Indlela yokugcina ingqalelo kumntwana, ukuba usebenza?

Ukususela ekuzalweni kwakhe umntwana unina ngonina ngeenxa. Kodwa apha ikhefu lokubeleka liphela, ixesha liya emsebenzini, kwaye umntwana uthunyelwa kwi-kindergarten. Kuthatha ixesha elithile, kwaye uqala ukuqaphela ukuba awunxibelelwano nomntwana. Ukumthabatha ekhaya ukusuka enkulisa, uze uze uqale ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya, kwaye akukho lixesha eliye lishiya kwindloso yesantya.


Ngokukhawuleza uhanjelwe iingcamango ezahlukeneyo ezingenayo ingqalelo yakho kumntwana. Makhe sijonge kule meko ngamehlo omntwana. Ngaphambili, umama wadlala waza wamondla yonke imini, kwaye ngoku uya kwindawo ethile, endikwenza ukuba ndihambe enkundleni yokudlala ndize ndidlale nabantu abangaqhelekanga. Ukuba elinye ixesha elidlulileyo le nkwenkwe yayisegumbini lenkosi yangempela, ngoku i-kindergarten kufuneka ibelane ngamathoyizi, qwa lasela abanye abantu abanomdla.

Kwimeko ye-vasobratnaya - ukuphunyezwa komsebenzi kunye nemisebenzi yasekhaya. Akukho xesha, akukho mandla okudlala nomntwana. Into kuphela ongayenza ukuyithenga amathoyizi angaphezulu, enethemba lokuba ngoku unento yokwenzayo. Indlela yokuphuma kwinqanaba elibi kwaye uqale lonke ixesha?

Umgaqo obaluleke kakhulu ukuyeka ukuzigxeka. Umntwana wakho uya kukubulela ngokuba ngumzekelo kwabanye, ukuba abantwana babonise ukuphumelela kwabazali babo. Ukongeza, ukuhambela phambili kwinqanaba lomsebenzi yindlela eya kwimpumelelo kunye nengeniso enkulu. Ukuba uzigxeka ngenxa yokuba sele usebenze kakhulu, kufuneka uqonde ngokukhawuleza ukuba kutheni konke lokhu kwenziwa. Isikolo esihle kakhulu, abaqeqeshi beengcali, amathoyizi kunye nezixhobo ezilungileyo ziya kwenza umntwana wakho abe nolonwabo ngakumbi.

Imisebenzi yakho yasekhaya iyindawo ebalulekileyo ebomini. Ukuba ulahlekile ukupheka isidlo okanye ukucoca, ngolunye usuku kuya kufuneka wenze okuphindwe kabini, mhlawumbi uya kukhathala kabini. Qinisekisa ukwabelana ngomsebenzi kunye nendlu, ungayithathi loo msebenzi. Xa ungenayo ixesha, uthetha nabaphathi malunga nendlela yokunciphisa inani lomsebenzi. Emva kokungena endlwini yakho, shiya zonke iingxaki zakho kunye neengxaki emva, ungaphazanyanga umsindo kunye nokukhathala kwabo bajikelezayo.

Xa sele sele ifunyenwe ukuba akunakwenzeka ukugxotha imisebenzi yasemsebenzini kunye nomsebenzi, kutheni ukukhuliswa komntwana kunokuhlehliswa? Masiye kwishedyuli yakho yemihla ngemihla kuya kuba nemidlalo kunye nomntwana, iingxoxo, iindaba ezifihlakeleyo kunye nexesha lokuzonwabisa elimnandi. Awuyi kudinwa yintsana yakho, ngoko ngeli xesha unokuphumla.

Ukuchazela umntwana ukuba le midlalo iya kwenzeka njani, yenze nje umzobo ocolileyo. Khangela ukuba ngoLwesithathu uza kujonga ikhathuni yakho oyithandayo okanye i-kikino, nantoni na eyenzekayo. Ngeveki-ntsuku uya kuhamba ngesitrato ngexesha elinjalo kunye nelo xesha, kwaye yonke imihla ihafu yesure okanye iyure yokudlala nayo. Umntwana uya kufakwa ngokuthe ngcembe kwinto yokuba yonke into eyenzeka ngokwesi sicwangciso, iya kuphelisa ukutshutshisa ezinye iintsuku. Qiniseka ukuba undixelele ngokucacileyo oko wenzayo emsebenzini, ziziphi iimbopheleleko zakho, nokuba kutheni umsebenzi wakho uncedo. Vumela umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba unomsebenzi onoxanduva kakhulu, uncedo kwaye unandipha abantu, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo usebenziseka kumsebenzi wakho. Ukuba unaloo thuba, yifake kunye nawe ukuba usebenze, nje uchaze imigaqo yokuziphatha.

Ungalokothi ukhohlise umntwana wakho, kwaye ngakumbi uchitha izithembiso. Kungekudala okanye kamva uya kuyeka ukukholelwa. Ukuba awufuni ukuya kwiseksi, ngoko ke uphazamise. Ngaphandle koko, imvakalelo yakho embi iya kudluliselwa kumntwana. Mamela konke akutshoyo. Abaninzi bayichaza ngokuphosakeleyo ukuba umntwana akanalo iingxaki, uya kwi-kindergartens bonke. Ndikholelwe, i-kindergarten kunye nawe-ihlabathi lonke, ukuba ungamphulaphuli ngoku, uyayeka ukuthetha. Buza ukuba bangaphi abahlobo bakhe, abathandayo, oko utitshala athethayo. Unganomdla nje, kodwa ngokwenene, ufunde ubomi bomntwana wakho kumacala onke. Wachitha yonke imini kude nomzi kwaye wena, ngokuqinisekileyo ufuna ukukuxelela into ethile.

Ungayifaki indawo yokunxibelelana kunye nawe ukhangele iTV. Ukuba uqala ukwenza oku ngoku, emva kweminyaka emininzi umntwana uya kukhetha i-TV, ngelixa engakhulumi nonina. Nangona uthanda kakhulu umntwana, unokungazi malunga nalo. Thetha ngokuphindaphindiweyo malunga nendlela u-voprilo eneentombi eziqilileyo okanye unyana-ntwana, mdumise umntwana wakho rhoqo.

Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene, unokumisela uxhulumaniso olukhululekile, umvuzo wokuba luya kuthatha uthando olude kunye nokuqonda.