Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima abantwana ukuba balandele, ingakumbi kubantwana abancinci, makhe sijonge kwiingcebiso kunye neengcebiso eziza kukunceda kwintsapho yakho ukuba ufundise izakhono zabantwana kunye nemithetho eyisiseko yokuziphatha okukhuselekileyo.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukufundisa? Oku kuthetha ukufundisa abantwana ngendlela ethile yobomi. Umntwana ngamnye kufuneka aphuhliswe indlela yokukhusela, eya kusebenza ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Ngoko unokukhusela umntwana wakho kwaye umkhusele kwiimeko ezininzi apho abantwana bevame ukuphuma khona.
Funda iincwadi, ezinikezelwe ngokukodwa ukhuseleko lwabantwana. Imithetho emininzi yokuziphatha iyaziwa kubo bonke abazali, kodwa izingozi ziqhubeka zenzeka, ngoko zifumanisa ukuba zeziphi iingcali ezicinga ngazo, umzekelo, amapolisa, iingcali zeengqondo kunye nootitshala.
Cingisisa iimpawu zomntwana wakho kunye nobudala bakhe. Emva kwakho konke, xa umntwana wakho eqala nje kwaye uqhubeka umqhubela kwisigxina, akukho mithetho inokumfundisa. Ubomi bakhe buxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kuwe, kubazali bakho, kunye nogogo nomkhulu.
Khumbula ukuba ukuba unomntwana omncinci, akufanele ukuba ube phantsi kweliso lakho-njalo uhlale kufuphi naye.
Kodwa ngokukhawuleza xa i-crumb iguquka iminyaka emithathu okanye emine ubudala, kufuneka iqonde into "entle" kwaye yintoni "embi"; ukwazi ukubiza zonke iinxalenye zomzimba wakho, ngendlela, ubuhlobo obusondeleyo, cela umama wakho imvume, unako ukuthatha i-candy kumntu onganikezanga; Ukuqikelela okanye ukuxabisa abantu abangaqhelekanga. Ngaphezu koko, umntwana ngamnye ngexesha elide kwaye ngokukodwa abantwana beeminyaka ephezulu kufuneka bazi igama elipheleleyo, isibongo, ifowuni, idilesi kunye nabazali beefowuni.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana uthembele kuwe, nakuzo zonke izinto. Yenza oku, kuba ngamabali akhe athembekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha kunye nokukhala komphefumlo, ukucacisa okuninzi, kwaye ngokubulela kule nto ungayiqonda indlela umfana omncinci ejoliswe ngayo kwiimeko ezahlukileyo nokuba ngaba uyaziqhelanisa nantoni na, ingaba unokulwa nokuzimela. Kungenxa yezi zizathu ukuba akufanele unqunyane nomntwana wakho ukuba ufuna ukukuxelela into kunye nokwenza ntoni, nokuba uxakeke kakhulu. Nangona umntwana omncinci ongenakukwazi ukuyiqonda kakuhle iingcamango zakhe kufuneka zive.
Ukuba umntwana uzama ukuxelela unina okanye ubaba into ethile, ngoko ukumphendula ngokungakhathaleli kuyiphutha elingenakuthethelelwa, emva koko, oku kungenza ibe yingozi kwimiphumela yomzali kunye nomntwana. Ngokuchaseneyo, zama ukuhlala ukhuluma ne-crumb, mbizele kwingxoxo. Ngeengxoxo ezinjalo, khumbula indlela owawuhlala ngayo ebuntwaneni bakho kwaye uthetha ngawo kumntwana wakho. Njengomthetho, abantwana bayayithanda kwaye banomdla kakhulu ekuphulaphuleni, ngenxa yoko baqala ukuqonda ukuba uMama wayeseyinto encinci kwaye ngaphezu koko, wafumana "amabali" amnandi.
Ukuba ufunde ukuba kwimeko ethile engaqhelekanga umntwana wenza into efanelekileyo, ke ungaphuthelwa umzuzu ukumdumisa. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu, kuba kwiimeko ezilandelayo uya kuqiniseka ngakumbi kuye. Kodwa ukuba umntwana wenza into engalunganga, musa ukumemeza, ungamangali, kodwa uchaze ngokucacileyo oko wakwenza kakubi kunye nemiphumo.
Kuphela ngoqhagamshelwano oluqhubekayo nomntwana onokukwazi ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukunyamekela kwakho, ubuninzi obungayincika kuye kwaye ulinike "inkululeko" (vumela ukuba uye kwiyintombi yakho, umthumelele esitolo, umshiye ekhaya, njl.)
Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela enye into enobunzima: ukuba umntwana uyabakhuphaza abazali, akaqhagamshelana nabo, ufuna ukuqonda phakathi kwamanye amazwe kwaye kungekhona ekhaya, kodwa kwezinye iindawo.
Musa ukuxhaphaza abantwana! Khumbula ukuba akudingeki ukuba wazi zonke iinkcukacha zolwaphulo-mthetho. Kuthe ixesha elide iingcali zithetha malunga nokuba abazali bazama ukukhusela abantwana, bethetha zonke iindidi "zamabali adibanayo", oku kungakhokelela ekuhambeni okuchasene ngokupheleleyo. Emva koko, abantwana beengxaki ezinzima bahlala besengozini, kuba ukwesaba kuyabaphazamisa kwaye, ncinane, banqwenela umnqweno wokwenza into okanye ngendlela ethile.
