Kutheni sifuna iimvakalelo zethu neemvakalelo zethu?

Ukuba kwakukho isixhobo esilungisa ukuvama kwamazwi okuvakalisa, phakathi kweenkokheli ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba "andikhathalele", "hlala", "akunandaba" kunye "ungakhathazeki", "uphonsa ngaphandle kwentloko yakho" kunye ne "hammer". Ukuba ukhubekile okanye loo mntu onobungozi akabuyanga kwakhona, okanye ngokuqhelekileyo enesizungu kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo enyanyekile entliziyweni yakhe - bahlala bebanceda. Kwaye utshabalalisa into engabalulekanga, "udoti", uvale yonke imifuzunjana eshahleni, i-zadraivaesh armor, udonsa i-hood kwaye "ngandlela-thile" uphile, jonga iichungechunge, ugxininise kunoma ubani ofuna, uye emsebenzini. Kutheni ukwenza oku kunye nokuba ungabi njani iqhwa elibandayo, uvale iimvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo phantsi kwekhikhi enzima? Kuhle ukuvalwa. Ummangali, njengoLara Croft. Jonga ukusuka ekuphakameni kokungenakwenzeka kwayo. Cinga ukuba unamandla. Amantombazana aseTurgenev abancinci ayenamethikethi amanzi ahlonishwayo. Bakhala, bahlaselwa. Kwaye siphila kwixesha lexeshana, ngexesha le-intanethi kunye neefowuni zoyilo kwifowuni. Iimvakalelo aziyi-ergonomic kwaye ngokufanelekileyo azihambelani nezinto ezikhoyo zangoku. Ziziphi na ngoku? Cinezela iqhosha elithi "ngaphandle" phantsi kwebali elibuhlungu malunga nendawo yokukhusela i-puppy, ukunikela i-ruble eyikhulu kumntu othile kwi-bunk kwiifowuni, umfanekiso wakhe usuku lwesithathu ukhanyisa kwiintanethi zentlalo. Nangona ubushushu buvame ukubonakaliswa buthule, ucinezela iminwe yeempethu kwi-aipad. Ewe, musa ukukhawuleza kwiiplate, igama elifanelekileyo.

Siye siba mnandi kunye neeplastiki, siye salahla zonke izilwanyana ezinwabuzelayo. Ukumomotheka kweMask, satshintshile ukuthetha okucacileyo, kunokuba sibe nempembelelo yemvelo, sibonisa ngomhla wokuqala isethi yemithetho evela kwiqoqo le-NLP. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ikhona: "Musa ukubonisa loo ndoda inyaniso." Ihlazo elibi - kwaye ngokukhawuleza uya kuqaphela ukuba ufuna ukutshata. Okwesabisa ngakumbi kukubonisa ukuba udabukile namhlanje. Hayi, intombazana enhle, kwizicathulo ezifanelekileyo, kunye neentambo ezifanelekileyo, kufuneka "zibe zilungileyo." Kwaye ngokukhawuleza awuyikukrokra uLara Croft, kwaye loo nto, nge-lace handkerchief, uTurgenev?

Ngomso ohlaza
Ukusuka phi apho sinoyika ukuzitholela ngokwenene-ngaphandle kokwenza imvakalelo, ngaphandle kwezi zinto? I-psychotherapist yaseCanada uGordon Newfeld ibhala ukuba umyalelo onjalo wokukhusela ngowona mzekelo udidi lwabafikisayo.

