Kufanelekile ukuthetha kwiifom zeentsapho kwi-intanethi malunga nesidalwa sikayise, kwaye iimfazwe eziphambili zidlalwa phakathi kweendwendwe, ikakhulukazi zabesifazane. AmaMom aphikisana ukuba ichanekileyo ngokucacileyo ingcamango yokuba "utata olungileyo", yiyiphi impawu ezimele ukuba umntu abe nazo, umntu umele kwisikhundla sokungabikho kobukho bobazali kunye nabapapa baqala ukuthetha kunye nabantwana babo kuphela xa kuba lunomdla (ungathetha, udlale ibhola lebhola, njl.) Ezinye iimama zibiza le ntlonelo kwaye zithetha ngokunyuka ngokuzalwa kwazo, malunga nendlela ubaba osandul 'ukwenziwa ngayo ngothando wayitshintshela i-diapers ekuzalweni kwaye ngaphandle kokucasuka kwavuka ebusuku , U HaVaYaH ebuthongweni bakhe ezixabisekileyo off isiqingatha indawo uhlamba "Pope-getter", umsebenzi walo ongundoqo -. Ukubonelela intsapho, singasathethi ukumelana umama womntwana ngokwakhe. Abanye abakucinge ngobomi bentsapho ngaphandle kokuncediswa kunye nenkxaso yeqabane kwizame zonke: ezivela kwiinkathalo zasekhaya kwimicimbi yokuzilungisa. Ukuba ukusasazwa kweendima kufanelekileyo bobabini abatshatileyo, akukho nto inokuphikisana ngayo, njengoko bethethayo. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba imeko ayihambisani nelinye lamacala?
Liza kuvuthwa nini?
"Xa wethu uAlshasha wazalwa, ndisezulwini le sixhenxe ngonwabile," kusho uNastya. "Kwaye umyeni wam wayebonakala ehleli ngaso sonke ixesha." Uya kufika ekhaya evela emsebenzini, adle isidlo kunye nokuya kwikhompyutha okanye kwi-TV. Ndimxelela malunga nendlela yethu imini kunye nendodana yam idlulayo, uyagxotha, kodwa ingxoxo ayixhasi. Njengoko akanakunomdla. Kungekudala ndamcela ukuba ahlale kunye no-Alyosha ngelixa ndiza kuhlamba. Emva kwemizuzu engama-5, wayesele ephosa emnyango, ngenxa yokuba unyana wakhe wayenobuncwane bakhe, kwaye uyise akayi kutshintsha. "Umzekelo xa unina usana olusana lubizwa ngokuba lunye lunye luye lungaqhelekanga. Kwanele ukufunda yonke imiyalezo efanayo kwiifom ukuqonda le nto, kodwa ukuba yintoni na oyenzayo? Indlela yokuvusa isisa sikayise kumntwana osanda kuzalwa? Ngokuchasene nemfundiso engafanelekanga, ukholo lukabawo lukhona, lubonakalisa ... ukukhusela inzala yakhe Ngamanye amagama, ngelixa wena nosana lwakho ningasongelwa , UTata uxolo. i-diaper, ukwazi i-diaper, i-alas, ayisebenzisi ukunyanzelisa imingcipheko eyongela ubomi bomntwana, ngakwelinye icala, yonke into inokuthi ithathelwe kwi-physiology, kwaye uzama ukutshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo ukuba awukwazi ukuguqula wena. Yonke amehlo akho, amahomoni akho ahlaselayo, kwaye izilwanyana zakho zokubeletha ziyakuncipha zonke ezinye izinto, zihlasele kwinqanaba lokuzigcina .Le ndlela yokulala iinqabunga, uthinte isondlo sayo esihle okanye isitulo esihle. Yaye umyeni unako (unelungelo!) Ukungabi nxaxheba nawe ngokuzonwabisa kwakho, kwaye kungekhona ngenxa yokuba ungenandaba ne-chump. Makhe ngendlela yakhe ufumane ulonwabo loluntu-ngokuziqhenya ngomntwana wakhe, ekuvuyiseni ukucinga ngemiphumo yakhe, ekukholweni ukuba ungumama olungileyo kunye nawe umntwana uzele, ulungele kakuhle kwaye uyonwabile. Yazisa oko intloko yentsapho yenzayo malunga nenhlalakahle yakho: unikezela intsapho, isebenza (apho, ngendlela, mhlawumbi idiniwe), ikukhathalele wena nosana.
