Indlela yokuphendula abazali kubafundi besikolo

Kwimfundo yethu, into ishintsha rhoqo: iiprogram, iincwadi zezifundo kunye nezambatho. Njalo, ngaphandle kwabafundi notitshala, kukho into eyodwa kuphela - ukuvavanya. Bafaka kwaye baya kuhlala bethenda. Kodwa yintoni na?
Uphawu luyimfuneko. Ukuhlola abafundi, luhlobo lokubeka uphawu lokuzihlola nokuziphendulela ngutitshala. Ootitshala - ukukwazi ukulungelelanisa ingcamango yomfundi ngamnye, ukubeka ingqalelo ukuguqulwa kokuphuhlisa nokufunda. Oku akufanelekanga kumlinganiselo wokuvavanya ukuqonda ukuba ngubani osisidenge, kwaye ngubani ohlakaniphile, olungile, kwaye ngubani ongendawo, ukuthwala ubomi kunye nokulinganisa ubudlelwane bomntu.

Indlela yokusabela ngayo kumanqaku?
Zama ukususela ekuqaleni ukuba ungasondeli iimvavanyo zomfundi wakho zibaluleke kakhulu. Nangona iiphupha zishiya into enqwenelekayo, musa ukulinganisa le meko: "Olu luhlolo lokuqala, udidekile ngayo kuthi." Kwaye sifuna ukumangalisa ... Yintoni eya kwenzeka emva koko? " Emva kokusabela okunjalo, umntwana akafuni ukwenza nantoni na, nakwii-grade, nangaphandle kwazo. Thatha wena ngesandla kwaye usho into ethile yokuhlaziya kunye nokukhuthaza. Imithetho yokufundisa, ingqondo kunye namava amaninzi abantu abaqinisekisileyo: akukho nxu lumano phakathi kwamanqaku okuqala (kunye ngamanye amaxesha iimvavanyo ngokubanzi) kunye nemfundo elandelayo, kwaye ebaluleke kakhulu, impumelelo yomntu yomntu. Kodwa ubudlelwane phakathi kokuziphatha kwabazali, ubudlelwane babo kumanqaku ahlolwe okanye ngandlela-thile ngenye indlela impumelelo yomntwana ibonakala. Kuya kuxhomekeka kwindlela umntwana eya kuqonda ngayo yonke into eyenzeka kuqala esikolweni (kubandakanywa nokuvandlakanya) kwaye oko kuya kuthintela njani ubomi bakhe. Kukho nawuphi na, umntwana omdala, ulawulo olungaphantsi oluyidingayo. Ukungabonakali - uthando lokuqala okanye ukubonakala kwento yokuzilibazisa kwintsha-mntwana, ohlala kwimeko yentshiseko unokulahla ngokukhawuleza izifundo zakhe. Ngoko ke, kungcono ukuhlolisisa iimvavanyo ngexesha elide kunokugxeka le ntombazana ukuba ingabi necala. Kodwa imfundo eyunivesithi - ixesha apho ulawulo lwakho kunye nomdla kwiiqikelelo kufuneka zinciphise ubuncinci. Abantu abadala bathatha ukuzimela kuzo zonke izinto. Umzekelo, ukwenza iimpazamo kwaye uzilungiselele.

Kithi, bazali, phawula uphawu lomntwana kwaye ukhokele ekusebenzeni. Yiyiphi na? Kuxhomekeke kuvavanyo.

Ukuba umntwana uletha amabakala amabi
Si hlalutya
Ukuvavanya yinto engummangaliso. Kodwa konke okufanayo, fundisa umntwana sele sele ephuma esikolweni esincinane ukuba amphathe nje njengesalathisi kwaye aqhube ukuhlalutya:
  1. Kutheni uvavanyo olunjalo?
  2. Iyiphi impazamo yakho? Ingaba ngengozi okanye kukho ikhefu kolwazi?
  3. Ungayilungisa uphawu? Yintoni oyifunayo ukwenza oku?
Ngokubeka le algorithm yesenzo, uya kunceda umntwana kungekuphela kwesikolo. Awukwazi ukuba luhlobo luni lokungaphumeleli kunye nokuvavanywa ngumntwana wakho oza kubakho ebomini. Ubuchule bokuhlalutya ingxaki kunye nokufuna isisombululo ngumgangatho obalulekileyo wobomi.

