"Ngaba ukukhupha isisu kuyingozi kwinyanga yesithathu yokukhulelwa?" - umxholo wendaba yethu yanamhlanje.
Kubomi bomfazi ngamnye, kukho umzuzwana xa efumana ukhulelwe. Uvuyo lwabazali oluzayo luya kufumana, nonke, akunjalo. Kukho iingcamango ezinzulu: yintoni omele uyenze ngoku? Njengoko kungekho ngexesha! Oku kwenzeka ntoni? Indlu encinci okanye idibanisekile, ndandifumana umsebenzi, emva kokudala ndaqala ukuza kum ... Iqela elide leengcamango ezinjalo ziguquka entloko. Kwaye kukho abacebisi: ukukhupha isisu, ngaphambi kokukhawuleza. Kutheni kungekudala? Ukuqinisekisa ukuba akazange akhulele kwaye akazange akuvumele ukuba uzive upholile ukuba uphonswe ngesithende esincinci?
Akukho xesha elifanelekileyo lokuzalwa kwabantwana. Ungahlala ufumana izizathu eziliwaka zokuqwalasela umntwana ngokungadingekile.
Iyintoni ingozi yokukhipha isisu? Inyaniso yokuba ibhinqa liphula umthetho omkhulu - musa ukubulala! Ngaliphi na ixesha le nto ayenziwanga: ngeveki yesibini okanye kwiinyanga ezi-3 zokukhulelwa - oku kubulawa komntwana - umahluko kuwukukhula nokuphuhliswa kwayo kuphela. Ukubulala umntwana ongenakukhuseleka - yintoni enokuba yimbi?
Umzimba wesifazane unemiphumo emibi:
- Kwi-20% yabasetyhini emva kokukhipha isisu, izifo zonyango zikhula;
- kwi-12% yabasetyhini emva kwalokhu, umjikelezo wesini unokuphazamiseka ixesha elide, kwaye nokuba kuphuma igazi;
- oku kukuxinzeleleka kwengqondo kakhulu;
- ukuphazanyiswa komsebenzi weenkqubo ze-nervous and endocrine, ukumelana nomzimba kuncitshiswa kakhulu;
- iingxaki zobunzima obuhlukeneyo zinokwenzeka;
- kwinqanaba elincinci, umfazi ubona ukukhupha isisu njengobundlobongela kumzimba wakhe.
Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba buhlungu kangakanani na - ingozi yengqondo iza kuhlala ebomini. Uninzi lwabasetyhini luzisola, kodwa alukwazi ukulungiswa. Kukho ukuxilongwa - "ukuxinezeleka kwangaphambili". Inkoliso yokudandatheka kweyona ndlela ihamba phambili ihlangene nabasetyhini obuphakathi, ngokukodwa ukuba ukukhulelwa kwaba ngowokuqala. Amantombazana amancinci afumana eli lizwe ngokulula, kuba bayaqiniseka ukuba kukho ubomi obude kwaye ungenza okuninzi. Ukudakumba okukhulu emva kokukhipha isisu kubakho abafazi ababhiyozela imihla yokuzalwa kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu, ngokukodwa kwimindeni engenamvuzo.
Emva kokukhipha isisu, ukuxinezeleka kunokuhlala iminyaka kwaye ihlala ihamba kunye noloyiko lokulahlekelwa ngumzimba (ngokuqhelekileyo kubasetyhini abanezifo zesifo somzimba, imvelaphi ye-hormonal engaqinisekanga).
Abasetyhini abanomntwana osuka komnye umtshato kumanyano omtsha bafumana ukukhipha isisu akulula na ukulula kwabo bangakabi ngumama.
Ilitye elinzima emphefumlweni liya kuxhoma ukukhipha isisu. Ubudlelwane nomyeni wakhe buhlala bubi, nangona ekuqaleni uqale ukukhipha isisu. Abantwana abazalwa ngaphambi okanye emva kokukhipha isisu, nabo, banezifo kunye neengxaki zengqondo. Ngoko kutheni uzenzele iingxaki ezinjalo?
Omnye unokuthi: ukuzalwa komntwana kudala iingxaki. Ukungabi nemali, ukungabikho kwezindlu eziqhelekileyo - konke okusemandleni okusombulula kwaye inkunzi iya kuba nefuthe kakhulu ekuphumezeni iinjongo. Le ntokazi ibona iimvakalelo ezingenakulinganiswa xa ikhupha ingalo yakhe, isondla, ikhangele emehlweni akhe. Xa ibhinqa linikezwa ithuba lokuba ngumama, kufuneka lisebenzise, kuba ayinikwe bonke abantu.
Ukuba akukho mvakalelo yomntwana, yintoni ephantsi kwentliziyo, indlela efanelekileyo kukuzala umntwana kwaye uyishiye kwikhaya lokubeleka, ulahle amalungelo omzali. Ukwamukelwa kweintsana kwiidolophu ezininzi zomgca, ngoko kuya kuba lula ukuba athole abazali abanothando. Kwaye umzimba we-biomaterial "awunakunqandwa" ngokukhipha isisu kunye nomphefumlo akuyi kuba nesono sokubulala.