Awufuni ukubeka umlinganiselo onamandla? Mthetho ngokuhlakanipha. Qalisa ngokukhawuleza ukudonsa ndawonye ubaba kunye nentwana. Yaye kungekhona ngokutshintsha i-diaper, kodwa ngezinto ezintle kakhulu-zithembela oothileyo onoyole kwaye onwabileyo ukuba axoxe noodade bexesha lokubambisana, makabeke badlale. Ngexesha elifanayo, hlala ecaleni kwaye uthathe inxaxheba kwinkqubo ngokwakho, ulungele nanini na ukuthabatha i-baton.
Ngothando lonke
U-Ella uthi: "Ubaba wethu ngokuzalwa kukaMashka utshintshile. - Ihlabathi liphela ngoku lijikeleze intombi yakhe: Ndiyakuva kuphela: kwaye uMashenka wayidla? Kwaye uyambethe ntoni ukuhamba? Kutheni ungamfundisi ukuba afunde? Ngelo xesha, ubaba ngokwakhe ufunda iincwadi malunga nokukhulisa abantwana, unquma ixesha lokuzisa ukutya okuncedisayo. Abahlobo bam bayaba nomona, kwaye ndiva ... inxalenye yentombi yam. "Ewe, i heroine yebali ibonakala iyonwabile, kwaye ayonwabanga - kuba indoda yakhe iphazamisa kakhulu kuyo yonke into, ingashiyi indawo yokuhamba, kwaye enye isenokugubha ngokukhululeka, ukutshintsha konke ukunyamekela umntwana kumpapa, kodwa kwakukho, kwimeko, ukutshintshelwa okanye ukutshintshwa kweendima kwenzeka. Upapa, ngaphezu kwemisebenzi yakhe eyakhekileyo, uthatha oomama, eshiya umfazi ngaphandle komsebenzi Ukuba ibhinqa ngaphambi kokuvela komntwana kule nto E udlala indima yokuba umntwana ukuba indoda yakhe, kodwa ngoku babugubungela iimvakalelo ziyatshintshatshintsha -. Wobukhwele, imvakalelo yokulahlwa Ukongeza, umsebenzi daddy enjalo akuthethi anike umfazi bazive ngokupheleleyo kakhulu ngathi umama yoko ukunganeliseki eyenzekayo ..
Ngamanye amaxesha utata ubonisa ukugcinwa kwemali kwaye ... ezama ukukholisa umfazi wakhe. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba oobawo abanobubele banamadoda anamazinga aphakamileyo e-estrogen - ama-hormone eesini zesini. Ukususela kumbono we-physiology, yonke into iyinyani: kukho i-hormones ejongene nokubonakaliswa komntu othile, ngokulandelanayo, ukuba ezi zibonakaliso ekuziphatheni komntu ziyaqwalaselwa, ngoko, kunye namahomoni ngobuninzi. Enyanisweni, kunoma yimuphi umntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba isini, kukho amahomoni angamadoda namabhinqa. Ngaphandle koko, "abafazi be-100%" baya kuba bathambile kwaye bancedise, kwaye amadoda angama-100% ahlasele kakhulu, kuba umbuzo awukho phambi kwamahomoni, kodwa ngokulinganisela kwawo. "Iimodmoni ezininzi zamabhinqa kumntu, iimpawu zowesifazane zibonakaliswa