Xa uthetha nge-infantilism, isininzi sisoloko sithetha isimo sengqondo ebomini kunye nomkhuba wokuchitha ixesha kwikompyutha. Nangona kunjalo, ebuntwaneni bethu sinesinye into efanayo. Ngokomzekelo, ukungavuthwa ngokomzwelo, ukutshatyalaliswa kokutshatyalaliswa kwentswelo, umkhwa wokuphonsa "kum meko" ekuphenduleni nasiphi na ukucaphukisa. Ngomzekelo wabantwana abaselula, oku kubangelwa kukuba umntu udinga ukunqwenela, ukuthembeka, ukungaqiniseki, njengesikhumbuzo sobhedu kuLenin. Xa abazali behamba kunye nabantwana babo, kwaye abantwana, nabo bazinyamekela abazali babo, oontanga baqala ukwenza njengengxube yekhampasi, abantwana abasendle abaya kuma-movie kunye nawe namhlanje, bahleka ngomso, nangomso emva komso bahlobo lomntu othe tye. Kwiintsebenziswano zontanga akukho zibophelelo ezinokuthenjwa kuzo, akukho sikhephe esiphephile, akukho mvakalelo yokuba uyaziwa kwaye uyayiqonda. Kwimeko enjalo, imeko yendalo yempilo iba yinto yokuzimela, ukungaboni, ukwesaba ukulimala, ukuhambelana nobomi. U-Willy-nilly kuyimfuneko ukuba abe yi-glacier kwaye ahlaziye ukubonakaliswa kwe-bream engapheliyo. NgaseNewfeld, kwindlela, baninzi kuthi nangemva kweminyaka kwaye sisahlala siselula, sinoyika ukhathazeka, sichazwe kwindlela yokufunda. Kodwa ukuvuthwa kwengqondo kukukwazi ukuwamkela ukutshatyalaliswa kwakho, ngamanye amaxesha uthi "ewe, ndibuhlungu," "ewe, ndiyingozi," kwaye akabuki ngathi emoyeni.

Ukudlala ukukhusela
Ukuba khona ngaphandle kwemvakalelo kukuba, inyaniso, ibali leklasi "malunga nendoda kwimeko". Ngesinye isikhathi kwakukho umphathi: izibuko zamehlo ekhaleni, inqwaba ekhanda lakhe, ukwakha wonke umntu kumgca, ungalokothi uphumelele emsebenzini, kwaye ngokubanzi uhambisa zonke iimpawu zentsibano yendibano yesinyithi. Kwaye ke ndandithandana-kwaye amaqabane amangalisayo aqaphele ukuba inqwaba yaxakeka, iiglasi zazihamba, kwaye kwimibiko yonyaka, omnye umntu wakhupha iintliziyo. Nantsi oku: ubomi, neinyembezi, nothando.

Kwakhona ibali malunga nokulala, ubuqhopho kunye nemvakalelo ebhokisini, emqolombeni nasebumnyameni. Ukuqala ulwalamano, kuyakufuneka ukuba uhlukanise iqhwa, kwaye oku akunakwenzeka rhoqo ngokubamba omnye-ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka usebenze ngokukhetha. Kwaye ke ubu buhle, oko kukuthi, umphathi, ugxininiswe ngamaza e-hormonal, umangaliswa ukubona ihlabathi elitsha elinenkalipho. Ufunda ukuba ngaphambi kokuba iindudumo zesaqhwithi zivumba kakhulu kwaye zenze ezinye izinto ezingalindelekanga. Kwaye ke i-twist entsha kwisalathiso: inkosana ijika ngokukhawuleza kungeyiyo inkosana, kodwa ke ... nje uhlobo oludlulileyo. I roses iyabuna, iintliziyo ziya kwi-urn, kwaye uLyudmila Prokofievna ekugqibeleni uba nguSathana. Yintoni enokuyenza, ukusabela okukhuselayo. Ngesinye isikhathi, akayi kuyeka lula. Umnqoli olandelayo wenhliziyo ngaphandle kokukhethiza uya kufuna ezintathu ezongezelelweyo, kwaye akuyinto eyosebenza.

