Imodi yeendwendwe (iveki yeentsapho)

Ufuna ukuthatha umntwana kwintandane, kodwa abaqinisekanga ngamakhono abo? Sebenzisa ukhetho "ukukhanya". Le yimo yeendwendwe okanye, njengoko kubizwa nangoku, iveki yentsapho.


Izizathu apho abadala bemenywa khona ngeveki kunye nekhefu ukutyelela umntwana kwiinkedama, okanye ezininzi, ezininzi. Umntu onobuhle uyilungiselela ukumkela umntwana, umntu unesidingo sokunxibelelana angaphantsi kwezindlu zabantwana. Kwaye abanye bafuna ukukunceda, "ngenxa yoko", ukuhlawula ukulwa kwemibutho emibini engakwazi ukujika iintaba: uvelwano nothando kubantu. Kodwa nangayiphi na imeko, imo yeendwendwe kubantwana abavela "kwiziko" liyi-autopsy ye-emotional and social vacuum. Kwaye "ngeendwendwe" kunye "nabanikazi".

Iinkonzo zomntwana Okokuqala, umntwana ubona ubomi ngaphandle kweendonga zendlu yabantwana. Khangela ukuba yintoni intsapho engekho kuphela kwiincwadi nakwiimviewa, ufunda ukuhlala. Inkwenkwe ishiya inkqubo, ibukele indlela ulwalamano olunokwakhiwa ngayo kwelinye, kungekhona kwikhaya labantwana, kwaye uthabathe inxaxheba kubo, ululinganise. Okwesibini, uphantse unomntu oyedwa onomdla ebomini bakhe kunye naye. Ootitshala, ootitshala nabahlobo beenkedama, ngokuqinisekileyo, banakho ebomini bakhe. Kodwa bavala isangqa phantsi kwegama elithi "ikhaya labantwana". Umntu omncinci ufunda ukulungiselela ukutya, ukuhlawula indlu, ukumisela ukwakha, ukuya esitolo - ufumana izakhono ezingayi kufundiswa kwikhaya labantwana. Okwesithathu, kuya kuba lula ukuthatha impilo yomntwana ngokubanzi. Okwesine, ukhulisa i-horizons, uyazi ihlabathi. Iingingqi, iimyuziyam, iiklasi zeemidlalo, ukhuphiswano lwezemidlalo, ekugqibeleni, unokutyelela ngokuphindaphindiweyo.

Enyanisweni, abantwana abasuka kwintandane bahlela ukuhamba kunye nokunyuka. Kodwa kuphela kwintsapho, nangona kwindlu yeendwendwe, unokuqonda ukuba yintoni le ncinane inomtsalane kwaye ukhethe inkqubo, iqwalasele iimfuno zakhe.

Unomdla womntwana
Abantwana banokuziva babuyele ngokukhawuleza kwiinkedama. Imibuzo iphakama: kutheni bangangithandiyo ngonaphakade? kutheni kungekhona ngeveki nganye, atolko kabini ngenyanga? Akunakukwazi ukuchazela nayiphi na ukubambezeleka kokusesikweni, naziphi na iimeko. Kuvela ukuba akayena, kuba engathandi.

Abafana abahlala ngeveki kunye neeholide kwiinkedama zingaba nomona ngabo bafumene intsapho, ubuncinane ngeveki. Emva kweendwendwe ezinjalo, omncinci unokuziphatha ngokuzonwabisa, qalisa ukuqhayisa ngezipho, engenangqiqo, ukungathobeli ootitshala.

Kanye kunye nonke
Ukususela kwisigqibo sokuthabatha umntwana kwintandane ayikwazi ukuphikiswa, ngoko uhlale phantsi kwaye ucinge - unokukwazi ukuhlangabezana nayo. Uzakufuna ukufumana ngokwakho umnqweno wokunceda ngeli xesha elithile, kodwa nomonde oya kukunceda usinde kwaye ixesha "iindwendwe" zakho liza kuba lihle, likhwele, likhwele ikhaya okanye libuze umbuzo wakho obaluleke kakhulu: "Uza kundithatha nini "Iinyana ezininzi zezintandane zixilongwa: ukulibaziseka ekuphuhliseni kwengqondo. Oku ku funeka kulungiswe. Ngokukodwa xa beza kwintsapho, kwimodi yeendwendwe (ukuba ihlala rhoqo), umntu omncinci uyazikhulula, uthembele, ulungele ukuthetha.

Akuzange - "Mama"
Iingcali zengqondo kunye nabasebenzi bezintandane bathi imida phakathi kwakho nomntwana kufuneka ifakwe ngokukhawuleza. Uyi-hostess, uyindwendwe kwaye makumemezele ngegama okanye ngegama kunye nomntu ongu-patronymic, kodwa akakho-"Mama". Thetha ngokukhawuleza ukuba ummema ngeveki kuphela. Uthembisa, uthembisa, mhlawumbi uthi ngelinye ilanga uza kuyithatha ngonaphakade - awukwazi, kunokubangela intlungu enzulu. Mxelele umntwana wakho ngokukhawuleza xa ufika ngexesha elizayo. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu, kuya kulinda. Ukuba awukwazi ukufika ngosuku olumiselweyo, qi Ukuthembela komntu omncinci kungagcinwa xa usencinane nje ekuqaleni. Khumbula, aba bantwana abanalo iimbopheleleko kuwe. Umntwana akadingeki ukuba abonise iimvakalelo ngosuku lokuqala lwendibano yakho, mbulela ixesha kunye nengqalelo enikezela yona. Inyaniso yokuba wammema ukuba a tyelele kuyisigqibo sakho, kungekhona sakhe.

Mhlawumbi idilesi encinci ayifuni ukubuyela. Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuchaza isizathu sokuba ungeke uyishiye. Kodwa nangona kunjalo - akukho zithembiso ezongezelelweyo. Ukungafuni ukubuyela kwimimfesane emva kokutyelela rhoqo "ukutyelela" kuyaphela: umkhwa!

Musa ukucela umntwana ngezipho, ungadli umnandi kwaye ungazisoli: "Oo, into ehluphekileyo, uhluphekile". Nonke, vuka, hlamba izitya ndawonye, ​​uye kwi-cinema ndawonye. Le mithetho iya kunceda ukulungelelanisa ubomi besikhathi esizayo.

Njani ukwenza oku?
Amadokhumenti afuna ukubhaliswa kwabamkeli ngaphantsi kokulondolozwa okanye ukuwamkelwa. UNowa unempawu zakhe. Ukuze uvumeleke ukuba uthathe umntwana, kufuneka ubhale inkxaso kumlawuli wezintandane, ungumgcini wombuso womntwana. Ukudibana naye, chitha ixesha kunye nabantwana. Ukongeza kwikhontrakthi, umlawuli ufuna ukuqokelela ipakethe yamaxwebhu, esanda kwandiswa, kubandakanya isatifikethi semali engenayo, izatifikethi zesibhedlele, isatifiketi sokungabikho. Urhulumente akalixhasi linyathelo lokuqala ngemali. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuzimisela kwakho.

Indlela 'yokukhetha' umntwana? Gxininisa kwiminyaka, makhe abe ngaphezu kwe-10. Kunzima kunene ukuba umntwana afundele isizathu sokuba bamthathe, banquma ukumbuyisela i-apatom. Jonga ngokukhawuleza, jonga. Xa ufika ekhaya kunye, yenza isipho esibaluleke kakhulu kwisitye sakho: ungamxoxeli, ulungile?