Imikhwa emibi yinto yonke - kubantwana nakubantu abadala. Kwaye akukho mntu uya kukhanyela ukuba imikhwa yabantu abadala, ngokungafani neyabantwana, ayinabungozi. Ngoko-ke, musa ukugweba ngokuthe ngqo ukuba ubona ukuba umntwana usana ngomnwe, kwaye ungamkhawulezi ukummangalela, mhlawumbi nawe awufezekanga.
I-Habit - ithetha indlela efanelekileyo yokuziphatha, efumana umgangatho wesidingo. Umkhwa uvela ekubeni namandla kunye nezakhono. Okokuqala, umntu kufuneka afunde isenzo esithile, ngoko uzuze isakhono, kwaye ngoko kuphela unokuba ngumkhwa. Umkhwa uthathwa njengengozi ukuba unokulimaza impilo, uphuhliso kunye nokulungelelaniswa koluntu lomntu.
Kwaye ngoku siza kuzama ukudibanisa iintlobo ezisemgangathweni zendlela yokulimaza abantwana, izizathu kunye nezindlela zokuzicima.
Umkhwa uyathuthuzela. Imikhwa enjalo iquka ukunamathela isithupha, ukutsala izinto, ukubetha (nibbling) izipikili, ukukhenkceza, ukudonsa iinwele, kunye nokuguqula intloko okanye i-trunk yakho. Kwintliziyo yokuvela kwemikhwa enjalo yimfuneko engagqibekanga. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kungabikho kwengqalelo yomzali, ukulungelelanisa okunzulu kwi-kindergarten, ukuhamba, umtshato womtshato okanye enye imeko exinzelelekileyo. Umkhuba omubi kumntwana uba yindlela yokukhawulwa. Kwaye ukuba ukusela umnwe kunye ne-nibbling yezipikili kuthetha, ngokunjalo, malunga nokungabikho kwengqwalasela, ngoko-ke ukugunda i-masturbation kukufaka ingqinamba kwingxaki enzulu ngakumbi-kuba ngumhlobo wothando lomzali nothando.
Ndingathanda ukuhlala kumkhwa wokutshiza ngomunwe. Kwiintsana ukuya kunyaka le nto yinto eqhelekileyo, ungakhathazeki ngabo, ukutsala ngomunwe kubonakaliso lwe-reflex esondayo, kufutshane nomnyaka xa umntwana efumana imisebenzi emininzi, loo mkhwa uyanyamalala ngokwawo. Kodwa xa umntwana eqala ukunamathela umnwe osondele kwiminyaka emithathu, oku kubonisa ukunganeliseki kwakhe.
Yintoni endiyenzayo?
- Zama ukuqonda oko kwabangela umkhuba omubi;
- Mphazamise umntwana ngemisebenzi enomdla kwaye ecacileyo, kunye nokuthetha kunye noontanga;
- Ukubeka umntwana ukuba alale, uhlale naye ade alele, xela ibali okanye ucule ingoma, ubeke izandla zakhe ngobumnene;
- Sebenzisa ixesha elininzi ngangokunokwenzeka ngomntwana. Ingqalelo yabazali yenye yezona zibalulekileyo ezibalulekileyo zezingane.
Yintoni engenakuyenza?
- Ukugxininisa kwengqalelo yomntwana kwimikhwa emibi. Abantwana bavame ukwenza izinto eziqhelekileyo bengenzi lutho, kule nqanaba, umkhwa unokudlula ngokwawo. Ukuba umntwana uhlala ekhunjuzwa ukuba ayenze kakubi kangakanani, athabathe umunwe okanye ahlambe izipikili zakhe, lo mkhwa unako ukufumana ingqondo engqondweni yakhe, kwaye ukuwukhupha kuya kuba nzima kakhulu;
- Gweba, uhlazeke kwaye ujezise umntwana;
- Zama ukulahla umkhwa weendlela "ugogo" - ukusasaza iminwe ngepilisi, ukubopha, njl. Umkhwa ngumphumo, kwaye kufuneka ulahlekise imbangela, ngaphandle koko uqhuba ingxaki ngaphakathi, ulahle umkhwa owodwa, usengozini yokufumana enye;
- Mshiye umntwana ukuba alele yodwa.
Umkhwa ngumphumo wemfundo. Iimpawu ezinjalo zifana noomama abaneminyaka engama-3-4 ubudala. Yaye ityala yonke imimoya embi. Ewe, oko kukuthi, imimoya embi. Ukuba umntwana wakho usetyenziselwa ukukhankanya ngokukhawuleza, ukukhetha esidlangalaleni kwimpum, ukuthetha ngomlomo opheleleyo, ukubamba i-cutlet, njl., Mhlawumbi ulahlekile into xa utshayile imbeko. Kwaye nikela ingqalelo abo bajikelezayo, kwaye kunjalo, ukuba wena, kuba abantwana bathatha umzekelo kubadala.
Yintoni endiyenzayo?
- Khuphula "imilinganiselo efanelekileyo" kumntwana, fundisa imilinganiselo emihle, - ungathethi xa udla, uhlambulule impumlo yakho kwisitya sokuhlambela, uhlaziye ngokukhawuleza ukutya kwakho, ungagxininisi kwimikhwa yakhe embi;
- Ukuba umntwana uziphathe ngendlela engahlambulukanga, xelela ngaye kwifom ethambileyo kwaye ungenakuzifumana kwabanye.
Yintoni engenakuyenza?
- Hlonipha umntwana kunye nabanye abantu. Oku akuyi kusindisa kumkhwa, kodwa unobungozi bokulahlekelwa yithemba lomntanakho;
- Ukusebenzisa kakubi umntwana, sebenzisa amagama "ingulube" okanye into enjalo. Ukugxeka kunciphisa igunya elilodwa lomzali, zama ukufumana iindlela ezininzi zenkcubeko.
Khumbula ukuba umntwana, onjengawe, unombono wakhe, iimfuno kunye neemfuno zakhe. Ufuna ukubona umntwana wakho onwabile kwaye engenakho imikhwa emibi, phatha umntu omncinci ngenhlonipho, ingqalelo kunye nothando.