Phantse bonke abazali bazibuze: nini kwaye njani ukuxelela umntwana wakho ngesondo kunye nendlela abantwana abazalwa ngayo. Abazali abaninzi kakhulu bahlala besichukumisa ingxoxo encinci nomntwana, benethemba ngelinye ilanga lo mbuzo uza kulungiswa ngokwawo. Kwaye kwimeko ezininzi ezi zinto zenzeke: abantwana bafunda ngobomi besondo ngaphandle kobazali babo, kodwa kubahlobo babo abanolwazi, kwiimifanekiso zethelevishini, i-intanethi, iimagazini ezindala okanye abavalele ingxoxo. Kodwa ngaba kulungile ukuba umntwana ufumane ulwazi lwesigaba esithandana naye ngale ndlela, okanye kungcono ukukhanyisa umntwana ngokwakhe?
Xoxa ngesondo kunye nezingane zidinga!
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngenxa yento yokuba umntwana ufumana ulwazi malunga nesakhiwo sesitho zesini kunye nolwabelana ngesini kwimithombo engaqinisekiyo kwaye engathembekiyo, iingcinga ezingalunganga zenziwe nje kuphela ngokwahlukileyo komzimba phakathi kwezesondo, kodwa ngokunxulumene nolwalamano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Kwaye ezi ngcamango ezingekho phantsi zihlala zichithwe kwi zifundo ze-anatomy esikolweni. Kuba abantu abaninzi ezi ngcamango eziphosakeleyo zihlala ebomini, zibathintele ukuba bangene ngokuqhelekileyo kwiintlobano zesini esahlukileyo.
Ngaloo ndlela, ekupheleni kwekhulu leminyaka elidlulileyo, abaphengululi baseYurophu benza uphando olufumene ukuba malunga nama-70% amadoda ahlolisweyo ayekholelwa ukuba isakhiwo se-genitourinary system kwindoda kunye nabasetyhini ngokufanayo, kwaye ukuba iinkqubo zesini zesini kunye nezisisigxina azihlukaniswanga. Ukubeka nje, ukuba abafazi banomchamo ophuma kwindawo efanayo apho umntwana ezalwa khona.
Kwakhona, enye yeengxaki ezivela kwimeko yabazali abangenalucalulo kwisihloko esithandanayo nemibuzo engalindelekanga yengane. Ukuba umzali akayi kumxelela umntwana malunga nobudlelwane besini, ngoko, ngombuzo ongalindelekanga womntwana kwesi sihloko, umntu omdala ulahlekile, unokuthi uyisiphukuphuku, uhleka okanye upende impendulo yakhe nge-tinge.
Kodwa abantwana abanomdla ngenxa yokuba iimpendulo ezifanayo zinokujamelana nobunzima ngexesha lokukhula. Ngoko, kumbuzo wabantwana omnye wabahlobo bam, xa wayeneminyaka emi-5 okanye engama-6 ubudala, malunga nendlela umntwana ovela kumama kamama angaphandle, abazali bayaphendula ngokukhawuleza ukuba uhamba nge-pussy. Le ntombazana ngelo xesha yayiqhelana nomzimba wayo kwaye yazi ukuba kwakukho umkhombane. Kwaye ke, xa ecinga ukuba inkulu inkulu yomntwana ikhupha ngaphaya komngca omncinci, wayethunyiswa ngokwenene. Ukususela ngoko, ekubeni intombazana ekhulile, nokuqonda zonke iziqhelo zobomi besifazane, akazange akwazi ukuphelisa ukwesaba kokuzala. Emva koko uphendule unina ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo kumbuzo wentombi, mhlawumbi le nto yayiza kugwenywa.
Ngathini na nini ukuthetha ngesondo?
Ukuba umntwana ucele umbuzo onzima malunga nokulala ngokwesini, ukuzala, izitho zokuzala, ukufa, ngokubanzi, nasiphi na isihloko "esinqatshelwe," akufanele ufune ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza. Awunayo ukuba yi-encyclopedia yokuhamba kwaye uyazi iimpendulo kuyo yonke imibuzo. Thatha isikhashana. Tshela umntwana ukuba lo ngumbuzo othakazelisayo, kodwa ukuwuphendula kufuneka ucinge okanye ufumane ulwazi olufanelekileyo kwesi sihloko. Nika igama lakho emva kwexesha elithile eliza kuphendula lo mbuzo. Yaye xa ixesha elinikeziweyo lichanekile, uza kuza nempendulo yakho, qiniseka ukuba ubize umntwana, qalisa ingxoxo naye, nokuba, njengoko ucinga, umntwana sele sele ekhohliwe ngombuzo wakhe.
Ngoko uqala kuphi kwaye uneminyaka engakanani umntwana onokuthetha ngayo ngezinto ezithandekayo? Yaye isiqalo sifanele sibe sesinye xa umntwana efunda zonke ezinye izitho zomzimba womntu: amehlo, impumlo, umlomo, indlebe, intloko, kwaye-pop-pisya. Akukho imfuneko ukuba ugxininise kwinto yokuba ezi "zihlazo" zemizimba yomzimba, kuba umntwana omncinci nalawo awona maqela afana nawo wonke umzimba. Ukongezelela, la malungu omzimba kufuneka abizwe ngamagama abo afanelekileyo, kungekhona "ama-cockerels", "iintyatyambo", "iinqanawa" kunye namanye amagama angenanto enxulumene nomzimba womntu.
