Kungekudala okanye kamva, ebomini babo bonke abantu abadala, umzuzwana ufika xa kubalulekile ukuba uzibonele, ukuzibamba entlalweni ukuze ube nenjongo ethile. Le njongo ephambili ebomini yomntu ngamnye. Kufunyanwa ngabantu ngabanye ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo: umntu unomsebenzi, umntu udala indalo enkulu, umntu unomsebenzi. Kwaye umntu akayiqondi nhlobo. Kukho ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo, kodwa kwiimeko ezinjalo, abaninzi bethu bazama ukuqonda oku ... kubantwana bethu.
Abantwana kukuqhubela phambili intsapho. Omnye uyabathanda kunye namaphupha ngabo, kodwa abanye abayithandi. Kodwa, enye indlela okanye enye, sibeka ithemba kunye neenjongo zethu kubantwana bethu, sidibanisa iphupha lethu elilibalekile. Khawukhumbule, owodwa kuphela ebuntwaneni obungafuni ukuba: kunye ne-cosmonauts, kunye neemvumi, kunye nezilwanyana zezilwanyana, kunye ne-confectioners, kunye nabaqhubi ... kodwa kungekhona kwiinkota zabo zobuntwaneni. Ngoku kuye kwaba yinto yesiko ukufundisa abantwana bakho ukususela kwintsapho kakhulu, abantu abambalwa abalinde ixesha lokuba babuze oko bafuna ukwenza ngokwabo. Kukhona umthetho ongatshitshiyo ukuba umntwana ngokwakhe akakwazi ukukhetha indlela yakhe, ngokukodwa esemncinci. Le ngcamango engafanelekanga, kuba umntwana akananto yokukhetha kwaye akayidingi. Ukuze ungenzi iimpazamo kwaye ungalimazi umntwana wakho, umele ukhangele umntwana wakho: mhlawumbi uyadonsa okanye uthanda ukudansa yonke indawo, okanye lonke ixesha ecula iinjongo ezithile. Oku kwenzeka njalo. Kodwa yonke into yokuba abazali bafuna ukuqonda iimfuno zabo ezingenakwenzekayo kubantwana babo. Oku kungenxa yokunganeliseki kwangaphakathi kunye nenye inxalenye yobomi bomntu, ngenxa yeemvakalelo zokungazaliseki, ukungahambi kakuhle.
"Ndihlala ndifuna ngokwenene omnye wabantwana bam ukuba babe nomculo, becula," kuvuma omnye umfazi, unina wabantwana abathathu. "Kodwa mna nomyeni wam andinayo indlebe okanye ilizwi." Ngoko kwavela ukuba akukho nabantwana bethu abanabo, ababini abanalo isingoma. Kodwa ndithemba ukuba mhlawumbi banokukhula. Intombi encinane yamthabatha kumlawuli womculo, wajonga, wamphulaphula waza wambeka isigwebo esichasayo: yonke into ayikho ithemba. Ndandithukuthele kakhulu. Ndamnika intombi yam ukuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, kuba ndifuna ukuba umntwana uphumelele. Sinazo ezininzi iiploma, izibhengezo, ndiyaziqhenya, kodwa nantsi ingxaki ngokufunda ... "
Iimeko ezinjalo aziqhelekanga. Abazali, ukulibala malunga neminqweno yabantwana babo, baphathwa ngokugqithiswa kwabo ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo "bayayibeka" ezinye iingxaki ezininzi. Oku kunokukhokelela ekubeni umntwana uya kuba nexesha elininzi elinamandla ukuba azive engenziwanga kwaye alahleke kwaye azijonge kuyo yonke indawo, nokuba akukho nto iphilileyo.
"Ndaphupha ukuba umntwana wam uya kuba ne-ballet, kuba kuhle kakhulu! Imidaniso yabo, iipakethi zabo! .. - enye ibhinqa. "Ndinendodana. Idatha yakhe yomzimba ilungile. Ndiyithumele kumfundisi, yonke into yayibonakala iyasebenza, kodwa xa kwakuyimfuneko yokusebenza kunye nefayili, wayengafuni ukuya kwindawo yokudlala, wathi akayithandi kwaye ayifuni. Washiya ibhallet, wangena kwiziko leelwimi. Ndatshutshiswa gqitha kuye, ndifunga. Kodwa ke wavuka. Ndiyintoni na? "
Enyanisweni, ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabazali abathi, ngeendlela zonke, bafuna ukwenza umntwana wabo udume kwaye uphumelele, ukuba ngumzali wabantu abanet talente emhlabeni. Kodwa, ngelishwa, ngokungafani, kungekhona konke oku kufunyenweyo, kwaye xa kunjalo, kudla ngokubaluleka kubantwana ngokwabo kunye nezinto zabo zokuzilibazisa, kunokuba bazali babo. Ngoko ke, musa ukubopha amaphupha akho kubantwana, kuba kufuneka ukuba babe neyabo.