Nika umzekelo wakho
Tshela umntwana ukuba wena, njengomfundi, ukhohliwe ukuba unayo idayari ekhaya (kakuhle, kwakukho!) Okanye isabelo sasixubene kunye nesantya. Kunokwenzeka ukukhankanya njengomzekelo wabantu abadumileyo ababehlala benakho konke ngexesha lokufunda kwabo. Olu lwazi lukhuseleko lokugonywa ngokomzimba. Inika ithemba kwaye ivuselela ithemba: bonke abantu banokwenza iimpazamo - akuyikrele, banokulungiswa.

Kuyafaneleka
Kuthekani ukuba amanqaku ambi ayifanelekanga? Kukho imeko apho iimeko zifuna inkcazelo ngutitshala. Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, umele uvume oku njengenyaniso, uvavanyo. "Ewe, kwenzeka, akukho nto ixhala ngayo," - konke oko kuthetha. Umntwana unexesha elide lokufunda, aze asebenze kumaqela ahlukeneyo. Ubunokwenzeka ukuba uya kuhlala ebona ubulungisa kuphela. Kutheni kuphazamisa iimbandezelo kuyo yonke into?

Musa ukugxila kwimpumelelo yemfundo
Kufanele uxoxe nomntwana malunga nesikolo. Kodwa kungekhona nje ngovavanyo. Uphendule njani isifundo? Ngaba unqume konke ngokuchanekileyo? " - Imibuzo enjalo kufuneka ibe ubuncinane ngaphezu koko, ngokomzekelo, malunga nobudlelwane kunye nabafundi ofunda nabo, imidlalo yokutshintshwa kunye neebhanki kwi-buffet. Emva koko umntwana uya kuba nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo esikolweni. Kwaye ukuhlolwa ngexesha elifanayo kuya kuba ngcono.

Ukuba umntwana ungumfundi olungileyo

Musa ukugqithisa ukuqikelela
Baya esikolweni ngolwazi lwabo. Uqikelelo, nangona zibonakalisa zabo, azikwazi ukuba yixabiso kubo. Yizisa lo myalezo kumntwana. Ngaphandle koko, unokuhlakulela ukuvavanya kwe-neurosis - xa kungekhona nje iimoya, kodwa kunye nenhlalakahle yomfundi ohloniphekileyo uphuhliswa ngamanqanaba angabonakaliyo: umntwana uqala ukucela ukuba afunde amanqaku aphezulu kwaye aziphathe ngendlela engafanelekanga (ukukhala, ukubaleka, ukuvala) xa ehla. Ngokomlinganiselo omkhulu, amantombazana athambekele kule ngxaki, kodwa amaninzi amaninzi aphefumlelweyo atholakala kubafana.

Fumana, kutheni uhlaziye
Ukudumisa ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza kuyaphela ukuba kukhuthazwe ukukhula. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esaziwayo u-Alfred Adler sabiza ukuba isiqalo somnqweno wokufunda ukuba singaphantsi, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo asiyithinteli. Ukulungiswa kwamagama kuphela kuvumelekile ("Awubhale ngokucophelela, ufanele uzame, uya kuyifumana!") Okanye ukuthelekiswa okuchanekileyo nabanye abantwana ("Misha unetalente yokufunda imbongo, mhlawumbi uyakuthanda ukukufunda ngakumbi"). Into ephambili ayikugqithisi xa uxubusha nabantwana ngokusebenza kwabo kwizifundo.