Eyona nkcukacha ngokubanzi kunye neenkcukacha malunga nokuphila kwabantu, kuquka inkqubo yokuzala, kuyafaneleka ukuzisa umntwana kwindawo ethile ukusuka kwiminyaka emithathu. Ngoku kuthengiswa kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zee-atlases ezibalabala, iincwadi kunye neencwadi, zenzelwe abantwana abancinci, bachaza isakhiwo somzimba womntu. Bachaza ngokucacileyo kwaye babonise imiqondiso yamadoda nabasetyhini, kunye nokungafani kwabo. Ungakulibala ukuxelela nokubonisa i-kid kungekhona nje ngesakhiwo somntu wesini, kodwa nangomhlaba onxamnye nawo.
Ukuqhelana nomntwana ngesihloko sokuba abantwana babonakala njani ekukhanyeni, malunga neminyaka eyi-3-5 ubudala. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana balo nyaka banomdla kubantu abadala kulo mbandela. Kubalulekile ukuba ungagxothi umntwana kwaye ungatsho ukuba uya kukhula - uya kukwazi, kodwa ukuthetha ngokuzithemba ngomntwana ngokuzala umntwana ngolwimi oluqondakalayo kuye.
Kwakhona, malunga ne-3 ubudala, kuyimfuneko ukuchazela umntwana ukuba ezinye iinkqubo zabantu zithandana kwaye akufanele zixoxwe kwaye ziboniswe kwabanye abantu. Ngoko, kuyimfuneko ukuxelela inkomo ukuba kuluntu kuthathwa njengento engcolileyo kungekhona nje ukuthabatha impumlo yakhe, kodwa kunye nokufunwa esidlangalaleni okanye ukubonisa iimpahla zangaphantsi. Tshela umntwana ukuba umntu ngamnye unendawo yakhe siqu, kwaye akufanele ukhonkce kwaye umanga wonke umntu.
Kulo mfana osemncinci, ungesabi ngesihloko sesini. Kuba umntwana uwanele kwaye kuya kuqondakala ukuba i-spermatozoa encinci esuka kumathambo ka-daddy iya kwipasyayi yomama kwisitethi esikhethekileyo, apho badibana khona neqanda lakhe, baxuba kwaye ke umntu omtsha uzalwa. Umbuzo wendlela i-spermatozoa eya ngayo kumama kwisiswini sabantwana, njengomthetho, kule minyaka ayikhathazeki kakhulu, ngoko isihloko sokwabelana ngesondo asinomdla ngokukhethekileyo. Iintsana zibanomdla ngakumbi, kwenzekani kwiseli eqhubekayo, umntu uphuma njani kuyo.
Umba wesondo uqala ukukhathazeka abantwana ngokuqhelekileyo kwiminyaka emi-5-7. Kwaye eli lixesha elihle kakhulu lokuthetha nomntwana malunga nesi sihloko. Kuya kuba lula kubazali nakubantwana, ukuba uqala ukuphakamisa umbuzo onjalo obusondeleyo ebuntwaneni, xa umntwana engazi kakuhle ngokupheleleyo intsingiselo kunye nobuqhetseba bale nkqubo. Umntwana kufuneka axelelwe ukuba abantu abadala, xa bebathandana kakhulu, baxinezela ngokugqithisileyo kwaye ipenisi yipenisi ingena kumfazi wesisu, njengoko isitshixo sifakwe kwisitgi. Into ephambili ukuthetha nomntwana wakho ngokuthula kwaye ungabi nokwesaba.
Kutheni uthetha nomntwana ngesondo?
Impendulo yalo mbuzo ilula: ukukhusela umntwana kwimiphumo engathandekiyo. Ngethuba lethu akunakwenzeka kwaye akunakunceda ukukhusela umntwana kwizesondo zokuqala zesondo ngokukhusela kunye nokukhathalela. Umyinge wamanje unyaka wolwazi, kwaye umntwana uya kufumanisa ngokuphathelele ngesondo, umbuzo kuphela ngowowuni na oya kunikwa ngalo ngcaciso: kwindawo efanelekileyo yokuhlala, eyimfihlo neyokufihlakeleyo okanye umonakalo onobugwenxa nolonakele.
Indlela ethembekileyo yokukhusela umntwana wakho kwiimpazamo zobudenge ngokwesondo kunye nolwalamano olwahlukileyo kukunika ulwazi oluthembekileyo noluthe ngexesha elifanelekileyo ngolu hlobo lobomi. Kwaye kufuneka uyenze oku ngaphambilana kunokuba umntwana angene kwixesha elivisayo. Kwiminyaka eyi-11 ukuya kwe-12 ukuya kudala ukukhumbula. Kufuneka uqale kwixesha lokufunda.
Ukuze umntwana wakho akhulele ukuba abe ngumntu opheleleyo, kunye nokuziphatha okufanelekileyo nokuziphatha kakuhle kunye nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo ngesini esahlukileyo, kufuneka umntu athethe naye malunga nesondo, ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Into ephambili kukuba ukwenze ngexesha kwaye ngendlela efanelekileyo.