Indoda enesiski sensimbi
Into engathandekiyo kukuba abantu abambalwa bazenza nje ukuba zizithixo, zilula kakhulu. Ukusebenza nabantwana abathintekayo abaseNewfeld babona ukuba ukungabi nangovelwano, ukukwazi ukuvakalelwa, ukuveliswa kwintoni enzima - kumaxesha amaninzi ayinomdlalo kuluntu. Kuphela nje ukuba ingqondo iye yazikhusela ngokufanelekileyo malunga neentyala eziye zacima imfesane, ukwesaba, kunye nenye into ecacileyo. Emva kokuba sibhekane nokukhathazeka okukhulu komoya, sihlakulela ukukhuseleka kwiimeko ezinjalo kwixesha elizayo. Ukususela kokulimala okutsha, ingqondo, ngokuqinisekileyo, ayikhuseli, kodwa ingamnceda ukuba angayiva. Ngamanye amaxesha ukusondelana komzwelo kuya kuba yindawo ezinzile. Xa sele ewele kuyo, umntu akayi kubhala inzondo efana 'nemvakalelo ifile' okanye abhale iivesi "phakathi kwethu ikhilomitha ngokuthula ..." Valiwe kwaye bafake amazinyo. Uyabona njani ukuba isibhakabhaka esiphezulu siba sesincinci? Ukumomotheka komntu akuthethanga? Ngubani ohlala exhalaba malunga nezihlwele ezinjalo? Ukungabi nandaba kukuyinto engacaciswanga kakuhle.

Imfesane ngokungahloneli
Nangona kunjalo, ngaphandle kwemvakalelo, ubomi bomntu buyancipha. Yonke ubugcisa obuvela kwii-symphonies zeBeethoven ukuya kufakelwe ukufakelwa kwanamhlanje ngendlela ye-phalluses ezikrakra kukubonakalisa iimvakalelo. Cima ubomi beemvakalelo - kwaye yintoni eya kuhlala? Ubukho obukhohlakeleyo.

Kodwa kulula ukucebisa: "Vumela ukuba ube nemvakalelo," utsho. Ngaba ngokukhawuleza abantu abangeenxa zonke abayi kuqonda? Siphila kwinkcubeko engamkelekanga imbonakalo evulekileyo yemvakalelo, ngakumbi kuluntu. Kuyinto engavumelekanga, ukuba ebhasini kuwe emva uya kuphosa: "Hayi, wesifazane ohlazileyo, udlule uhambo!" Nangona kunjalo, ekukhuseleni imbono entsha yehlabathi kunye nokuzimela kwayo, umntu kufuneka aqhubeke ezama ukuziva iimvakalelo.

Yenza iqela lemoya yezimvo zenzeke kungekhona kuphela kwiMyuziyam yoBugcisa. Ku luncedo ukuthobela ingqalelo kwihlabathi elikujikelezayo: yintoni ehamba ngeemafu, njani, ukujikeleza, amaqabunga aphuma kwi-birch, ukuba imvula ibetha njani umzila. Kukho ubuhle obukhulu kwihlabathi. Khumbula ikhosi yezikolo - zikhona amaqhawe eziqhelo eziqhelekileyo ekuboneni imifanekiso yendalo yemveli kunye nezinye iimithi eziqhambileyo zigijimela ukuba zamukele umhlaba waseRashiya, umdaniso waseKamarinsky okanye ifilosofi. Ewe, ngokubanzi, uyaqonda.

Ungavali ubuhlobo. Ukuba kwakudingeka amadoda ukuze ahlale phambi kwabo onke amaxesha ekuma "Smirno., Itel., Napra-in-"!, Kuya kuba ngcono ukuba bekungekho ebomini bethu. Iingcali zengqondo zijonga ukuba yilona yonyango olungcono yokunamathela kwisiqhotyoshelweyo. Oko kukuthi, ubudlelwane obunako ukuphumla, ukukhala, cela induduzo kwaye uyifumane. (Ngendlela, ukuba iqela lakho elinamandla lifuna ukukhala, kufanele uthabathe ngokuvuyisa.) Ngoko uyathemba.)