Imithetho yokuphila ephephile kubantwana

Khawucinge ngomfanekiso: kwindawo yebhasi ephakamileyo, kuvele ingxabano. Ingqiqo iyinto encinci, umntu uye wahamba ngeenyawo, ahlambalaza. Eyona nto iphela, iya kugqitywa ngesigxininiso somlomo, kwimeko embi kakhulu - i-brawl. Kwaye abantwana abasondeleyo, baqokelela kwiikhompyutheni zabo zekhompyutheni abayizona ziphatha kakuhle kwaye ngokuchanekileyo baphinda yonke into. Kwaye kwintlangano yabo encinci, xa umntu engabaniki, baqala ukuyicombulula loo nto ngamandla, nangona intshaba iya kuba namandla kunabo. Unokuthintela njani ukuvela kweemeko ezinjalo?

Kubalulekile, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuba ube ngumzekelo omhle kumntwana, kwaye ungayi kuqala ukugxeka okungadingekile. Kodwa ungayibona njani le nto?

Kulula kunokuba ucinge. Uthutho loluntu, udiniwe emsebenzini, kwaye uyibone indawo engabonakaliyo, kodwa njengenhlanhla kunokuba nomntu onxilisayo ecaleni kwakho. Uza kwenza ntoni? Ungakwazi ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza, kodwa kuya kuba yintoni umphumo? Amazwi akho kuye, njengodonga lwee-peas, kunye nesizathu sokungqubana komntu onxilisayo unokucatshiswa kakhulu. Wena nomntwana wakho uya kuhlupheka.

Ngako oko, hamba kumagama omele uqhubele phambili kwaye uqhubele phambili kwi salon. Kwenzeka ukuba sele usuyenzile indawo, kwaye ummelwane onxilisayo uhleli eceleni kwakho, unomntwana ezandleni zakho, kungcono ukutshintshela ukuba ubenqande ngomzimba wakho okanye utshintshe indawo, kodwa kungekhona kwindawo yokuhlala, kodwa kude.

Kwakhona, kungekhona nje umntu onxilisayo kwibhasi okanye iqela labantu abanobudlova abanokuba yingozi, kodwa kunye nemoto eyeke ngengozi okanye abantu "bajonge" isitrato okanye umdlali wendima ebalulekileyo. Umntwana wakho kufuneka azi ukuba ngaphantsi kweemeko kufuneka ajoyine nabani na kwingxoxo, makungabikho naya nabo.

Ngokuqhelekileyo abahlaseli basebenzise nje ukungenazi zinto nokuthembela kwabantwana. Banikezela ukuba baye ekhaya okanye bajonge iidodo, badlale imidlalo edlalekileyo, njl. Umntwana, athathwa ngokukhohlisa, uyakhohlwa malunga nezilumkiso zabazali. I-maniac eyaziwayo, i-Ashotyan, yayifuna ixhoba ngoncedo lentombi yakhe eyamkelwa. Wayekhangela intombazana enxibe kakuhle phakathi kwesihlwele kwaye wambuza ukuba ungumMuscovite okanye cha. Ukuba ufumene impendulo: UMuscovite, wabuza ukuba unokufumana njani le ndawo okanye kweso sitrato, kwaye ukuba akunjalo, wamema ukuba athathe inxaxheba ekuhlolweni kwesikrini. Yaye ifumene imvume, yamholela kumntakwabo, owayengumongameli.

Emva koko benza ngokuvumelana nesicwangciso senkqubo esilungisiweyo. Le ntombazana yaziswa ekhaya, yanikwa ikhofi kunye nonyango lwe-psychotropic, kwaye ngokukhawuleza xa ilahlekile, uAsrotyan wadlwengula, wayithatha izinto, kunye nexhoba, egqoke izigubhu, waphonswa ngaphandle kwintlango. Kamva, i-maniac yaqala ukubulala amaxhoba.

Abantwana bendalo ngokuthembela. Abaqapheli ukuba isigebengu singenza ngathi sinobubele ngaphandle xa sizingela, kwaye emva koko sijika sisilo.

Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukuchazela ngokucacileyo kumntwana ukuba zonke izimemo zokuya kwindawo ethile, jonga i-movie okanye udlale ithoyizi entsha, umntwana kufuneka alahle. Unako ukubhekisela kuwe, ngabazali bakhe, okanye ukuba akanakunomdla kwisibonelelo semzini. Kwaye ngokwabo uxelela abazali malunga nekhono elingaziwayo elimnike into ethile. Oku kuninzi kule meko kuxhomekeke kuwe, ukuba usabela njani ngokubhekiselele kwinto ekuthethwe ngayo, thintana nabanye abazali, mhlawumbi abantwana babo banikezelwa into enjalo, kwaye ubukele imeko xa abantwana bakho bedlala egcekeni.

