Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba akulula ukuba ngumnxila, kuba ufuna ukusela kakhulu, uphonsa ubomi kunye nokunye. Kukholelwa ukuba ukutywala utywala ngumzimba wezenhlalakahle kwaye unokuvela ngenxa yokungaxhamli, ukunyamezela okanye ukungasebenzi. Kodwa oku akunjalo. Kodwa kutheni le nto isifo esibizwa ngokuthi "intlalontle"? Kwaye konke ngenxa yokusela, ngokuqhelekileyo kuboniswa kubahlobo abaye bahlala bexakeke kule nto.
Kwaye siyakhumbula kwakhona igama elithi "utywala". Yintoni efana nayo? Ukuba kukho nawuphi na umntu odlulayo-kubuza ukuba: "Ucinga njani utywala? ", Emva koko, singacingi kabini, siya kuxelwa ukuba le ndoda ayiyindoda ehlanjululwe kakuhle, ngezandla ezithuthumelayo, ngokuvutha komlomo, kwiingubo ezigqithisiweyo, njl njl.
"Yintoni na? "- ucinga, kwaye emva koko, kwaye wenze ngokufanelekileyo, kuba umela ngokuthe ngqo. Kodwa jonga, kutheni le indoda? Emva koko, igama elithi "utywala" lithetha nje ngomntu, kodwa malunga nomfazi. Ewe, ewe. Awuphambuki. Yimalunga nomfazi. Ngethuba lethu, loo ngcamango "njengowesifazane onxilisayo" inzima kakhulu. Kwaye, kubonakala ngathi, apha apha? Kodwa akulula. Kwaye makhe sihlalutye izinto ngokukhawuleza, kutheni umntu onxilisayo engaselanga njengowesifazane onxilisayo.
Ekuqaleni, indoda iyindoda eqinileyo, kufuneka ikhuthaze yonke into kunye nendawo yonke, kodwa masingathethi, utywala ababachaphazeli. Ukuba abantu banomlutha onjalo kuye, ngoko sithini ntoni ngomfazi, kuba ibhinqa liyintlupheko yesini. Uya kuqalisa ngotywala, ngokufanelekileyo, ngoko ... iziyobisi kunye nezinye izinto ezibangela ukutshaya. Yaye oku kufuneka kulwa.
Abasetyhini banxila kakhulu utywala obunzima kunamadoda. Abafazi babonakaliswe ukuhla kwehla ngokukhawuleza kwintelligence, ukufumana iimpawu zobuntu be-hysterical, nokunye okuninzi, okukhawuleza kukhokelela ekulahlekelweni komsebenzi. Emva koko, batshintshela kwiintlobo eziphantsi zomsebenzi kwaye, ekugqibeleni, bayeke imisebenzi yabo ngokupheleleyo.
"Ungamyeka njani ukusela umfazi? "- lo mbuzo ukhathazeka ngamadoda amaninzi angaziphuziyo aze abukele abafazi bawo batywala. Ukuyeka ukusela kumfazi kubonakala lula, kwaye kunzima. Kwaye kuxhomekeka, okokuqala kwimeko yowesifazane, ekusebenzeni kwakhe. Ezi zimbini izinto eziphambili, kodwa kusekho nenani elikhulu. Makhe sibone ngoku, yiyiphi ibhinqa elula ukuyeka ukusela.
Ukuba ibhinqa linomntwana kunye nendoda, ke oku kuyinkuthazo eyongezelelweyo yokuyeka ukusela. Udokotela osebenzayo unako, kwiseshoni enye, angamthandi ukusela utywala. Ukwenza oku, kunelungelo lokuthetha ngokuthula naye, ukuchaza oko kubiza kuye. Nangona umfazi ngamnye usebenza ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Omnye uya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza yonke into, kwaye enye ayiyi kuvuma nawe. Ngoko ke, ukuqala, kungcono ukumbuza into ebaluleke kakhulu kuye? Kuza kusebenza umzululwazi wesisu, oya kumbonisa indlela efanelekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, le ndlela isebenza. Kodwa amanani abonisa ukuba oomatshini abancinciweyo abangekho baninzi, oku kwakhona kuphinda kubonakalise ukuba umzulwana wesisu uvakalelwa. Nangona intombazana yakhulelwa ngexesha lokuxilisa utywala, kwaye ngoku ixhomekeka, kwiimeko ezingama-90%, ngenxa yomntwana, uyayeka ukusela. Ngoko ke, ukuyeka ukusela ngale ndlela akunzima, umfazi kuphela kufuneka athathatile aze abe nomntwana.
