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Indlela yokunxibelelana
Zonke iintsana zikhala. Ngoko bathetha nathi, bachaza iimvakalelo zabo neemvakalelo zabo, de bafunde ukuthetha ngamazwi. Kuphela ezinye iintsana zikhala ngaphantsi, ezinye - ezinye, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo le ndlela yindlela yokusenza sibaqwalasele.
Kukho abazali abakhathalela kuphela xa ekhala, ngoko ngokukhawuleza, umntwana usenomkhwa onjalo-lonke ixesha, i-whimper. Ziyindlela enjalo yokulawula imeko, oko kukuthi, ukwenza umama okanye utata eze, kufuneka ukhawule iinyembezi. Kwaye xa uqala ukudlala ngokwemigaqo yomntwana, uya kuqala ukusebenzisa le nto ukuze aphumelele. Bonke abantwana bayamhlophe kwaye baxhamla, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba i-whiner encinane ikwazi ukuqonda imeko kwaye iphumelele. Awukwazi ukuvumela umntwana ukuba acinge ukuba le ndlela isebenza.
Oku kuya kwenzeka xa abazali bethatha ingqalelo kwaye banakekelwa ngumntwana xa kukho ukungaphumeleli, umzekelo unokuthi: "Ilanga lam, umntwana wam, akunakulimaza? Ngaba ubuhlungu kakubi? "Kwiimeko ezinjalo, abantwana bayaqonda ukuba bayaxolisa, ngoko baqala ukukhwaza. Hlaziya indlela oziphatha ngayo kwiimeko ezinjalo, mhlawumbi unesihawu xa usabela kwiinkathazo zomculi. Khumbula, ngaba kunjalo, ukuba ukukhala kuwele kwaye uvuka, kodwa awuphazamisi?
Abantwana balungelelanise ukuba kufuneka basinike lonke ixesha ukuba basinike iimpawu zokuba bebuhlungu, ukuba into ethile iyamthintela, mhlawumbi uyayifuna into, apho sikulungele khona, nalapho kungenjalo. Ayaboniswa ngamagama, kodwa kwizenzo, ukuziphatha kunye nezenzo. Umsebenzi wethu kukubamba le miqondiso kwaye uzama ukuyiqonda ngokuchanekileyo, ngoko ukuphendula kuya kulungile.
Isici sokushisa komntwana
Ukuba umntanakho akayi kukhwela kwizinto ozenzayo ngononophelo olunzulu kunye nokunyamekela, ngoko ukugaya kungabhekaniswa neempawu zakhe awazalelwa ngazo. Unokuba ngumngcipheko kwaye unesichukumiso sakhe sengqondo. Abantwana abanjalo basabela ngokungafaniyo ngomsindo, isandi, ukukhanya. Oku akuthethi ukuba abantwana abanjalo abanjalo, bahlala bebuthathaka kwaye banamandla. Amandla akhe - uyabakhathalela ngakumbi, akhathazeke ngakumbi kwabanye. Abantwana abanjalo banamakhono amaninzi okusela, umculo kunye nobugcisa. Ngamanye amaxesha bakhula ngokukhawuleza. Aba bantu abagcini nje xa bexhala, kodwa bahleka ngakumbi. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo abayi kuba mhlophe ngenxa yokuba bengabonakali, kodwa kunoko babonakalisa ulonwabo lwabo, batyebile ngakumbi, batyebile kwaye baqonda ngokugqithiseleyo ihlabathi, kwaye iimvakalelo zabo zomelele ngakumbi kwaye zibukhali.
Ukuhlamba akusoloko kuyinto embi, kuba ngokuqhelekileyo emva kwezinyembezi abantwana bevakalelwa ngakumbi. Abazali akusoloko bamele baqinisekise umntwana, ngamanye amaxesha kunceda ukukhala nokukhala.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukunakekelwa ngokugqithiseleyo kuveza umkhwa wokukhenkceza kunye nokuphazamiseka, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kubalulekile ukukhuthaza iintlungu zezingane. Funda ukukhululeka ngokuzila. Musa ukugculela umntwana, ungamsongeli, ungavumi kwaye ungaze ujezise. Ukuba ubona ukuba umntwana uqala ukuqala kwakhona, ziphatha ngokuzinzileyo nangokucokisekileyo, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba akufanele ube nengqondo kumntwana wakho. Ngokuchaseneyo, yiba neengxaki.
Kutheni umntwana enxinzekile?
Ukuba umntwana unesidima esincinci, oko kubangelwa isizathu sokwenyuka kwengozi, ukulila. Cinga ngolwalamano lwakho nomntwana, mhlawumbi ufuna ukuba akunakwenzeka kuye okanye umphoqele ukuba enze into ayenako. Ungatsho ukuba kwimfundo kufuneka igxeke kunye namazwana. Khawukhumbule nje ukuba abantwana basengozini kwaye banokuziva konke esibaxelelayo. Kukho abantwana abaye baphendule ngokukhawuleza xa bethetha kunye nokumemeza, ngelixa abanye baqala ukukhangela kwi-glance. Abantwana abanjalo badinga ukuthotywa komntu, kungekhona isigwebo kunye nobunzima. Nestoit ukuze ajezise umntwana ngelo nyathelo, awalubonisile okanye enze ngokuzimela nayiphi na isenzo, kuba asenako ukwenza konke okusemthethweni nangokuchanekileyo.
