Ukunyanzeliswa kwabantwana abasesikolweni

Ulwaphulo lwabantwana lunxulumene naloo nto. Nangona iimeko ezininzi kunye neentlobo zezenzo ezinobundlobongela zibonakaliswe ngabaphathi bezengqondo kunye nootitshala, inqanaba lokhwabaniso lwabantwana abasenkulumeni aluyehla, yintoni isizathu esona sizathu sokukhulisa iintsapho.

Ukususela ekuzalweni, umntwana uyazi kakuhle ihlabathi elizungezile kwaye uzama ukunxibelelana noluntu ukususela kwinyanga yokuqala, xa ehlangana nonina ngokumomotheka. Ngokumalunga nokungabikho kokuthetha ngentetho, umntwana ufunda ngempawu kunye nemiqondiso yokuxelela umntu omthandayo malunga nempilo yakhe.

Ukumamatheka, ukuhamba, ukucima, ukunyakaza okuthulileyo kunye neepeni kufakazela ukunyameka kwengane. Ngethuba ukukrazula, ukunyakaza okubukhali kwezandla kunye neenyawo, ukukhala ngokukhawuleza, ukukhenkceza, kwaye emva koko uthathe iinwele, ukukhwaza, ukuxubha, ukuthetha ngokungahambi kakuhle okanye intlungu yomntwana.

Ukuphendula kwabazali kule mpawu yomntwana kubini:
  1. ukuzaliseka kwangoku kwezinto ezifunwayo.
  2. ngahoywa.
Kwaye kwaye enye into ayilunganga, kuba okokuqala kukukhokelela ekubhubhiseni, okwesibini kuqinisa ukunyaniseka, ukwesaba nokungakhathaleli abantu. Umntwana omncinci ufunda ukuqonda umntu omdala, ngoko ukhumbula indlela abazali abayiphendula ngayo loo nto okanye ezinye izenzo.

Abazali xa izenzo zentshukumo zentsana kufuneka zenze oku kulandelayo:
  1. ukuqonda isizathu sokumemeza nokukhala.
  2. ngokukhawuleza ukuphelisa isizathu xa kwenzeka intlungu yomntwana okanye ukugula.
  3. xa kwenzeka kwi-vagaries, ukutshintsha ingqalelo yomntwana kwezinye izinto.
  4. kwindawo ephumlileyo ukuchazela inkomo ngendlela edlalwayo okanye ngokubhekiselele kwiincwadi zokuziphatha okubi.
Ngokukhula komntwana, kuyimfuneko ukuchaza rhoqo imithetho kunye nemigangatho yokuziphatha kunye nemfundo yokuziphatha. Umzekelo, ukukhala komama, ukumemeza okanye ukulila ekutshitsheni kwintsana eneminyaka ezintandathu kuza kuqinisa kuphela izenzo zomntwana, othabatha yonke into yomdlalo.

Ngayiphi na isenzo esonakalisayo somntwana, umntu kufuneka aphendule ngokuzithoba, ngaphandle kwemvakalelo enobudlova, akhulume ngeemvakalelo zexhoba kwaye afundise ukuziphatha okuchanekileyo. Kule meko, xelele ukuba ibuhlungu umama, xa ebetha iinywele zakhe, kufuneka azisole emmmy, agxothe intloko kwaye agxininise ukuba ingqalelo yomzali kufuneka ithandwe ngendlela eyahlukileyo.

Kufuneka ukuba ufundise umntwana rhoqo kwaye angabonakali kwiimimiselo zentlalo, ngakumbi ukucacisa izenzo zabanye abantu abathande amehlo omntwana. Ukulwa kwabantwana okanye ukuxilwa kwabantu abadala kufuneka bachazwe ngokukhawuleza ngolwimi olufumanekayo, kwaye angashiywanga ngaphandle kokuqwalaselwa okanye kamva.

Yinakekele ukuba umntwana akayi kuthatha inkohlakalo kunye nobudlova kwizilwanyana, izityalo okanye izinto ezingapheliyo. Uhlala uthetha nje ngeemvakalelo zentlungu yabangamaxhoba, kodwa qiniseka ukuba unike imodeli yokuziphatha.

Ukususela ekusetyenzisweni kwezonxibelelwano zomlomo, unokufumanisa isizathu esona sizathu sokuxhatshazwa komntwana kunye nokuphelisa ukubonakala kwayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungaqhubekiyo iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo, ukungakhathazeki kunye nokuhlukumeza kwinqanaba elingenalwazi, ngoko kuyimfuneko ukuba uphumelele umsindo kunye noloyiko.

Umzekelo, ncedisa umntwana omncinci ukukhulula umsindo ngenxa yokuzikhandla ngokomzimba, ukukhala okukhulu entliziyweni, ukukrazula iphephandaba. Ngomdlali osemaqenjini omdala ungadlala umdlalo "Nokuba unjalo-njalo-ke," xa uphonsa ibhola, ubiza omnye ngomnye ngegama lezilwanyana, izityalo, ifenitshala, izinto zokuqala kunye nombala ongathandekiyo, uze uqhubele kumagama afudumele kunye nomoya onothando.

Isizathu esibalulekileyo sokubandezeleka kwabantwana kukungabikho uthando lwabazali, ukunakwa, ukuthandeka nokungakwazi ukuveza iingcamango zabo, ukuseka ukuthetha nabanye. Ngako oko, umntwana kufuneka ahlale edunyiswa aze ahlonishwe, aze ajeziswe ngenxa yokungathobeli, kubalulekile ukugxininisa ukunganeliseki kwakhe ngokungaziphathi kakuhle, kungekhona ubuntu bomntwana. Kwaye ufundise umntwana osemaqenjini ukuba ajwayelane, adlale kwaye athethe nabanye abantwana kunye nabantu abadala.

Ngaloo ndlela, ulwaphulo lwabantwana bokuqala esikolweni luyimeko kwaye aluyiyo inzondo, kanti imfundo engafanelekanga yabantu abadala kunye nomzekelo wabo ngamnye unokukhokelela ekuphuhlisweni kwezenzo ezigwenxa.