kuye. Iintsapho ezonwabileyo zifunyenwe apho umlinganiselo wama-hormone edibeneyo uncedisa: umzekelo, onomntwana onomdla, umninimzi uziphatha kakuhle ngumntu ofumana umama onomdla wokufumana umntwana neg (ngamanye amagama, iihomoni eyindoda ngobuninzi yakhe). Ukuze ihlabathi mihla le utshintshiselwano iindima eyamkelekileyo eqhelekileyo. Iingxaki kwenzeka apho hormone "asasazwa" ngokulinganayo. Ngokomzekelo, bobabili abazali bafuna ukuhlala benomdla, kwaye ngoko, umama, emva kokuzalwa komntwana ephuma "ekuboshwe ngesandla," uqala ukuxinwa ngendima yakhe, uzama ukuqinisekisa ukuba uxanduva luya kwaziswa ngokufanayo, apho oomama banokuvakala ukuva: "Lo mntwana kum mna owokuqala, andiyazi ukuba ndingamnyamekela njani, kodwa ukuba ndifunda, kutheni akufanele ukuba upapa? " Emva kokufikelela kwisingqinisiso, wonk 'ubani kule ntsapho uyatshintshana: bayatshintsha ngokumelana nomntwana phakathi kobusuku, batyekele ukutsala (ukuba kungekhona malunga nokuncelisa, ngokuqinisekileyo), baphenduke ngokuhamba. Yaye imali kwimali yohlahlo lwabiwo-mali, njengolu hlobo, ixutywe kwisiqingatha.
Masibhale iziphumo
Ootata, njengomama, bahluke, kwaye akunakwamkeleka ukuba babale ndawonye bonke. Intsapho ngumzimba ophilayo, kwaye nayiphi na inguqu kuyo kufuneka ibe oboyudozhelannymi. Kwaye, ewe, ukuba umi kwindawo, "andiyikugxekwa, kwaye wena, njengakoloko, u-idiot," awunayo imiphumo emihle. Khangela ukudibanisa, hamba komnye nomnye, kwaye ungazicima. Kodwa qalisa ucinga malunga naluphi uhlobo lompapa ongalufaka intloko yakho yentsapho.
• Utata ngumcebisi. Ubaba usebenza kakhulu kwaye usekhaya ekhaya. Kwaye xa ebonakala, ukhathele kwaye "kungcono ukuba ungaguquki." Ukuba ufuna ukuba nobaba ophazamisayo kunye nomyeni onobubele obusondeleyo kuwe, u ... kuya kufuneka utshintshe indoda.Ukufanelekile na? "Ukukhumbuza" sele sele ikhona, uya kuneliseka. Emva kwakho konke, kunokuvela ukuba esikhundleni sokufumana imali, utata ukhetha ukuhlala nawe kwi-sandbox. Yaye ngubani na oya kubonelela intsapho?
• Utata-hen. Ubambelela ngenyameko ngomntwana, ufunde iincwadi, udlala naye kwaye uthethe ngokuphila ixesha elide. Naluphi na "umsebenzi we-hacks" ekuhlwa nakwiempelaveki, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukhetha ukuzonwabisa kwentsapho.Ngaphandle kwendoda enjalo uya kuziva uthandwayo.Ukuba umvuzo kabawo unelisekile iimfuno zeentsapho kunye neenjongo, loo nto iyakwazi ukuthandana. Kufuneka uqiniseke nje ukuba uyihlo akayi kuba ngumntwana wakho.
