Ukuba ngumama okanye ukukhupha isisu?
Ngaphambi kwamabhinqa akukho mbuzo olula: "Ukuba ngumama okanye ukwenqaba?", Isigqibo asilula kwaye akusoloko kuqiniseke ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuthotyelwa kwesi sigqibo. Kukhona umzabalazo phakathi kwesono esele sisekuqaleni kokukhupha isisu nangaphambi kwezwi laso langaphakathi: "Ndiye ndedwa ngaphandle komyeni", "Asinayo inokwaneleyo indlela yokukhulisa, ukukhulisa umntwana," "Ngaphambi kokuba ndifunde," kunye nezinye iingxelo ezifanayo. Ngamanye amazwi, umzabalazo wamabutho amabini: unengqondo engqondweni yomntwana, umnqweno wokuba ngumama. Nokwenene (ukucamngca) ukutya kwiindlela ezahlukahlukeneyo zoluntu kwaye ngoko kule meko akulula kakhulu ukuhamba kwikhwelo yentliziyo.
Kodwa indlela yokwenza ngayo ngenxa yokuba ilizwi langaphakathi lithetha ukuba imeko iyanzima, kodwa kunzima, ayithethi ukuba akunakwenzeka. Unako, ngenxa yokuba andinguye kuphela umfazi kwihlabathi elishiye yedwa, kwaye ndiya kuvelisa umntwana. Ngezifundo ungathatha iholide yokufunda, kwaye enye yezihlobo, abahlobo, abahlobo baya kubanceda okanye ezinye iindlela. Awuyena yedwa owakhulelwa ngelixa ufunda, kwaye ubomi buza kukunika ithuba lokugqiba izifundo zakho. Umsebenzi, ukuba ulungiswe ngokusemthethweni, uze ubeke intlawulo (nangona ayinkulu kakhulu). Ewe, kwaye lo unyaka wesikhashana-esinye nesiqingatha, kuba kungekho rhoqo umntwana oya kuba mncinci. Kwaye kummiselo, unokufumana umsebenzi owongezelelweyo (kukho iindlela ezininzi, kuxhomekeke kumakhono akho kunye namakhono akho). Izinto zezingane i-stroller, iimpahla, i-crib inganika abahlobo abaye bakhulela umntwana. Kwiintsana, iintsana, izinto azikwazi ukuchitha. Ukutya okufikelela kwiinyanga ezintandathu umntwana unomama wabamama kuphela, oku kuqoqosho. Isisombululo seengxaki sinokufunyanwa, kufuneka nje ucinge ngenyameko.
Emva koko, ubomi buveza iimeko ezihlukeneyo, kodwa umntwana akakwazi ukubuyiselwa. Kwaye sele sele ucinga ngoku ukuba wenze isisu sesibini, uyaba lusizi, uhlaziywe kuwe. Ngokumalunga nokubonakala komntwana, kukho inkathazo eninzi, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo linika uninzi: uthando, uvuyo, ubunzima. Yaye ukuba unqumle ukushiya umntwana, kunye nokusondela ekuzalweni, gqiba ukuba awukwazi ukushiya kuwe, ngoko unako ukuwunikelwa umntwana (kwiinkedama okanye abanye abantu abathile ukuba bamkelwe). Ukukhupha isibini kubangela ukuhlupheka ngakumbi kwaye kuzakukwenza ukuba uqhubeke ngakumbi kwaye kufuneka uhlale nalo mthwalo.
Ukukhupha isibini.
