I-Psi-factor
- Umbuzo wokuqala kunye oyintloko: ngaba ndilala ngesitalana xa umntwana omncinci elala kufuphi? Ngakolunye uhlangothi, akanakho ukuqonda into eyenzekayo, nangona evukile. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abaninzi bethu banomuva wokuvalelwa kwesiqhelo kwisenzo esinjalo. Uninzi lwabesini lukholelwa ukuba ubukho bomntwana embhedeni ngexesha lokulala naye alwamkelekanga, kwaye kungenxa yoko. Kubalulekile umntu ukuba akhe ubudlelwane obusondeleyo phakathi kwesimo sesondo kunye nesenzo sesondo ngokwaso. Ngelo xesha, ukuba abantu abanothando balala ngesondo, bathi, kwi-hayloft kwaye baye bafumana ukuzonwabisa okungaqhelekanga kuyo, ngoko ke ukuvumba kwentsha kuya kuba yinto evuselelayo. Iingcali zikholelwa ukuba akufanelekile ukubeka ingozi, zishiye umntwana elele ngexesha lesenzo sesondo. Umsebenzi wengqondo unqabileyo kwaye uyimfihlelo, akufanele uvumele ingozi yokufuduka kwesifiso sesondo.
- Ingxabano yesibini ngokubhekiselele kwigama elithi "hayi" yimiva yecala eyenzekayo kwabatshatileyo ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo ngexesha elikufutshane lomntwana. Ukuvakalelwa kwangaphakathi kwetabhu kubangela ihlazo, ingozi yengozi, njengokungathi uyabukeleka, kwaye oku kunokukhokelela ekuhambisweni kwezinto ezinxulumene nesondo Inyaniso kukuba emva kokuzalwa komntwana, umfazi uqala ukuva iimvakalelo ezininzi ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, ukudideka kwamandla eemvakalelo kunye nehlazo kunokukhokelela ekufuneni ukuthanda uthando phantsi kweemeko ezinjalo "ezigqithiseleyo".
- Ingxabano yesithathu yinkxalabo yengqondo yengxaki. Yinto enye xa uhlala uphulaphule, ukuba umntwana akavuki kwindawo elandelayo. Kwaye kunjalo, xa ungalindelekanga ukuba ulindele ngolu hlobo. Ubunzima beemvakalelo ezingenakukwazi ukukhokelela ekutshitshisweni komqhubi ochazwe ngasentla, kodwa kunokuguqula isenzo sesini ibe ngumthombo wokuxinezeleka, kwaye oku akunako umphumo ophezulu kwimisebenzi yesondo yabalingani.
- Okwesine kukuba akunakwenzeka "ukuphula" phakathi kweendima zomama kunye nomfazi osondelene nomntwana. Oku kulula kakhulu kumadoda, kodwa umama obalaseleyo unamandla kakhulu kumama omncinane, ingakumbi ngexesha lokusana komntwana. Kule meko, ukulala ngesondo akuyi kuzisa ulwabelana ngesondo, kodwa kuya kuguquka kwi "conjugal duty". Ngokuqinisekileyo, izinto ezinjalo azikwenziwanga kuwo wonke umntu kwaye kungekho rhoqo, kodwa ngokubanzi, abazali abancinci bavame ukuhlaselwa xa umntwana esondele ngexesha lesenzo sesondo.
Indlela yokuhlela yonke into?
Ukuba ufuna ukufumana ubomi obugcwele ngokwesondo, kodwa ungakulungeli okanye ungafuni ukufundisa umntwana ukuba alale ngokwahlukileyo, kuya kufuneka uphume ebhedini lomtshato okanye utyeshe umntwana okwesikhashana. Nazi ezinye iindlela zokukhetha.
• Ukunyamekela i-crumb to stroller okanye isikhalazo xa sele sele ulele. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa ulala ndawonye, umntwana ulele ebhokweni likamama. Ngeli xesha, yondla i-crumb, ubeke intloko yakhe engalo. Lindela ade aqede isigaba sokuqala sokulala ngokukhawuleza kunye nesigaba esicacileyo: i-crumb izakuyeka ukuxubusha ngezandla, ubuso bakhe buya kukhululeka, uya kukhulula ingono emlonyeni wakhe aze ayeke ukulala ebuthongweni bakhe. Emva koko, yifake ngenyameko kwi-stroller okanye kwikhethi apho i-diaper efudumele ihlala khona. Unokuzibuyisela ngokukhawuleza xa iqala ukubonisa iimpawu zokuxhalaba.
• Yenza uthando ungabhedi embhedeni. Ukuba uhlala kwindlu ehlukeneyo, oko kuya kwahlukana nokuphila kwakho ngokwesondo. Yondla i-crumb, igubungela ngengubo, ulinde de ilale, kwaye uphume ebhedeni ngokucophelela, njengesiqhelo, xa ufuna ukugqiba imisebenzi yasekhaya ngokuhlwa.
Ungadluli nge-tab
Abazali abaninzi bayaqonda ukuba kukho imvumba ebhedeni njengento evalwe kuyo nayiphi na i-caresses, kuquka nabangenayo isondo. Kwaphela. I-Kid ayiyi kubandezeleka nantoni yonke yokuba uMama noTata bayamkela kwaye babethinte ngothando. Ngaphezu koko, abaninzi abanokholo kwengqondo bakholelwa ukuba ubukho bomntwana kwisitya somtshato sinceda ukufakela isinamathiselo. Abantwana abaninzi bathanda ukulala nabazali babo xa besaba, ukulala kunye nonina noyise ukuba 'balale' ekuseni. Olu lukhetho oluhle, ngakumbi kubazali abasebenza abangakwazi ukuhlawula ingqalelo kubantwana. Kwiintsapho apho umoya ofudumalayo ulawula khona, nokuba abantwana abadala balele embhedeni kunye nonina noyise. Abanye abatshatileyo banesaba ukuba ukulala ngokubambisana nomntwana kuya kuphazamisa ubomi bentlobano ngesini, ukupholisa umxhwele phakathi kwabatshatileyo. Enyanisweni, kwiintsapho ezikhuselekileyo akukwenzeka, kwaye umsebenzi wesondo uncitshiswa ngenxa yokukhathala, iingxaki zengqondo ngenxa yokubonakala kweemvuthu. Zama ukuququzelela ubomi bakho ngendlela enokuzijongela kuzo zombini iindima: umzali kunye neqabane.