• Uyihlo ongumfokazi. Ubonakala ehamba nawe, kodwa ngokungathi akaqondi nto. Kuyinto enomdla ngakumbi ukuba nabahlobo kunentsapho. Utata uhlala ecaleni, kwaye akunakutsholwa ukuba uyasebenza kwimpilo yoluntu-uyayikhathalela inhlalakahle yosuku nosuku. Loo mzekelo uvame ukufunyanwa phakathi kwamadoda abe ooyise "ngokungabandakanyeki" - engazange aphuhlise ngokwengqondo, ukuba ngumntwana ngokwakhe, indoda ingamelana nayo, njengokuba kunjalo, iwele kuye imithwalo yemfanelo.Akunye, le nto ibonakala ifunyanwa iindawo zethu zokuhlala, kwaye ngokungaziwa kwiWest - apho bathatyelwa khona emva kokutshata kwaye banabantwana kuphela xa bevuthiwe ngaphakathi ngaphakathi. Yintoni enokuyenza kwiimeko ezinjalo sele zikhona? Zama ukunceda lakho iqabane likhule. Oko akwenzela wena nentsana, uthi uyavuya ukuba uyayikhathalela njani kwaye uyayinyamekela njani, indlela ekuncedayo ngayo (nangona ukuba akunjalo!) Emva kokuba esetyenziswe ekubeni ungumzali wento yonke kwimpendulo kwaye ngokugqibeleleyo ngayo yonke le nto yokujamelana nayo, intloko yentsapho ingaba nayo kwaye iyasebenza.
• Utata ngumntwana. Ubawo onovuyo olukhulu unabantwana, kodwa kuphela. kumnandi kwaye kunomdla kuye. Ukudlala nomntwana? Nceda! Ewe, ngovuyo! Njengomntwana, njengomthetho, abantwana abayithandi intshukumo, ulungelelanisa ukunyuka, ucinga umdlalo othakazelisayo, ukuvumela ukuba udle i-candy enezandla, uze unqande isijeziso somama. kunye noTata - iholide lomntu .Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kulungile, abantwana banento ejabulisayo, kwaye kwenye - akunakwenzeka ukuba umama "omubi" uya kuthanda. Ngaba kuyimfuneko ukulungisa ngokuthe ngqo ukuziphatha kukapapa, ngokuvisisana naye ukuba angenzi "iphoyisa elibi" kumama, kwaye, mhlawumbi, bajoyine imidlalo yabo yegay? Wonke umntu uya kuneliseka!
Ukuba ubawo uhlala ngokwahlukileyo
Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba intsapho idibanise ngexesha lokukhulelwa komfazi, okanye uceba ukukhulisa umntwana yedwa. Sinokusihlawulela njani ilungu elishiyekileyo lentsapho kunye nomntwana kwimeko enjalo? Okokuqala, kufuneka simkele le meko kwaye singayiphathi njengento ephosakeleyo. Ukubandezeleka ngenxa yecala phambi komntwana wakhe ngenxa yokuba ekhula kwintsapho engaphelelanga, ibhinqa libeka umgodi ngempembelelo elibazisekile kulwalamano nosana. Okokuqala, ukuziva umama ongeyonto, umntwana sele sele eseneminyaka emncinci kakhulu unokufunda ukuba kukho into engalunganga kuye. Ukugxininisa kwimeko ngokwayo, umama njengokuba uthetha kumntwana: "Asinjengomntu wonke." Kwaye ukuba ukuhlukana kwindoda akuzange kwenzeke ngentando yowesifazane, ngoko ukungahambi kakuhle kwakhe kunokunyanzelwa yindoda yakhe kunye nokumangalela ebomini. Yintoni onokuyenza kule meko? Zithathele umthetho: umama onwabileyo kunye nomntwana wakhe.Ukuba uphatha iimeko njengentlekele, umntwana uya kuqonda ngendlela efanayo, kuba ubheka ihlabathi ngamehlo akho. Ewe, imeko UMnu ilungile, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba wena okanye umntwana wakho ngenye indlela embi, ngoko kwenzeka!! Okwesibini, kubalulekile ukunyamekela ukuba kukho amadoda kwimeko yomntwana-ntombi-ntombi, oyintandane, ohlobo bakho. imodeli yokuziphatha, nciphise le ngxenye yobomi. Ngoko ke, umfanekiso wakhe wehlabathi uya kuhlanganiswa ngokupheleleyo kwaye ichanekile. Kule meko, ubulili bomntwana abubalulekanga. Ukuba khona kwindoda ebomini bomntwana kuyafaneleka kubafana abafunda kuzo ukuba babe ngamadoda, kunye namantombazana, ukuhambelana nokuhluka kweentsebenziswano Mna kwisiqingatha olomeleleyo yoluntu.