Kuthiwani ukuba emva kokukhipha isisu sokuqala, kwakhona ukhulelwe, unokwenza isisu sesibini? Phendula umbuzo kumagqirha: "Emva kokukhipha isisu sokuqala, oogqirha babefanele baqhube incoko ngeenkcazo zokuziphatha kwimiba yesondo kunye nobungcoceko bowesifazane. Ukuba unokukhulelwa kwakhona, kwaye akuthandi, kwaye ufuna ukuphazamisa. Akuxhomekeke, ngaba okwesibini okanye okwesithathu, okwesine akukho ukukhipha isisu. Isidingo sokuhamba kwesibini ukutshiza (ukukhupha isisu) endaweni yokuba amayeza ayimfuneko. Emva kweengxaki zokuphazamiseka kwezidakamizwa zi malunga ne-5% kwaye ayitshintshi ukusuka kwimizila yokuphazamiseka kokukhulelwa. Ukukhulelwa kwangoku kunqanda ukukhulelwa, kuvuselela imisebenzi yokuzala kwaye kufuneka kuthathwe ngokukhawuleza emva kokupheliswa kokufakelwa kokukhulelwa. Indlela efanelekileyo yokukhusela kodwa ikwaqwalaselwa ngeendlela ezidibeneyo ze-hormonal (izithintelo zokukhulelwa).
Ukwenyuka kwesisu kwesibini kuqhube ngakumbi, kwandisa ingozi yemiphumo emibi: ukungakwazi ukuzala, ukungakwazi ukuvelisa iziqhamo kude kube sekupheleni kokukhulelwa (usongelo lokukhulelwa kwesisu) kwaye oku akunjalo nje ngenxa yomonakalo ongenakwenzeka kwisibeleko (izibazi), ukwandisa ukungena kwesibeleko ngenxa yoko akunakwenzeka ukugcina umntwana (isisu kwiiveki ezi-12 ukuya kwe-14 zokukhulelwa). Kodwa kukho iinguqu kwiimvelaphi ze-hormone kunye nemvelaphi yengqondo-eqinisweni ukukhulelwa okuphephile kuphazamiseka.
Ingasayi kuzala ibhinqa, unokwenza isisu sesibini? Ukukhulelwa, okuyinto engathandekiyo, kulungele ukukhishwa kwesisu - kuya kunika ingozi emininzi yemiphumo emibi (ekubeni isisu asikho ngaphezulu). Ngethuba elide (ngaphezulu kweeveki ezisixhenxe), kungenelelo lokungenelela kufuneka lenziwe ngaphambi kweveki yeshumi elinesibini kunye nokunyamekela ngokulandelelweyo ngugqirha kuyimfuneko.
Ukukhipha isisu yinkinga eninzi.
Ukukhipha isisu yinkinga eninzi, iinkalo ezahlukeneyo: unyango, ukuziphatha, intlalo, inkolo nabanye. Kubalulekile, kuya kuchazwa ngeziseko:
1. Naluphi na isisu, kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni ixesha lokupheliswa kokukhulelwa, limazi umzimba womfazi.
2. Ukukhipha isisu ngezizathu zonyango, kodwa apha ngaphandle kwengxoxo - kucacile koogqirha abajongene nomngcipheko.
3. Ukukhipha isisu, kwinqanaba lokuqala lokunyangwa okanye unyango - oku kuqobo.
4. Akukho mntu ngaphandle kokuba umfazi unelungelo lokugqiba isigqibo sokuba ngaba ukhupha isisu okanye akunjalo, nokuba kwimeko, ukuvalwa kwexesha kuye kwaphakanyiswa.
5. Ukupheliswa kokukhulelwa emva komhla emva kokuba ubungqina bezobugqirha sele sele bubugebengu.
Iintlobo zokupheliswa kokufakelwa kokukhulelwa: i-saline aminocentesis, i-aspiration aspiration, hysteremia kunye nezinye iindlela.
Indlela yokugweba ukukhipha isisu - abazali ngokumelene nomyeni okanye umntwana, kutheni kuvelisa intlupheko, ukuba uyazi ukuba umntwana onokungaqhelekanga, ogulayo kunye nezinye izizathu.
Imiphumo ichazwe ngokubanzi kwimithombo eyahlukeneyo, kodwa akukho mntu uya kukuxelela ngengozi kakhulu, kwaye awuyi kubafumana, yonke into ifihliwe ngabachwephesha. Yaye ukuba uThixo uyayinqabela ngexesha lokusebenza okanye emva kokuba isiguli sifele, i-anamnesis ayiyi kubonisa isizathu - ukukhipha isisu, kuya kutyunjwa njengesibini okanye imeko ehambelanayo.
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