Isizukulwana ngasinye sikhalazela ukuba, bathi, ulutsha luhamba "alukho", lugqoke kwaye luziphatha "ngokungenjalo" kwaye ukuba ngokubanzi "kwakungcono ngaphambili". Nangona kunjalo, ulutsha lwanamhlanje luba nephutha elibi kakhulu, i-infantilism, okanye ukungafuni ukukhula. Oku kuqondwa kuphela ngabazali, ootitshala kunye neengqondo zengqondo. Abafazi abanelisekile ngabafazi abancinci, kunye nabafazi abancinci ... kwaye akusiyo malunga nokuphulukiswa kwengqondo ngenxa yokusilela kwe-oksijeni ngexesha lokubeletha, ukuphazamiseka kwamagciwane kunye nezinye iingxaki zempilo - kunye neengxaki zempilo yengqondo. Kwaye nangona kungenanto enxulumene namajelo kunye nesifo sobungqingili asikho, ngabazali "bazinikela" iindlalifa zolu hlobo kunye nesiphene, intantilism - ukungafuni komntu ukukhula.
Kukho igama elinjalo "kufuneka"
Imiqondiso "yobuthakathaka" - intsholongwane, wonke umntu uyazi kakuhle - ukungcola, ukungabi nkululeko, ukungafuni ukusebenza nokuthatha uxanduva. Ukuninzi, ukunyaniseka, ukungakhathaleli, izinto ezinomdla kunye nomoya onokutshintsha - ngokufutshane, yonke into ekhethekileyo kubantwana abancinci. "Yiba neenkathalo kwaye ungenangqondo!" - Sang kwi-tortula eyaziwayo i-tortilla. Kodwa enye into yokuba "ingakhathazeki kwaye ingenasiphelo" kwiminyaka engama-7 ubudala, kwaye yinto enye - kwi-17 nangama-37 ... Hayi, de kube yiminyaka eyi-10-12 ukuqonda kwiindlalifa iimpawu ze-infantilism akunakwenzeka, kuba bonke abantwana abaselula bayadlala, kwaye bayalizonda igama elithi "kufuneka". Kamva, xa uneminyaka eyi-13 ukuya ku-14-14, le ngcamango imele iguquke ekuqapheliseni-ekujoliseni ukukhula, xa umntwana efunda ukuba ayenze kuphela oko akufunayo nokuthandayo, kodwa kunye noko kuyimfuneko. Ngokomzekelo, susa amathoyizi egumbini, thabathe umntakwabo omncinci kwi-kindergarten, okanye i-pester iiyure ngaphezu kwe-physics ethiyiweyo. Umdala umntwana uya kuba, uxanduva oluninzi, unembopheleleko omele ayenzele yona.
Kodwa kwabanye abantwana lolu tshintsho lokuqonda ngenxa yezizathu ezithile alenzekanga, kwaye baqhubeka beziphatha njengabantwana - kwaye kwiminyaka yenguqu, nangona kamva. Esikhundleni sokuphulaphula utitshala, bathetha ngokuvakalayo kwisifundo nommelwane, bathathe iincwadi kunye nephupha lokuya e-Afrika. Esikhundleni sokwenza umsebenzi wesikolo, ukudlala iiyure kwikhompyutheni okanye ... ukulala njengabantwana! Esikhundleni sokunceda abazali ekhaya, bacaphukile ukuba abazange bancede kwaye abazange bathenge into ethembisiwe. Esikhundleni sokuxelela inyaniso ngesizathu sokuba sekwephuzile, beza nezizathu zokubaluleka ezinjengokuthi "Ndahamba ndawela emgodini" okanye "Umbhobho wam wamanzi wawungalindelekanga ngentsasa." Kwaye njalo.
