Ingqwalasela nothando lukabawo lufunwa ngumntwana, kungakhathaliseki ukuba isini. Kuyinto enhle kakhulu, ukuba uyise unelungelo lokufumana ixesha elikhululekile, onokukunika unyana wakhe okanye intombi yakhe. Kodwa, kwiimeko ezininzi, emva kokubuya ekhaya emva komsebenzi, utata ufuna ukubukela iTV okanye ukufunda incwadi. Nangona, ukuba sasiyazi isidingo sokuba sinakekele abantwana. Kodwa ungadlala nomntwana ngaphandle kokuzingela. Kuya kuba ngcono ukunika iimvumba malunga nemizuzu eyi-10-15, uze uchaze ukuba uyise uyakhathele kwaye ufuna ukuphumla. Ngokuqhelekileyo oobawo bathambekele ekukhuleni inkokeli yangempela kumntwana wabo, obizwa ngokuba yizo zonke iinkalo, ngenxa yoko kuba nzima kakhulu ukuba bahlekise kunye. Utata angaqala emncinane ukuba amfundise ukudlala i-basketball okanye ibhola lebhola. Ukuba uyise uhlala ebhekisela kumntwana kwiimigodi zakhe, uqala ukuziva ukuba akakwazi ukuqonda nokufunda. Ngenye imini inkwenkwe iya kuthandana nemidlalo xa ikwazi ukuzithemba kunye nomnqweno wokubandakanya ibhola lebhola. Indumiso kayise ibaluleke ngakumbi kuye kunokuba izindebe ezingapheli kunye nezikhokelo. Ukudlala ibhola ibhola enkulu, ukuba liyinkqubo yenkwenkwe, yomelezwa yinkxaso kayise. Le nkwenkwe ayiyi kuba yindoda yinyani nje ngenxa yokuba wazalwa enomzimba wesilisa. Uyaziqonda njengomntu kwaye aziphathe njengomntu, ngenxa yokufumana inzala yakhe okanye umzalwana omdala okanye umntu omdala othetha naye aze adlulise ixesha lakhe. Unokumxelisa umntu onesihawu kuye. Xa uyise ehlala ecasulwa kwaye engafuni ukuqonda izenzo zendodana yakhe, mhlawumbi loo nkwenkwe iya kuziva ingakhathazeki kunye nenkwenkwe kayise, kunye namanye amadoda kunye namakhwenkwe. Le nkwenkwana iya kuba lula ukuyithatha umzekelo ize izuze unina. Okokuthi, ukuba uyise ufuna ukuba unyana wakhe abe ngumntu, kufuneka kube lula ukunyanga umntwana kwaye angammangaleli ngokudlala imidlalo kunye namantombazana okanye xa ekhala, aze azame ukuqonda ukuba yintoni engayenzayo ukuze aphumelele kwimidlalo nakwezinye izinto. Utata kufuneka achithe ixesha kunye nesimo sengqondo esihle nonyana wakhe, ukuze aqonde ukuba ungumhlobo kunye naye. UBawo kunye nendodana kufuneka babe nexesha lokuhamba ngokubambisana kunye nokuya kwiindawo ezinomdla. Kwaye ke awukwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kweemfihlo zakho zamadoda kunye nezo zixubusha kuphela ngabantu.
Le nkwenkwe ngumzekelo wokulingisa - utata, nangona kunjalo abaninzi abaqondi ukuba le ntombazana udlala enye, ayikho indima ebalulekileyo ekukhuliseni kwakhe. Intombazana ayithathi umzekelo kubabawo, kodwa indawo yakhe iqinisa ukuzithemba kwayo. Upapa kufuneka ahloniphe intlanzi yeenwele okanye imfashiso egqibeleleyo yintombazana, okanye nayiphi na into intombazana ehlakaniphile iya kuyenza yedwa. Xa intombazana ikhula, ubaba kufuneka abonise ukuba uyamphulaphula kwaye, ukuba kunokwenzeka, baxubushe nabo ishishini labo. Yaye xa intombi ikhula, iintombi zakhe ziza kuvela, ngeli xesha libaluleke kakhulu ukuba ubaba ubaphatha kakuhle, okanye, ubuncinane, ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba, ngombono wakhe, umfana akafanelekanga le ntombazana. Xa intombazana ibona ukuba nguyise loo mpawu eyenza ibe yindoda yangempela, iya kuba ilungele ilizwe elikhulu, eliyingxenye yesigxina. Ukukhetha intombi kwixesha elizayo xa eba yintombazana, ubomi bakhe bomtshato kunye nekhethiweyo kwiintlobo ezininzi kuxhomekeka kubuhlobo obunjani obunxulumene noyise ngexesha lokubunjwa kobuntu bakhe.
Ngokuqhelekileyo ootata bakhetha ukukhetha umdlalo oqhwithelayo kunye nabantwana, ngendlela, eya kubantwana abayithandayo. Kodwa abantwana badla ngokugqithiseleyo kwiimidlalo ezinjalo, kutheni baqala ukulala. Kubalulekile ukwazi ngokucacileyo ukuba kwiminyaka engama-2 ukuya kwimi-4, abantwana bahlala bengakwazi ukulawula ukuvalelwa kwimiva enjengokwesaba, inzondo nothando. Abantwana abancinci bahlukiyo phakathi kwezinto eziyinyani kunye neengcamango. Ukuba uyise udlala ingonyama, ngoko umntwana ngaloo mzuzwana ucinga nje ngengonyama. Oku kunokuba nefuthe elibi kakhulu kumntwana. Ngako oko, imidlalo yokuxhatshazwa kufuneka ibe nomusa kwaye ifutshane, nokuba umntwana uyayithanda kwaye icela enye. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umdlalo oqhwithelayo awuyikukhwela kunye nokulwa, kodwa nje ukugcoba. Ukuba umntwana unentloni, kha wuleza. Kusadingeka ukuthetha amagama ambalwa malunga nokuhleka. Akufanele uhlekise umntwana wakho. Ngamanye amaxesha, enomsindo ngonyana wakhe, utata usetshintshise umsindo wakhe. Umntwana uhlala ehlaziswa. Xa sixoxisana nabazali, sinqwenela ukuqaphela ukuba ukugculelwa kunamandla kunesihlwayo kubantwana kunanoma yiphina iminyaka.
Ngokubanzi, sathetha ngendima kayise ekukhulisweni kwabantwana, ukubonisana kwabazali, sinethemba, akuzange kube yinto engekho.