Uloyiko lubonakalisa intuition yentsana kwaye lwenza lusebenze ngokusemthethweni. Ngoko ke, ukuba abantwana badinga ukubika nayiphi na imeko, kuphela ukuze kungenzi buhlungu umphefumlo omncinci, ngakumbi ukuba i-crumb iyingozi kwaye icinga kakhulu.
Injongo yakho kukuxelela nokukhuthaza umntwana, oko akwaziyo ukukwenza, nokucacisa ukuba ukuba wenza into efanelekileyo, akaze afike kwiimeko eziyingozi, kwaye nokuba oko kwenzeka, ngoko umntwana uya kuphuma kwaye afune indlela yokuphuma.
Yenza njalo kunye nomntwana wakho. Fundisa ukuziphatha kwakhe okukhuselekileyo - akusiyo imini okanye ngumsebenzi wonyaka. Ngaphezu koko, ungalokothi uphakamise ilizwi lakho, ungakhangeli, ungabethi, kwaye ingakumbi ungasongeli umntwana, mhlawumbi uya kuphazamiseka nabanye oomama babesitratweni, nawe.
Kancinci usebenzise isakhono ngasinye sokuziphatha okukhuselekileyo. Zama ukuqwalasela ukuba umntwana ukhumbule izenzo zakhe, wafunda isifundo. Mbuze into engayiqondiyo. Khumbula ukuba ukuthotyelwa kwemithetho yokhuseleko kufuneka kube ngokuzenzekelayo kwaye kusisigxina, kungekhona ngokuphulaphulwa kwimeko. Kule ndlela kuphela uya kukwazi ukukhusela iimvuthu.
Fundisa umntwana wakho ngeendlela ezininzi. Ngabantwana bedlala needodoli (idonk ifuna ukuthatha umalume womnye emotweni, idonsa ilahlekile, njl.) Ukuba ngaba bekhulile abantwana, sebenzisa izigcawu (esitratweni, ekhaya), thetha ngabanye abantwana abenza ngokuchanekileyo kwiimeko ezinje, babuze: "Yaye uza kwenza ntoni kwimeko enjalo ...", khankanya amabali akho, iinkumbulo.
Beka umzekelo kubantwana bakho. Yonke into oyithethayo, inokulibaleka yinkwenkwe, ukuba unamathele kwimigaqo yokuziphatha okukhuselekileyo. Ukuba awubukeli kwinqanaba, xa umntu egosa emnyango, ngoko ke umntwana wakho akayi kwenza oko.
Musa ukushiya abanye abantwana babantu enkingeni. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza ubonile imeko enobungozi apho kwakukho inyana yomnye (bazama ukumphoqa kwindawo ethile, wayelahlekile, ufakwa emotweni, njl.), Bonise inxaxheba yakho. Ukuba ungenelela emzimbeni, yenza ngoko! Ukuba usatshatile, qiniseka ukuba ukhumbule inani lenqwelo, uphawu kunye nombala, apho babethuliswa khona, iimpawu zezigebengu, ingxelo ngale meko kumapolisa.
Mhlawumbi namhlanje ubonise uvelwano kwaye uncedisa umntu ongaziwayo, kwaye ngomso umntu uya kunceda umntwana wakho aze amgcine.
Kubalulekile ukuqwalasela iimeko ezahlukeneyo apho kuyimfuneko ukuqinisekisa ukukhuselwa.
Ubuhlobo bakho nabantwana
Khumbula into ebalulekileyo yokuthetha nomntwana wakho ngokuphindaphindiweyo, unqume ukuthatha imifanekiso yeengxaki ezintle kakhulu. Ngoko inkwenkwe iya kuqinisekiswa ukuba uya kumnceda kwaye uyamxhasa kuyo nayiphi na imeko, akayi kuyika ukuxelela yona "izinto ezintle" kakhulu.
Xa sibona indlela eyenziwa ngayo, siyazijonga. Oku kuthetha ukuba thina ngokwethu kufuneka siqaphele kwaye silumke, kuba siyazi ukuba nayiphi na isenzo omncinci angakwazi ukuphinda, kwaye ngokuchanekileyo.Ngoko, ukuba wena ngokwakho uqala ukwethuka nayiphi na imeko, i-foal ayikwazi ukuzibamba ngesandla. Ukuba ufuna inkonyana ihambelane nemithetho yokhuseleko, kuqala kokulandelayo landela wena.
Kubantwana bakho, umzekelo wakho ubaluleke kakhulu - le yindlela efanelekileyo yokuziphatha. Ukuba uhlala ukhusela ukhuseleko lwakho, ngoko umntwana uya kwenza okufanayo. Naliphi na isela okanye i-maniac echanekileyo kwaye ikhetha ngokunyamekileyo ixhoba, ilinde abantu ixesha elide, kwaye ukuba ufundela umntwana wakho ingqalelo, ingozi yokuba uya kuphangwa okanye uza kula "ezandleni" ze-kmaniac iya kwehla ngo-50%.