Abanye abazali baqale bafumene ukukhawuleza okunjalo kunye nokuthintela, baze bathe bazibuze: "Lo mfana uneminyaka engama-25 ubudala, kwaye uhleli eentanyeni zabazali bakhe!" Kwakhona uya kuhlala, kuba kuye kukhululekile kuye. Emva koko, akaqhelekanga ukusebenza, ukuphendula ngenxa yeempazamo zakhe kunye neziphene. Oku, kwindlela, ingozi eyona nto ingundoqo ye-infantilism. Abo babambelele ebuntwaneni abanelisekanga ngokugqithiseleyo ngomsebenzi ohloniphekileyo - emva koko, kufuna ukuba i-degree ephezulu yemfanelo. Kwaye banesaba ukuva ebudeni babo bomtshato womtshato waseMendelssohn, ukhetha ukuhlala umtshato womtshato: ukuba kukho na, siya kuchithachitha, kwaye akukho mntu unyanzelekile kunoma ubani. Bahlala beguqula abahlobo kunye nabalingani bezesondo, kuba bahlala bedidekile. "Infantiles" ngokungafuni ukuzala abantwana: oku kunzima kakhulu! Nantsi inja-enye into. Enyanisweni, ukuba uhamba naye yonke imihla ekuseni kwaye kusihlwa kuya kuba nomnye umntu ...
Ngubani osemngciphekweni?
Uphi uphawu lwesifo sengqondo olusuka kuyo - ukungathandi komntu ukukhula? Kukho ingqungquthela eya kuba yinto epheleleyo ngenxa ... inhlalakahle eninzi kuluntu. Njengoko uBoris Grebenshchikov ehlabelela: "Oonyana baka-generals bahlambalaza ngenxa yokuba abananto yokufuna." Ulutsha olutshanje ludla nje: lube nolunye uvela kwii-laptops ukuya emotweni, alufunanga ukuzama nantoni na. Ingxabano iyakholisa, ingakumbi xa sicinga ukuba i-infantilism sele isifo sesizukulwana esincinane, kungekhona kuphela e-Ukraine.
Nangona kunjalo, igama lokugqibela lisabazali. Ukuba ngaba bayakhuthaza ngokuzimela komntwana kunye nokuzimela, inzala ayinakwenzeka ukuba 'ibambelele' ebuntwaneni ixesha elide. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abantwana abangaphezu kwezinto, abaqhankanywe ngothando lwabazali, ukunakekelwa kunye nokunyamekela, kwakhona ungabetheli ngomunwe. Kwaye kutheni ukuba abantu abadala banomdla wokupheka, iibhedi iya kuhlanjululwa, iibhotile zihlambuluke, iingubo zihlanjululwe, kunye nazo zifike kwiipakethi zesikolo isikhwama esigcwele se raznosolov?
Ukuba umama nobaba bengayi kucinga nokuyeka ukunakekela umntwana njengesigulane, ukuxilongwa "kwengqondo yengqondo" kuqinisekiswe kuye. Ngokukodwa ukuba ...
Ixesha elide, umntwana elinde ixesha elide. Abazali baye baphupha ngokubonakala kwakhe iminyaka emininzi kangangokuthi bakulungele ukwenza yonke into yokuba "intshontsho" yabo ethandekayo, nangona ukuba "i-chick" sele igugule.
Umntwana omncinane kwintsapho enkulu. Uhlala ephindiwe, egcinwe ngokucophelela, engaphantsi kancinci. Kuye, njengomthetho, ama-nannies awona nje umama noyise, kodwa nabazalwana nodade abadala.
Abafana abahlala becula ebuntwaneni babo. Abazali, besoyika ngenxa yezifo zabo ezingapheliyo, zama ukukhusela iindlalifa kungekhona kuphela kwimida, kodwa nakwizinto ezincinci: "Musa ukutshaya phantsi, kodwa ngokukhawuleza uya kuhlakulela uthuli?"
