Akukho mfihlo kunoma ubani ukuba intombazana ibuhlungu kakhulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo ucinga ngengqiqo, iimvakalelo zakhe zityhala phezu komda. Kwaye kamva ke unokucinga malunga noko akwenzileyo noko akutshoyo. Kodwa ingaba yenzeke kamva kwe-accomplished accompli. Indlela yokuba ngumfazi onomlingani wakhe ongenangqondo kunye nomoya.
Impembelelo ngumpawu wobuntu. Impembelelo njengendlela yokuziphatha ehlala kwiimeko zokuthi umfazi uhlala eyazi impendulo kuyo nayiphi na umbuzo (nangona ayilunganga). Kuphela kwindlela ekukho iingxaki, le ntombazana ijika ngokukhawuleza ibe yinto yokulwa kunye nokuqala "ukulwa" nezenzo. Nangona enengqondo yakhe eyiyo uyayiqonda ukuba oku akunakwenziwa kwaye kuyimfuneko ukusebenzisa izicwangciso ezintle, kodwa akukho nto enokuyenza ngayo.
Kwaye kulula kangakanani ukwenza izigqibo ngokukhawuleza, ngaphandle kokucinga ngeziphumo zezi zigqibo. Enyanisweni, xa iimvakalelo zancinciwe kwaye ingqondo ivuliwe. Ibhinqa liqonda isinyathelo sayo esingenakutyala. Kodwa kunzima ukubuyisela iwashi kwaye ulungise impazamo. Indlela yokufunda indlela yokuphatha kakuhle iimeko, ungayisombululi yonke into kanye kunye nentloko eshushu.
Umfazi ongachukumanga ngeendlela ezininzi ufana nomntwana omncinci, ongenangqiqo. Ufana nomntwana ongenamdla, ulandela kuphela iimvakalelo zakhe kunye neminqweno yesikhashana yokuthatha isenzo. Uninzi lwazo zonke, akaziqondi oko akwenzileyo, noko akutshoyo, akenzi nantoni na.
Kodwa kunjalo, ngokunyamezela kukho izinto ezintle:
intukuthelo ayithethi ukungqinisiswa nokuqinisekiswa;
Isimo esibi sihlala ixesha elincinci;
isigqibo senziwe kwimizuzu;
yonke imibuzo ihlala iphendulwa;
Enyanisweni, ithatha uxanduva lonke;
soloko i sebenza;
zonke iingxaki ezikhuphayo, nqakraza njenge "nuts".
Ezi mpawu zifumaneka kubambalwa. Kodwa, ngelishwa, iimpawu ezinjalo zeemoto eziphakamileyo ezikhawulezileyo azisoloko ziziswa kwizinto ezilungileyo. Inika ingxaki enkulu kuninzi kwabanye. Imiphumo yezenzo kunye namazwi ayisoloko ihlawulwa, kuba kwiimeko ezininzi ziyakhathaza kwaye ziphikisana nokusetyenzana kwemithetho.
Ukuze ungaphazamisi uxolo kwindawo. Kufuneka ufunde ukunciphisa ikona. Ngaphambi. Kukho into oyithethayo okanye uthathe isigqibo esithile esibalulekileyo, kuyimfuneko ukuba ubalekele ku-10 nangemva kwaye uze uvula umlomo wakho omhle, ngenxa yesigqibo sesigqibo esilandelayo.
Ukuba le ntokazi ayikwazi ukuhlala, iya kufuna uncedo lwabanye. Kubalulekile ukuba uvumelane kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo. Ukubanceda ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo ngeempawu ezithile. Oko baya kukhonza ngelo xesha. Xa ibhinqa liqala "ukunqumla ehlombe" kwakhona. Ingaba iimpawu ezahlukileyo kwigama elithi "yeka" ukubetha izandla zakho. Ukumisa, umfazi uya kukwazi ukuthetha amagama akhe nezenzo zakhe.
Ukukhawuleza kunye nokuvakalelwa kunzima kakhulu. Akunakwenzeka ngokukhawuleza ukulungisa le ngxaki. Vala abafazi kunye nabanye bafuna ukwazi malunga nale mpawu kwaye bazama ukumphatha ngokunyaniseka kwizinto ezithe zenziwa kwaye zenziwe. Kodwa abantu abangaqhelekanga banokwesaba ngokuziphatha okungonelanelekanga, kwaye oku kunokubakhokelela ekubeni bangene kwi-stupor. Umntu ongenomdla kufuneka enze ngokukhawuleza axelele iimpawu zakhe kumntu ojikelezayo kunye ongaqhelekanga ukuze angazilimazi ngokwakhe. Yaye ufunde ukuxolisa kwizinto ezenzeka ngexesha le "fever".
Kwaye into ebaluleke kakhulu kukukhumbula ukuba unokulungisa oko kwenziwa. Kufuneka nje ufumane amagama afanelekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, wenze isigqibo sokukhawuleza, ngosuku olulandelayo okanye emva kwexesha, ungabhekisela ekugqibeleni kwesigqibo kwaye uthathe enye ingqiqo kwaye ulinganise zonke iingxaki kunye nolwazi.
Umsebenzi oqhubekayo kuwe uya kubakho kwiziphumo ezintle.