Kwenzeka ukuba umntu omdala okanye umlingana ofana nomntwana uzimisele kakhulu xa ezama ukuphazamisa ukuzikhukhumeza komntwana, njengokuba ndicinga ukuba sele udala, kodwa abazali bakho abayikuvumela. Kulo mzekelo, umntwana kufuneka athethe ukuba ufuna ukulumkisa unyoko nonina apho kwaye uya kuhamba nani, kwaye ukhangele kule barker. Ukuba uye waqala ukuthetha nomntwana kwaye akanako injongo embi, uya kuba novuyo ukuthetha nawe. Kwaye ukuba akunjalo, ngoko akunakwenzeka ukuba uyifumane.

Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba abahlaseli bangasebenzisa umatshini, ngoko ke umntwana kufuneka aqikelele xa imoto engaziwayo iqhuma kuye, kufuneka ahlale kude naye, kwaye xa ebuzwa ukuba angayifumana njani isitrato okanye indlu, kufuneka athi akwazi , kwaye kufuneka akhumbule ukuba ukuba umntu ongowesihambi uphuma emotweni, kufuneka usebenze ngokukhawuleza ecaleni kwendlu kwaye ukuba ungena kwiyiphi na ididi unokumemeza ngokuthi "Mama!" okanye "Tata!" kwaye uguqa ngokungathi wadibana nabazali bakhe. Akunandaba ukuba akukho mntu waphendula umnxeba wakhe. Ummangalelwa akanakwenzeka ukuba ahlole zonke iifestile ukuze atyelele ingqalelo.

Ithuba lokugcinwa kwimeko enjalo lihlala likhona, sifuna kuphela ukuvavanya imeko ngokuchanekileyo kwaye senze isigqibo esifanelekileyo.

Izigqibo:
  1. Ungalokothi ungene kwimpikiswano kwezithuthi zikawonkewonke okanye ukuxinana kwabantu.
  2. Ukuba umntu onxilayo uhamba kunye nawe, kukulungele ukuhamba naye, kwaye ngaphantsi kweemeko musa ukuqala ingxoxo naye.
  3. Xa ubona inkampani engaqhelekanga, kungcono ukuba ubaleke kubo, utshintshe indlela, uye kwelinye icala lesitalato.
  4. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubuzwa indlela yokufumana isitalato, makhe aphendule indlela yokufika khona, udwebe isicwangciso, kodwa ungayithathi entloko ukuze ubone abantu abangaziwa.
  5. Xa umntwana ecaphunyiswa kwisenzo esichengileyo, emnxusa ukuba usemncinci, kufuneka afune ukungena endlwini aze axele abazali bakhe kunye nalapho uya khona.
  6. Umntu ongaqhelekanga ucetyisa umntwana ukuba adlale umdlalo okanye abuke kwizilwanyana, kufuneka anqabise.
  7. Umntwana wamenywa kwisigaba okanye ukulungiselela umncintiswano wobuhle, makanganqikazi ukubuza ukuba kufuneka afikephi nabazali bakhe ngelo xesha.
  8. Ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana exelele malunga noqhagamshelwano nabantu abangabaziyo abanikezela okuthile kuye, bathethe nabamelwane - abazali, bamise umlindo xa abantwana behamba ngesitalato. Ukuba umntu uxolisa kubonakala kwindawo yokudlala, nikeza inkcazo ecacileyo yalo mntu kwigosa lakhe lesithili.
  9. Ukuba umntwana umenywa ukuba ahlale emotweni engaqhelekanga ukuze abonise indlela, kufuneka ahlale kude naye kunokwenzeka kwaye ngaphantsi kweemeko apho ukuba ahlale phantsi, nokuba uhamba endleleni.
  10. Xa umntu ongowokuzimela engxamnye, umntwana kufuneka afike kuyo nayiphi na indlu, azenzele ukuba uhlala apha, avule isandla sakhe abize unina okanye uyise, "obone".
Yonke le imigaqo yendalo yokhuseleko lobomi bomntwana. Kodwa uninzi uthatha ngokungacacanga, ukubona indlela osebenza ngayo-abazali bakhe. Kodwa ngokungafani nabo banokukhuseleka kwaye akuyi kuhlola rhoqo imeko. Ngoko jonga izenzo zakho kwaye ukhumbule ukuba umntwana ufunda kuphela ngumzekelo wakho, kwaye kuphela kuwe kuxhomekeke ukhuseleko lomntwana wakho.

Yaye khumbula ukuba kwiimeko ezininzi, ixhoba lenza ukuba inkohlakalo isebenze. Ngoko ke, gcina imithetho kwaye ugcine abathandekayo bakho.