Nguwuphi uhluko phakathi kweminyaka phakathi kwabantwana kuthathwa njengento efanelekileyo kakhulu ekukhuleni kunye nentuthuko, sizame ukufumana kunye.
Ukuba umahluko kwiminyaka yabantwana ukusuka kunyaka ukuya kwiminyaka emibini, ngoko, kulo mzekelo, kukho umthwalo omkhulu kwimpilo kamama, njengoko ethwala aze abelethe iintsana ngokulandelana. Emva kokuzalwa komntwana wesibini, umzimba womama unobuthakathaka kabini kwaye ufune ukulala ngokwaneleyo nokuphumla. Ngoko ke, xa abantwana be-pogodki, umthwalo wemfundo kwipapa uza kuba omkhulu, ngokukodwa kwiminyaka emithathu yokuqala, xa abantwana behlala bencike kwaye badinga ukunakekelwa kunye nokuqwalaselwa rhoqo. Ukukhulisa abantwana ababini, iphelile, kunzima. Lungiselela ukuba ujongene neendleko zombini.
Kodwa abantwana-pogodki bahlala bebahlobo oluhle kakhulu ukususela ekuqaleni. Bavame ukutyelela i-kindergarten kunye nesikolo esifanayo. Zineemidlalo eziqhelekileyo, abahlobo abaqhelekileyo. Bonke bakhula ngokukhawuleza kunontanga yabo. Uhlobo lwazo lweminyaka lincinci, ngoko akukho nto ichazwe ngokugqithisileyo "ye-senior" ne "junior". Umntwana omncinci uya kuba lula ukuyiqonda ihlabathi, kuba unakho konke kumdala.
Xa umahluko phakathi kweminyaka yobudala engama-3-4, kulula kubazali ukusabalalisa ixesha labo phakathi kwabo, ekubeni umntwana osele ekhulile sele esenele ngokwaneleyo, uya kwi-kindergarten, enezihlobo kunye nomdla. Umama unokukwazi ukuzinza ngokuzenzele umntwana. Kodwa akufuneki, ukuba kunjalo, ukulibala ukuba umntwana omdala usengumntwana, naye ufuna ukunakekelwa kwabazali kunye nomsa. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abadala banomona ngabazali kubantwana abancinci, ukuba babona ukuba lo mva unikwe ingqwalasela engakumbi. Ukuqhubela phambili lo mkhwele awuchaphazeli ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantwana, xelela umntwana omdala ukuba uyamthanda naye, ukuba xa wayeselula kakhulu, uyise nonina banamnakekela ngokucophelela.
Ngokwamahluko kwiminyaka eyi-3-4 ubudala, umntwana omdala sele akwazi ukukunceda umntwana, ukufeza izabelo zakho. Kodwa musa ukushiya abantwana bodwa. Kwixesha elizayo, umntwana omncinane ufuna ukubheka njengowokuqala kuyo yonke into, uphinda emva kwakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo abathandi abantu abadala, bazama ngazo zonke iindlela ukuphepha ukunxibelelana nabancinci, okukhokelela ekuxabaneni rhoqo. Abazali akufanele bahoye nabani na bantwana, ngoko phakathi kwabo akukho mkhwele.
Ukuba umahluko kwiminyaka yabantwana idlula iminyaka engama-4, kulungele ngakumbi kubazali. Uninzi lweentsapho zilindele eli xesha: iminyaka engama-4-5, ize ibele umntwana wesibini. Ngeli xesha, abazali banokuphucula izimo zabo zokuphila, bafunde, baqhube phambili kwinqanaba lomsebenzi, kunye nokuzinzisa ubomi babo bentsapho. Ukwahlukana okunjalo kwiminyaka phakathi kwabantwana kuya kuba yinto enhle kulabo bazali abazalela umntwana wokuqala ngobuncinci kwaye banamava amaninzi ekuqaleni kobomi bentsapho.
Kwabantwana, ukuhluka kobudala obudala akuhlali kulungile, kuba umntwana omdala iminyaka engama-4 ukuya ku-5 okanye ngaphezulu kusetyenziswa ukucinga njengomntwana kuphela kunye nokufumana yonke ingqalelo yipapa nonina. Kufumanisa kunzima ukudibanisa nelokuba kungekudala kuya kuba nelinye ilungu lentsapho elingazabelwana ngayo nabazali bakhe kuphela, kodwa kunye neetys, kunye nekamelo. Oku akusoloko kwenzeka. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abadala bacela udade wabo nodade okanye umzalwana wabo, kwaye bayavuya xa efika ehlabathini. Ukuvuya kwabo kungekudala kudala ukudideka ngenxa yokuba umzalwana osandul 'ukuzalwa akasakwazi ukufunda okanye ukudlala ngomatshini wokubhala. Xa umntwana esetyenziselwa umntwana, yonke into iyawa kwindawo, unomdla unceda unina ekunakekeleni umntwana. Kubantwana abancinci, ukugqithiswa kohlobo olukhulu kangaka kwiminyaka kukuba ngaba bakhulisa abazali, baninzi bahluma.
Ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo, akukho mfahluko opheleleyo phakathi kweminyaka. Kufuneka ugxininise kwi-flair yakho yomzali kwaye ube nabantwana kuphela xa ulungele ukubafundisa ngothando nangokuqonda.