinganiswa nokubulala, kwaye oku kuyimangalelo embi. Kodwa bambalwa bethu banelungelo lokugxeka abanye. Ngaba umntu, ngokuphendula kwisibheno: "Uncedo lokulondoloza ubomi bomntwana" - wenqaba ukunikela idini enye ye-hryvnia, ukugweba umfazi ongefuni ukunikela ngobomi bonke ngenxa yomntwana? Sonke sibulala imihla ngemihla, singalali ukunika imali umceli, sishiya kulabo abafuna uncedo. Amakhulu abantu axhomekeke ekukhethweni kwethu, kodwa akukho mntu usikhupha ngamandla ukuze abanike iimpso kunye negazi. Uluntu luyaqonda ukuba sinelungelo lokuba ngamaqhawe, kungekhona ukubingelela, ukungabi namdla ... Kuba, yintoni ebaluleke ngakumbi: ubomi bomntu omnye, okanye inkululeko yomnye? - umbuzo wesithathu ongaphilikiyo wefilosofi. Akukho mntu uyazi impendulo engabonakaliyo ...
"Ngenxa yokuba," ndathi kumhlobo, "Ndingakupha icebo elilodwa kuphela leengcebiso. Musa ukundivumela mna okanye nabani na ukuba anqume wena. Wonke umntu unokuziphendula yena kuphela. "