Izizathu zokuhlambalaza
Ukusilimaza kungaba izinto ezahlukeneyo kunye nabantu abahlukileyo, kodwa iinjongo zeengxaki zihlala zihla kwezi zizathu zibini nje.
1) Ukuxhathisa izinto ozilindeleyo nezenzo zabantu abakujikelezile.
Imiba ekhokelela ekugwenxeni, ininzi kakhulu. Unokuqala ibhizinisi elithile ebalulekileyo ekhaya okanye emsebenzini, kungokwemvelo ukuba uthembele kwenkxaso nenkxaso. Kuxhala kakhulu xa ungayifumana le nkxaso. Intukuthelo iyenzeka xa abantu abasondeleyo bengabambeli izithembiso zabo, bethengisa okanye bathathe indawo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba zeziphi izizathu esilungelelanga ngazo, ziluncedo.
2) Ukuziphatha kakubi kwabanye.
Imeko xa ukuziphatha kakubi kwabanye kubangela ukucaphuka, akunjalo. Oku kunokuba yinto eqhelekileyo isitalato, ukuziphatha okubi komntu osondeleyo okanye osebenza naye, inkohlakalo enenjongo kubantu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuziphatha okunjalo kubangela ukucaphuka.
Njani ukulwa?
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba imeko apho umntu akukhubekisile, uye wakuthabatha kakhulu, ukuba awukwazi ukufumana ixesha elide, ukuba uyakhubekisa nakwezinye izinto ezincinci abanye abantu abangaboniyo, mhlawumbi lixesha into ekutshintsha ngayo.
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukucacisa ukuba kuyintoni - ukucaphuka kwakho? Ikwahluka. Mhlawumbi uvakalelwa kukuba ungenakulungiswa kwaye ufuna ukubuyisela ubulungisa. Mhlawumbi unomsindo kwaye unqwenela ukuziphindisela kumntu ophukayo. Naluphi na, le yintsingiselo ephazamisayo, owathi wena ngokwakho uthumela ngaphakathi kwakho.
Okokuqala, musa ukuxhalabisa, ungazixolisi kwaye ngokukhawuleza ukwandisa isikhalazo. Cinga malunga nokuba unelungelo lokulindela kulo mntu othile into engaphezulu kunokuba angakupha? Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abachaphazelekayo bafumana ubunzima bokuba bacinga ukuba wonke umntu ojikelezayo kufuneka kwaye kufuneka abe nento ethile. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku akunjalo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uncedo olubalulekileyo lubaluleke kakhulu, kodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke, umntu kufuneka azancedise.
Ukuba isikhalazo sithathile, kubalulekile ukuqonda iimvakalelo zakho. Hlukanisa imeko ngokubanzi. Ungathatha iphepha, ubhale kuyo yonke into ovakalelwa ngayo, ungabi neentloni ngeemvakalelo kunye namazwi. Emva koko ubhale yonke into ocinga ukuba iya kwenziwa ngumntu ngokumalunga nawe, kodwa ukhokelwa kuphela yingqondo. Ngomlinganiselo obomileyo, ufumana intsingiselo yegolide, ukujonga okubukhali kwinto eyenzekayo. Unokuqiniseka ukuba akukho mntu wayefuna ukukucaphukisa, ubuncinane ngenjongo.
Kwixesha elizayo, funda ukukhusela ukuqoqwa kwentukuthelo. Ukuba ubona ukuba imeko ephazamisayo ivele phakathi kwakho kunye nomntu ongeenxa zonke kuwe, kungcono ukuba uthethe ngokukhawuleza kwaye ufumane uxolo ngokumalunga nokushiya ukushiya.
Ukuba awunakuvuyela ukuphendulwa kwabantu kwizenzo zakho, cinga ukuba uye wangcatshiswa okanye uphathwa kakubi, cinga ngento yokuba abo kuphela abangenzi nto abanakho ukuphendula kakubi kwizenzo zabo. Ukongeza, nokuba nempendulo engalunganga inokuba luncedo kakhulu, kuba uya kuba nethuba lokungenzi iimpazamo ezifanayo kwixesha elizayo.
Ngokukhawuleza kamva wonk 'ubani ucinga malunga nendlela yokulwa nomthetho. Ukuba le mvakalelo iyanzima kwaye ikuthintele ukuba ube nolonwabo, cinga ukuba kukho naziphi na izizathu. Akunakwenzeka ukuba abantu abakujikelezayo bafune ukutshabalalisa ngamabomu ubomi bakho. Kungenzeka ukuba uhlawula ingqalelo kwizinto ezincinci, uzive ungakhuselekanga kuwe, kwaye oku sele kufuna umsebenzi ocacileyo kunye onzulu, mhlawumbi ngoncedo lwesazi sengqondo.