I-Hugs ebomini bomntwana

Umama ngamnye uthanda ukumbamba umntwana wakhe, ngoko umnika uthando lwakhe, ubonisa umnqweno wokukhusela, ukukhusela ebunzima, ukuzisola. Ngokukodwa xa umntwana engayiqondi amagama kwaye uyakwazi ukubona iimvakalelo kuphela.


Kwiintsuku zokuqala zobomi bakhe, usana luziva lufudumala kwaye lunuka njengomama ngexesha lokumama kuka-mama, uyasetyenziselwa kwaye akhumbule oko kuthetha ukuthintelwa nokukhuseleko. Yingakho umntwana okhalayo akwazi ukuqiniseka ukuba unina wamthabatha.

Ifilosofi uAshley Montague encwadini yakhe ethi "Touching" yathi inxaxheba iyakwazi ukufundisa umntwana ukuba athande ... Ukuba umntwana ombonywe ngaphambi kweminyaka engama-7 akaze akwazi ukuvakalelwa.

Mkele, njengentuthuko yobuntu

Kufuneka kaninzi ukumbamba umntwana? Iingcali zengcali ze-Ipsychologists ziye zabonisa ukuba ukuthintela, ukugubha kunye nokuzivumelanisa akugcini nje ukuzisa iimvakalelo ezivuyisayo, kodwa negalelo ekuphuhliseni abantwana. Kukho igama lezokwelapha - "isibhedlele", lisetyenziselwa ngokubhekiselele kubantwana abaphoqelelwe ukuba bahlale ezindlini zentsana. Aba bantwana, nangona yonke i-spectra yabo, kubandakanywa ukuqina, kunye nokuxuba (nangona oku, kubonakala ngathi, kuluhlaza kunye nokuthintela, kodwa kaninzi kunokwakheka kwemibala), ekugqibeleni uqala ukulahla emva koontanga lwabo ekuphuhliseni.

Njengoko umntwana ekhula, akufuneki ukuba umzali angamkeli. Uwenza abahlobo, isondo sakhe sentlalo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ufuna ukuziva ufudumele ngumama wakhe.

Ngaphambili, kwakukholelwa ukuba ukuxhaphaza abantwana kubangelwa ngabanye - bathi umntwana unokukhulela umntwana omncinci, onqwenela ukwazi, engenangqondo. Ngoku, iingqondo zezingane zithi abantwana, abazali babo abahlala becinezelekile kwaye bavuma, baziphatha ngokulinganisela, bekhululekile kwaye banokuqiniseka ngokuphila kwabo abadala.

Ngokuqhelekileyo, wonke umama unako ukuva intuitively xa umntwana wakhe efuna inkxaso enjalo, njengentambo.

"Sidinga iintsuku ezine ngosuku lokusinda, 8 ukuxhasa kunye no-12 ngokukhula." UVirginia Satir, isazi sengqondo seMerika.

Kakade, imfuno yokubambisana kumntwana ngamnye ngumntu ngamnye. Abantwana abancinci banokukhathala xa besoloko bebanga, bengadibanise baze badibanise. Mamela umntwana, umlinde: ungamphazamisi ukuba uxakekile okanye usebenza. Akufuneki ukuthetha, musa ukunyelisa umntwana ngokubambisana ngexesha lokutya: abantwana bangakwazi ukuphazamisa, ukuphazamisa ooyise. Nangona umntwana usenabo "indawo yendawo" kwaye oku kufuneka kwamkelwe kwaye ihlonishwe.

Emva kokumjonga umntwana, uya kubona ngokucacileyo ukuba kwiimeko ezininzi abantwana babonakalisa xa befuna umama (okanye utata). Umntwana unokuza nje aze athathe umzali ngesandla, ubuze ngamadolo okanye izandla, ukukhwela - ngamaxesha afanelekileyo afunwayo, kodwa afunekayo. Ngaloo ndlela, abantwana banqabisa ukwesaba nokungazi.

Kubalulekile ukuphawula, kunye nokubambisana okubalulekileyo kwaye akudingekanga kuphela kumntwana, kodwa nangomntu omdala, kuba umama uyancipha, ukukhupha umntwana wakhe, ukuphumla ngokuziphatha, ufumana ukukhutshwa kwengqondo, uvakalelwa kubaluleka.

Namkela abantwana bakho, bathande baze bahloniphe!