Umfana uzimisele ukukhula ngokukhawuleza, kodwa umva uhlala ngumntwana. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu kubazali ngeli xesha ukugcina umgca omhle: uphathe njengomntu omdala, kodwa ungalibali ukubonisa iimvakalelo kunye nokunyamekela.
Ukuxhatshazwa ebusheni, kunoko, kungekhona ukuhlaselwa, kodwa ukuphendula okukhuselekileyo kwizenzo ezijoliswe kuyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, zonke ezi zintlupheko zixakile, ngenxa yokuvakalelwa ngokwemvakalelo kunye nobungozi.
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba kunzima kubazali ukuba bafunde indlela yokuphendula kakuhle ngokuziphatha komntwana. Akunjalo nje ngengqondo engalungiselelanga, kodwa abanakukwazi ukujamelana nobukhulu beengxaki zemihla ngemihla. Kodwa, njengoko besithi: "balumkisa, kwaye ngoko, baxhobile", ngoko sachaza izizathu eziqhelekileyo zokuqalisa ulwaphulo olutsha kunye nokunika iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokujongana nayo.
Iingxaki zobundlobongela abaselula
Kukho iintlobo ezininzi zezinto ezinobundlobongela kwiintsholongwane: iintsapho, ezakhe kunye nezimo.
Iintsapho zibangelwa ubugwenxa
Ayikho yonke intsapho ehlakulela indlela efanelekileyo yokukhulisa abantwana. Oku kunjalo, banciphisa abazali, kodwa baxhomekeka kwizinto ezininzi kwaye kaninzi abakwazi ukuzibamba nokuzilawula. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, kufuneka ukwazi ukuba ngaba ngabazali baqhuba njani ukuhlaselwa kwabantwana abaselula:
- Ukunganakwa kunye nobutshaba kumntwana
- Ukukhanyela (umntwana ongalindelekanga), ukungabi nothando kunye nokubonakaliswa kwayo
- Ukulawula ngokugqithiseleyo nokunyamekela
- Ukubandakanya Ubomi Bentsha
- Ukungabi nxu lumano
- Ukuthotywa nokuhlambalaza, ngakumbi loluntu
- Ukunciphisa imizwa yomntwana kunye naluphi na ukubonakaliswa kokuzimela
Izizathu zomntu
Ezi zizathu ziyakwazi ukuvela phakathi kwabo, kwaye ngenxa yeemeko zentsapho kunye nempembelelo yendalo:
- Uloyiko, ulindelo olubi kakhulu
- Ukhuseleko lokungaqiniseki
- Ukungalingani kwe-Hormonal, ngenxa yexesha lokukhulelwa
- Ukutshatyalaliswa kunye nentukuthelo, ngenxa yokuzithemba
- Ukuziva unetyala kwinto ethile
- Ukuvakalelwa yedwa
Izizathu zesimo
Ngokuqhelekileyo idibanisa neemeko ezithile ezenzeka ebomini kwintsholongwane ngexesha elithile:
- Ukusebenza ngokugqithiseleyo, ngenxa yokukhathazeka ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo
- Izifo
- Ukutya okungalunganga
- Intshiseko enkulu ngokwemidlalo yekhompyutha
- Iimeko zeendawo ezingamnandi kwintsapho
Iindlela zokulwa nolutsha olutsha?
Kuyafaneleka ukuvuma ukuba akukho sisisombululo esisodwa kule ngxaki. Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukucacisa ukuba yintoni ebangela ukuba kuqhutywe kakubi kwiintsholongwane. Ngokusekelwe kulo, unokwazi ukuba yiyiphi into ekufuneka iguqule ekuziphatheni kwakho, kwimeko yomntwana.
Khumbula, umsebenzi wakho oyintloko, njengabazali, kukunciphisa imbonakalo yobundlobongela, oku kuthetha ukubonelela ngeemeko ezingcono kakhulu kuye okanye ukutshintsha indlela yakhe yokukhulisa.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali bayabangela ubundlobongela kumntwana, ngoko kuyafaneleka ukuqala ngokuzifundisa:
- Vumela umntwana ukuba athathe isigqibo, athathe inyathelo okanye aqwalasele iimfuno zakhe kuyo yonke into.
- Ukuphelisa intshutshiso kwintsapho. Hlaziya ubuhlobo kunye nesiqingatha sakho sesibini sokuhlaselwa.
- Ukulungelelanisa ulutsha olusisigxina, umzekelo, kwimidlalo.
- Xoxa nomntwana wakho rhoqo njengomhlobo. Ungacacisi ukuba wenze ntoni, uthathe indima yomcebisi ocebisi, ocebisa, kodwa akagwebi.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo adumise umntwana, kuya kukhuthaza ukuzithemba kuye.
- Hlonipha ukukhetha kwakhe, nokuba ngaba kubonakala kukubi kuwe.
Umntwana osemlonyeni ongeyena mfana akayi kuba yinto efanelekileyo kunye nenkululeko yakhe yokuzikhethela. Khumbula ukuba ungumzekelo wokulingisa umntwana wakho. Akumangalisi bathi: "Musa ukukhulisa abantwana, zifundise." Ukuba ulahlekelwe umzuzu kwaye uyavuma ukuba awukwazi ukujamelana nawe ngokwakho, qhagamshelana nengcali yeengqondo.