Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali abancinci abakwaziyo ukufundisa kakuhle abantwana babo, abaneminyaka yobudala abaneminyaka eli-1. Bonke abantwana abaneminyaka eyi-11 ukuya kweye-12 basesiguqukweni - "ingxaki yonyaka wokuqala wobomi". Umntwana ngelo xesha ubonakalisa ukuzimela kwakhe, ngokuqhelekileyo ulungisa izihlamba, uqala ukukhala, uyeka ukuthobela abazali xa abanikiweyo bebanika iingcebiso okanye bacele okuthile.
Ukuziphatha komntwana kunyaka wesibini wobomi kudinga ukubeka iliso rhoqo komntu omdala, kuba awunako ukuzinza kwaye kufuneka ulungelelaniswe. Ngako oko, umzali ngeli xesha kufuneka anike umntwana ixesha elininzi ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze agcine umntwana enhle.
Imfundo yabantwana kule minyaka ihlukaniswe ngamacandelo alandelayo:
Imfundo yenkcubeko kunye nempilo
Oku kuquka ukuhlamba, ukugqoka, ukulala, ukutya, nokujonga.
Imfundo yenkcubeko yomsebenzi
Oku kubandakanya ukugcinwa komyalelo, izakhono zokudlala ngamathoyizi ahlukeneyo, imodi, isimo sengqondo esilumkileyo kwizinto kunye nemidlalo, ukufunda ukuqonda iimfuno zomntu omdala, ukufumana izakhono zokuqala zomsebenzi.
Ukufundisa inkcubeko yokunxibelelana
Oku akubandakanyi kuphela ukuthetha nabantwana, oontanga, kodwa kunye nabadala.
Umntwana ufunde ukuhamba, yingako uziziva emele. Le nyaniso kufanele iqondwe ngabo bonke abazali. Umntwana uhamba ngeenxa zonke kwindlu apho ayithandayo, ukukhupha izinto ezikhangayo neziqhaqhayo ezithandayo, kaninzi azizameli ukubonisa ubumnene, kodwa ukuzame. Ngokuthintela umntwana ukuba ahambe kwindawo ethile, thabatha izinto ezibuthathaka kunye / okanye izinto, umenza abe neentloni kwaye abe nomsindo. Ukuba awufuni i-crystal vase, iiflethi ezinobungozi, iziqholo, izithunzi, izitya, iziqhumiso (kunye nezinye izinto) ukuwela ezandleni zomntwana, zisuse kuye. Susa kumntwana onomdla kwii-shelf phezulu okanye kwenye indawo ekhuselekileyo yonke into ebethayo neyingozi. Mvumele umntwana ahambe ngokukhawuleza emagumbini ngaphandle kokumemeza komama: "oku akunakuchukumiseka."
Ukuhamba ngesitrato akufanele kwenzeke phantsi kokutsalwa rhoqo, ukuvalwa kwimigangatho yabantwana. Bonke abantwana bathanda ukuhlambalaza kwaye badlale kwi-sandbox; ngaphezu koko, bathanda ukuhlamba, badinga ukuchukumisa yonke into ngezandla zabo, ngoko kutheni umntwana angavunyelwe ukuba enze into enomdla kuye?
Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngomntwana ekubambeni kunye / okanye ekuthintela omnye umntwana. Ukungenelela komama (kakuhle, okanye utata) kuyadingeka xa umntwana ezama ukulimaza kunye / okanye ukubetha omnye umntwana. Kule meko, kufuneka kuthatyathwe amanyathelo okukhawuleza ukuba anqande izenzo zomntwana. Xelela rhoqo umntwana oko ungakwenza, kwaye kungenjani, ukuba ufanele uziphatha njani ekhaya, kwisitalato, kwi-sandbox. Kule meko, ithoni yomama kufuneka ithambile kwaye inothando, kwaye ingayilanga kwaye iyimfuneko.
Ukuba ulwazi lunikezwa ngomdlalo womdlalo kunye nothando, ngoko umntwana uya kuqonda. Ngokomzekelo, umntwana angakwazi ukulala ngokulala, ukuba uyayenza ngendlela edlalwayo: makumenze umntwana abe ngumculo (unogwaja), kwaye isikhalazo siza kuba yimpumpo (imvundla). Ukudlala umntwana kungekhona nje kuphela ukulala, kodwa nokutya, ukuhlamba.
Awukwazi ukumemeza kumntwana, kodwa awukwazi ukuya kumahlaziyi okanye ukukhala. Kufuneka ufune kwaye uguquke, kodwa ungekhohlakele. Yonke into ifanele ibe ngokumodareyitha.
Umntwana ukhala, akafuni ukulala, akafuni ukugqoka? Emva koko ufike emadolweni ukuze ubambe ukukhula komntwana kwaye uchaze ngokucacileyo umntwana ukuba kufuneka kwenziwe. Akukufanelekanga kule ngxaki ukumemeza umntwana kwaye umjezise. Ukuba unqabile ukuhlambalaza kwaye ukhale umntwana wakho, uya kuqonda oku, kwaye uya kufuna iinyembezi zakhe kunye nokuhlaziya.
Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, abazali bafuna abantwana babo oko bangayithobeliyo. Ngokomzekelo, bafundisa umntwana ukuba ahlambulule izandla zakhe rhoqo emva kwesitalato, kodwa angazihlamba. Ngaloo nto, ngaba umntwana uya kuhlamba izandla xa abazali bengenalo? Kuzo zonke izinto, bonisa umzekelo umzekelo, uze ufune kuye: thinteka ngokufanelekileyo kunye neengubo zomntwana, uqokelele amathoyizi ahlukeneyo ebhokisini.
Abantwana abaneminyaka engama-nye bonke baxelisa abazali babo, zama ukuxelisa indlela yabo yokuziphatha, intetho. Yingakho abazali abazali babo kufuneka babe ngumzekelo omhle.