Iindlalifa zempumelelo, ezibanjelwe ebomini babantu. Abazali abakhutheleyo, abanamandla, ngeenjongo ezithile ngezinye iinkcukacha bazibamba inzala ngokubaluleka kwabo kwaye baphumelele: "Ndiyifunde kwintsuku yakho yeShakespeare noDickens, kwaye awukwazi ukudibanisa amagama amabini ngesiNgesi!" Ekholelwa ukuba akakwazi ukufikelela kumgangatho ophezulu wokuphumelela kwabazali, umntwana uhamba phambili ngaphambi kokuba naluphi na ubunzima bokuphila, uyaba neentloni kwaye anganeliseki, ekhangele yonke into kumama nonina onamandla onke.
Kukho enye eyingozi kakhulu , xa abazali abacebileyo behlamba abantwana babo kwiindawo zokunethezeka: "Ngaba uya kuhlamba izitya? Kuthiwani ngomgcini wendlu?" Kwimeko engaphezulu, indlu ine-dishwasher. " Ngaloo ndlela, abantu abadala bahlakulela kwiintombi kunye noonyana ukungavumi ukusebenza. Kodwa noRockefeller, indoda engaswelekanga, igcine iindlalifa zakhe kwiiglavu zeemittens, ezinika imali epokothini kuphela ngomsebenzi owenziweyo. Ngoko, umzekelo, ukuloba kweepensile kwindleko ezilishumi, iiyure zezifundo zomculo-ezintlanu, ukuba ukhula olulishumi lukhishwe kwintsimi yokhula umntwana wayefanele abe nedola elilodwa, kwaye unamathele amatni-amashumi elinesithandathu. Kwaye ibhayisekile, kwaye enye yayingenxa yabantwana bakaRockefeller enye yezine: uyise wayekholelwa ukuba ngoko kungekudala abantwana baya kufunda ukwabelana nabanye.
Mye ahambe kwiphulo!
Ngaba ukwesaba ukuba umntwana wakho unamathuba onke okuba ngumntwana ongenanto kunye nomntu olahlayo? Emva koko ungathatha ngokukhawuleza ukumkhupha kule mphampo! Ngaphezu koko, ngokweengcali zeengqondo, kunye nomqondiso ongenakuxhamla wokukhula kwezinto-ukungafuni komntu ukukhula, i-prediction ivame ukukhetha - izifundo zonyango lwabasebenzi, ezibalulekileyo kwaye, kubaluleke kakhulu, izabelo ezinoxanduva - kwaye umntwana ukhula phambi kwamehlo ethu! Kodwa kwiimeko ezinokungahoxiswayo ngaphandle komgulana akakwazi ukwenza, kuba ngaphandle kwengxoxo egcina umphefumlo, unokufuna amayeza.
Okokuqala sincoma ukuba usebenzise iziphakamiso zengqondo.
Khuthaza umntwana ukuba azimele. Ukuba wanquma okokuqala ngqa ebomini bakhe ukupheka i-pasta (apho yajika ibe yiphalaji), musa ukugculela ingcali engenalwazi. Ngaphezu koko - ngeendlela zonke udumo! Yaye kungekhona nje kuphela kwinqanaba, kodwa nangenxa yokutya okulungiselelwe. Kwaye phakathi kwamatyala ndixelele ukuba ngelixa elizayo i-pasta iya kuba yinto enomdla ngakumbi, ukuba ihamba ngezinye izikhathi.