Abantwana bahlala beziva benetyala ngokwabo. Ukuba unomntwana onobubele, bonisa ukunyamezela kunye nomonde. Mnike kuphela loo mi sebenzi ayenzayo kwaye amdumise kuyo yonke impumelelo. Yiba nomntu wonke acinge ukuba awunyanzelanga kwaye akayi kufuna, kodwa umntwana wakho ufuna ukuthanda, ukuqonda nokuchaza. Zizo zi intsana eziye zenzeke, ziyakwazi ukunciphisa isimo sengqondo esibi sabazali bazo kwaye zixhamle kunye kunye okanye zikhutshwe ngenxa yokuba zibi kubazali bazo. Ukuba awunayo imvakalelo namhlanje, ke uchaze ngokucacileyo umntwana ukuba kutheni.
Fumana isizathu
Thina asikwazi ukulawula ukuziphatha kwabantwana, kuba oku kungakhokelela kwiingxaki kuminyaka yabantu abadala. Ewe, sihlala siqwalasela indlela umntwana wethu okufanele aziphathe ngayo, kodwa ungafaki uxinzelelo kwizinto ayenze, mamela nje umntwana kwaye uqonde oko akufunayo.
Zama ukuqonda isizathu sokuba ahambe. Cinga ngendlela odla ngayo kwiimeko ezifanayo. Kutheni ukungaphendulanga kwakho kungavumi ukunyuka? Ukulandelela xa inkwenkwe inokuba yinto ephosakeleyo? Mhlawumbi xa wayekhathele okanye elambile? Mhlawumbi xa ukhathele okanye uthetha kwifowuni? Amaxesha amaninzi abantwana banomdla, kuba bafuna ukunakwa, zama ukuphazamisa.
Ukulingana nokuthula ngumgaqo oyintloko
Ukuze umntwana abonise iimvakalelo zakhe kunye nezicelo ngendlela eyahlukileyo, zama ukumfundisa ukuba asebenzise i-intonation efanelekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, xa umntwana eqala ukukhwaza kwakhona, xelela ngokucacileyo: "Zama ukunciphisa uphinde uphinde uphinde utsho. Xa ukhala, andiqondi nto. " Kwaye uqhubeke wenza oko wakwenzayo, zama ukunyaniseka ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba uyayilumka, zama ukuqhubeka ukhuluma nomntwana ade ayeke ukukhwaza. Xa umntwana eyeka ukugcoba, qhubela phambili incoko uze uthi: "Ewe, ngoku uyancipha, unganditsho indlela endinokukunceda ngayo!". Musa ukucaphukisa, uthetha kakuhle kwaye uhlalise.
Xa umntwana ekhawuleza, khetha ixesha kwaye uchaze kuye, kutheni umahluko phakathi kwentetho eqhelekileyo kunye nokugcoba. Mxelele nje ukuba ithoni ayithethayo ayimkelekanga, kwaye uyayiqonda kuphela xa ekhuluma ngokuqhelekileyo.
Ngaphezu koko, umntwana kufuneka aqonde ukuba yintoni ithoni evakalayo evumelekileyo, ungathembeli ukuba uyazi. Mbonise indlela onokuthetha ngayo ngezwi eliphilileyo kunye nendlela othetha ngayo ngokuqhelekileyo. Umzekelo: "Nantsi ndiyadala: ma-ah-ah-ma, u-e-e-e-e-nya ayikho-ooo-ooooooooooooooo ". Kwaye ngoku ndiza kuthetha ngelizwi eliqhelekileyo elithi: "Mama, andinakukwenza. Nceda uncede. Ngoko nawe, usho njalo, ukuba ufuna ukucela into okanye ukucela uncedo. Ngoku yithuba lakho, zama. "
Unokufowunela enye ikona endlwini "ukugcoba" kwaye xa umntwana eqala ukuhlamba kwakhona, thumela khona imizuzu embalwa ukuba ungakhathazeki. Akuyona into yokuba abazali bethu basithumelele kwikona. Iingcali zenzululwazi zinokuthi zibulale iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo.
Ukuba uya kufundisa umntwana wakho ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe kude kube sekupheleni, ngoko akunandaba nokuba ungaphi, utshintshe izicwangciso zakho. Ngokomzekelo, wena usepaki, umntwana uqala ukukhwaza, uthi kuye: "Uvuka kwakhona, uyayikhumbula imithetho yethu? Yonke into, siya ekhaya. " Ngaphandle koko abayi kuphelisa, kodwa oku kuya kwenzeka, kuba uya kuvumela ukuba oku kwenzeke. Musa ukuthukuthela, ungamemeza, ungacasuli, wenze ngokuzenzekelayo.
Mhlawumbi, umntwana uya kutshintsha kancane, kodwa zonke iimeko apho umntwana azibonakalisa kakuhle kwaye akazange aqale ukukhanya, khuthaza. Iziphumo zokuqala ziya kubonakala kwiiveki ezintathu. Into ephambili akuyikuyeka. Khangela indlela kumntwana wakho.