Maye siqhubeke phantsi kwekholeji. Thatha umfazi onomyeni kuphela. Konke kuxhomekeka, kumlinganiselo omkhulu, kumyeni wakhe, kuba kufuneka aqondise umfazi wakhe kwindlela yokunyaniseka. Umyeni wam unemivuzo emininzi, kodwa akubona bonke abafana naye. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ukhulume ngabo, kufuneka udibanise umbuzo oyintloko umfazi othandekayo uza kuzibuza: "Ngaba ndifuna konke oku? ". Ukuba ungumntu, ngoku mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba awuyi kubuza umbuzo onjalo ebomini bakho, kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kuhlala unceda umthandi wakho. Kodwa le yiphutha kuphela. Umyeni kanye uya kulahleka, emva koko akayi kukwazi, ukuba angenza njani. Ekhanda lakhe uya kuba neempendulo ezimbini kuphela kulo mbuzo: ukumphonsa, ukumnceda. Ekuphenduleni kokuqala, akukho nto yokucinga ngayo, uya kubeka phantsi. Uya kufaka umtshato kwisantya. Ngolu khetho, yonke into icacile, okwesibini, ngoko kukho into eninzi.
Ekuqaleni, indoda iya kuzama ukufihla zonke iziphuzo ezinxilisayo kumfazi wayo, zigcine kwindawo yokuhlala ngaphandle kwemali. Kodwa abafazi abayindoda eyisiwula. Baya kufumana nalapho bafumana khona utywala. Ngelinye ilanga umntu angabuya ekhaya evela emsebenzini aze azi ukuba umfazi ugqiba njani i-cologne yakhe. Emva koko, ewe, indoda ayiyi kuphila, kwaye ... kwakhona sibuyela ekuqaleni. Uya kuba nemibuzo emibini. Iyokuqala iyafana, kodwa okwesibini mayiyithathe kwikliniki, apho uya kuncedwa khona. Kwaye oku kuya kuba yindlela ekhethekileyo kuyo yonke into enokwenzeka, ekubeni ikliniki isebenzisa oogqirha abachwepheleyo ababazi kakuhle ishishini labo. Kodwa kuya kuxhomekeka ekukhethweni kweklinikhi. Khetha iklinikhi enhle, ebiza kakhulu, apho baphatha kakuhle izigulane, okanye mhlawumbi umfazi angaphuma ngeengxaki zengqondo, enenzondo yehlabathi kunye nezinye "iziphumo ezibi".
Ewe, masiqhubeke phantsi kwezitepsi. Apha sijika kumantombazana amancinci atywala kakhulu. Ngenxa yoko, ukuyeka ukusela lo mfazi kuya kunzima. Kuphela abantu abasondelene naye banokumnceda, kwaye phantsi kwegama elithi "close" kukho kuphela izihlobo engqondweni, kuba, ngokuqhelekileyo, umfana kubantu abanjalo usengumfana onqabileyo ongeyayazi nantoni na ebomini, ngokukhawuleza uphosa umlwala ongeyomfuneko kuye.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho intombazana eye yafa ebusheni bayo, ngoko baqala ukusela, behamba, bexotha ... Olu hlobo lwabasetyhini ukuyeka ukusela kulukhuni kunzima. Kuye, intombazana enjalo, ayifuni kwiklinikhi, mhlawumbi akanalo isoka / indoda, ngoko ke akukho mntu uyamnceda. Kukho ithemba elilodwa kuphela elishiyekileyo - abahlobo abahlala bekhwela kunye nokunye.
Sixoxe ngeengongoma eziphambili zendlela onokuyeka ngayo ukusela abafazi. Awufumananga iindlela eziphambili apha, kodwa ngoku uqonda ukuba yeyiphi inxaxheba yabasetyhini kunye nendlela elula ngayo ukuncwina ukusela. Kodwa kubhetele ukuba amantombazana angaphuzi. Emva koko, ukuba umfazi unomntwana, uya kuba neentloni ngunina, kwaye ngelixa elizayo ukuba uya kuphinda "uphinde".