Musa ukudibana nomnindlalifa: uthetha ngakumbi kunye naye, zama ukugcina okungafaniyo nawo onke amava akhe. Hlela iiholide zentsapho, rhoqo uhlala kunye nosapho lonke. Abantwana abangabantwana abangabantwana abangabantwana abangabantwana abangabantwana abangabantwana abangabantwana abangabantwana abangenasiphelo kwaye bawela phantsi kweempembelelo zeenkampani ezimbi nazo zonke iziphumo
Cinga ngoluhlu lwezinto onokuzenza umntwana wakho. Kuya kumnceda, kumsindise kwi-reverie engadingekile, umfundise indlela yokucwangcisa umhla wakhe kwaye athathe uxanduva kwizabelo ezithile. Masithi umfundi ophakamileyo wesikolo esiphakamileyo uyakwazi ukucoca iiteyiti zekati imihla ngemihla, uhlambulule igumbi lakhe kwaye uye esitolo kwisonka. Nika umyalelo womntwana, uhlale uqhubeka kwaye uqhubeka. Ukuba uthe: "Ukucocuza ikati - umsebenzi wakho wemihla ngemihla," ke ungabi buvila ngokuhlwa ukuze ukhangele ukuba iindlalifa zakho ziyakhumbula. Ukhohliwe? Qiniseka ukukhumbuza! Ukuba umntwana ufunda ukuba uxanduva lwemicimbi emincinci, ngoko kwixesha elide, nakwezona zikhulu ziya kwenza ngokunyanisekileyo nangokunyanisekileyo.
Abantwana abangabantwana abangabantwana abangabantwana abangabantwana abangenabuthathaka. Khumbula oku! Umsebenzi wakho-ukukhokela iimfuno zabantwana kwi-adventure ngendlela ekholileyo. Umntwana uphupha ukuhamba kwamanye amazwe? Bhala phantsi kwicandelo lokukhenketho. Kwaye akunandaba ukuba indlela iya kuhlala kufuphi nehlathi, kwaye kungekhona kwintlango yaseSahara, kodwa ukuvakasha kuza kusizisa umphupha ezulwini. Emva kwakho konke, kuyo uya kufunda indlela yokwakha umlilo, ukulungiselela ukutya, ukuhamba ngeenkwenkwezi. Le yilungiselelo lokwenene elide!
Unyana kaMama unobungozi!
Amadoda, umama womphefumlo ongafuni ukuwasela - wathabatha isandla, wamkhusela kubahlobo "ababi", abaphazamisana nokuxabana kwabantwana, bakhula njengabantwana bamama kunye ... nabayeni abangenamsebenzi. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba ukukhulelwa okukhulu komama kubangela ukuba indoda ikhula ngokweenzondelelo, ikholelwa ukuba yonke into kweli hlabathi liphela kuye. Akayithandi ukuthatha imisebenzi engeyomfuneko - emva kwayo yonke into eyenziwe ngumama, kwaye ngoku, ngokwemigca yakhe, yonke into kufuneka yenziwe ngumfazi. Amantombazana angabantwana abaziphatha njengabantwana: bafuna ukuba baqokelelwe emsebenzini, badle ukutya kwasekuseni, nangona ukuba intanda ayibuthongo ubusuku bonke okanye elele ebhedini eneqondo eliphezulu. Xa intsana ingena kwintsapho, ingxabano ayinakupheka, kuba "ukungaqondi kakuhle oku" kususa umfazi othandekayo! Ingxaki kukuba abo bantu banjengobungqingili obuhle besini, kuba banothando kakhulu. Banako, umzekelo, ukuphosa iirusi ezibomvu ezizibomvu ezinyaweni. Enyanisweni, imali yeeresi iyakuthi ithathwe kubazali ...
Infantile kulula ukukhusela kunokuba uphathwe. Qaphela ukuba inzala ...
- Akayithathi nantoni na into okanye iimfuno zakhe zihlala ziguquka;
Ukuzonwabisa nokuzonwabisa kunokubaluleke ngaphezu kokufunda;
- uhlala ecaleni lakhe, axela abanye:
- soloko ucela uluvo lwabantu abadala, kwimiba engabalulekanga kakhulu;
- uhlangabezana nokuguquka kwemoya ebukhali; Ukuhleka kwe-Gurgling kunika indlela yokubamba;
- kungekudala досоживает kude kube sekupheleni kwesifundo, ingakhange igxininise ingqalelo.