Sebenza kwiibhugi
Musa ukuxhaphaza, kodwa zama ukufumana umdla kumyalelo oyifunayo. Umzekelo: "Ukuba uyidla kakuhle, uya kuba namandla kwaye uza kukwazi ukukhwela ibhasilo ngokukhawuleza". "Ukuba ulala emini - uya kuba namandla, unokuhamba uhambo olude kwi-zoo." Le mabinzana umntwana aqondayo ngokuthi "ulungile, awusoze ufumana nantoni na." Iyalonakalisa ngokoqobo ukuzithemba kunye namandla akho. Esizayo, umntwana akanakwenzeka ukuba afune ukuzama isandla sakhe kwicandelo lezemidlalo okanye kwisikolo somculo. Ukwenza amaphutha, umntwana ukhula kwaye akhule ukuzithemba. Singamnceda ngamagama athi: "Zama kwakhona!"; "Uqhekeke? Akumangazi, ngoku siya kulungisa! ".
The lekiswa
"U-Masha ubuye emithathu, kwaye uhlamba izandla ngokwakhe!"; "Khangela le nkwenkwana - akaze alwe!". Umntwana uqala ukungabaza - ngaba abazali bayamthanda ngempela? Mhlawumbi ummelwane uMas useninzi? Ngaba abayi kuhamba kuye ngonaphakade? Ngenxa yoko, esikhundleni sokuba "umzekelo omhle" umntwana ufumana ukwesaba nokudideka, kwaye endaweni yomnqweno wokumxelisa ummelwane uMashe - umona kunye nomnqweno wokuwuthatha njengengubo ye-pigtail, ngoko kungenjalo. Isicwangciso esilungileyo ngakumbi ukulungiselela ukhuphiswano kumntwana ... kunye naye. Kwinyanga edlulileyo akazange ahlambe izandla zakhe - kwaye ngoku waqala: wayengayazi indlela yokukhwela ibhayisekile kunyaka odlulileyo-ngoku uqhuba ngaphandle "kwama-satellites" ... Qala igazini elihle lempumelelo kwaye ulibuke usana. mpu melelo.
Ukudumisa
"Nguwe oqinileyo kum (okwaziyo, ocebisayo ...); "Apho uSashka ungaphambi kwakho!", Zama ukungadumisi nje umntwana ("Wena ungoyena mhle kakhulu"), kunye nezenzo zakhe ("Utsalwe ngokupheleleyo", "Wenza konke kakuhle"). Ngaphandle koko, umntwana uya kuxhomekeka kakhulu kwimvume yabanye kwaye uya kufuna ukudumisa, kwaye angayi kufeza injongo. Ukongeza, kungekudala incinci yakho iya kuba kwiqela lezingane zokuqala (i-nursergart, isikolo), apho oontanga abangenakwenzeka ukukhawuleza ukuqonda "inkwenkwezi" yakhe. Kwaye oku kunokudumala okukhulu.
Iintlawulo
"Yeka ukumemeza - intloko yam iya kuphuma!"; "Uninina akazange amise intliziyo!" Kwaye umntwana uthatha yonke into. Iintsana ezinomdla kunye neemvakalelo zingaguquzela - emva koko, ngenxa yembonakaliso evulekileyo yeemvakalelo, i-momma inokubhabhisa iziqhekeza! I-Karapuzy ubuwula buzama: ngokuphakama kunye nokukhala okukhulu, baya kuqiniseka ukuba iintliziyo zentloko ziphelile, kwaye ziya kuhoywa zonke iifowuni zakho. Kamva aba bantwana abanakwenzeka ukuba babe novelwano kunye nawe ngexesha lokugula - umama wayedla ngokuphindaphindiweyo kangangokuba ibuhlungu ... Indlela efanelekileyo yokujongana nomntwana othukuthelayo kukuguqula umdlalo. Ephawulwe yindlu ngeemvalo ezindala - vuka uze uhlebe into ethile endlebeni yakho.
Ultimatums
Ukuba ujwayele ukubamba urhulumente kuphela nge-ultimatum, biza uncedo kumdlalo. Ngokomzekelo, isobho sisilwanyana, apho iinqanawa ze-float-izityalo. I-"kitty" yakho iya kuyigwinya ngokuzithandela "
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"Andiyithandi ukuba uyithande!"; "Ewe, ngubani oza kuba ngumhlobo onjalo?"; "Awuyi kuthobela - andiyi kuthanda!". Akukho mntwana omnye la mabinzana akwenziwanga ukuba aziphathe kakuhle. Ngokuchaseneyo, umntwana uqala ukuziva uloyiko olunzulu kunye nokudideka. Futhi uzama ukubuyisela umdla womama kuzo naziphi na iindlela ezikhoyo-oko kukuthi, i-whims kunye ne-hysterics. Emva kwayo yonke into, umntwana uyazibona ukuba uthando lomama okanye ukungabi naso kuye ngumcimbi wokusinda, ngoko ayikho imbeko! Ukungaxeli ukuba ukudibanisa ngothando kunokukhokelela ekuziphatheni okuphantsi kweenjongo ezide: umntwana uya kukhumbula ukuba ngokwabo akafanelanga uthando, ngaphandle kokuba engayi kuzalisekisa zonke iimfuno zabanye. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kumama kukuba "ulungelo lwegrama": ngokubhekiselele kumntwana, igama elithi "uthando" kunye nenxalenye "ayikho" ayisebenzisi. Akukho nto ngaphandle kolawulo.
Xa ukuthula kugolide
Ufuna ukugxeka umyeni wakho (umfazi, ugogo womntwana). Ezi ngqamlana zihlala zithuthuzela, xa into yokugxeka ingekho. "Ubaba akayifuni kwakhona isitya sakho!"; "Umama uya kuhlanganisana iminyaka eyikhulu!"; "Ngaba ugogo wakho wakwenza? Kuphela kubonakaliswe! "... Kubonakala kuwe, omncinci akayithobeli loo mazwi? Ewe, kwaye uwathetha nabo, ngokubanzi, kungekhona umntwana, ukuhlaselwa, izibini ezikhishwe? Gcinani engqondweni: zonke ezi ndinyana zifakwe emphefumlweni womntwana okanye ngesimo sengqumbo (emva koko, uvakalelwa kukuba yinxalenye yomama noyise, ukuba uyise unobungozi, yena ngokwakhe ulungile); okanye ngendlela yokungathembeki kuwe ("iliso elinye, amehlo omnye"). Ukunyelisa "ukunyelisa" kubangela ukuba isihlobo esinokugxeka silahlekelwa intlonipho yentsana. Ukukhubekisa kumamazala? Emva koko ungalindeli ukuba umntwana ahlale naye, aziphathe kakuhle. Utsalwe ukuxoxa nomntwana ebusweni bakhe. Abantwana basebenzisa ukucinga ngabo ngokwabo ngabazali babo bathi ngabo. Ngoko ke, xa umntwana enomdla ngokumba ifosholo, ungathandabuzeki nomhlobo: "Ubuthakathaka," "Kukho into enyembezi," kwaye "Kwintsibano yezilwane kunye naye ahlushwa."