Ukuba sithetha ngento ezuze ilifa ekuzalweni kwamawele, sithetha amawele. Ukubonakala kokukhanya kwamawele okwenyaniso yinto ebonakalayo yendalo.
Vala oonxibelelwano
Amabhinqa aqondana omnye ngaphandle komagama. Kukho amabali athetha ukuba amawele, ahlukaniswe ebuntwaneni kwaye akhulile kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, abe nemikhwa efanayo. Bathethwe zizifo ezifanayo, bakhetha amantombazana afana nohlobo olufanayo kunye namagama njengabafazi.
Ngokwenza oko, kuboniswa ukuba ama-odnoyaytsovye amawele ahluke kunye ngamaphesenti angu-99. Ukuphikisana kwabo bantwana baqala kwisibeleko sikamama. Bahlala bephikisana phakathi kwabo. Emva kokubonakala kokukhanya, elinye lawa mawele libonisa umlinganiso wenkokeli, okwesibini kusemthunzini. Iwele elihamba phambili likhula kangcono, uphinde uqhube umntakwabo okanye udadewabo kude nesifuba somama.
Elinye lamamawele liya kuba liphezulu, ekubeni wabonakala ngaphambi kwewele lesibini. Abazali abaziveli lo mmahluko. Abahluli amawele abo kumntwana omdala nomncinane. Amacangca anikezelwa ngqalelo kwaye alungiselelane omnye njengomzekelo. Ukuba usondela kule ndlela yokukhulisa, ngoko ke abantwana abayi kuba nobunzima.
Musa ukudibanisa amawele akho?
Abazali bamawele bavame ukubuza umbuzo ofanayo, musa ukudibanisa abantwana babo. Kwaye nabazali ngokwabo bavame ukuza kule ngcamango entloko ukususela kwakuba bafunde malunga nokuba amawele alindeleke.
Emva kokuba abantwana bezalwa, abazali bafunda ngokucophelela ukuze bafumane ukungafani. Ukuba akukho mvelaphi ephawulekayo, abazali beza kunye nabo ngokusekelwe kwimeko yomntwana. Ngokomzekelo, enye inqabileyo, yesibini iyincinci okanye enye idabukisayo, enye iyavuya. Kakade, oku akunjalo ngokuchanekileyo, kodwa ukungafani okunjalo kuya kunceda ukuhlukanisa amawele, nokuba ngaba bafuna ukukhohlisa abazali.
Iingcali zengqondo zithi odnoyaytsovyh vnutnetsovtilyachayut kuphela kwiintlukwano ezibekwe zizihlobo. Ukwahlukana okunjalo kwikamva kuya kunceda ekwakheni ubudlelwane babo kunye neontanga zabo. Kuya kunceda ekuphuhliseni ubuntu.
Ubuqhetseba bemfundo
Intsapho apho amawele azalwe khona aya kufanelana neendlela zakudala zemfundo. Kwintsapho eqhelekileyo, apho abantwana beeminyaka ezahlukeneyo, abazali bazama ukudibanisa kunye nokubafundisa indlela yokuhamba. Kodwa kunye nabantwana bamawele, imeko ihluke ngokupheleleyo. Abantwana mabafunde ukuhlala ngaphandle komnye. Ukuba oku kungenziwanga, amawele aya kukwakha ihlabathi apho bahlala bekhululekile kuphela.
Ukufika kunyaka owodwa, abantwana baya kukhula ngendlela efanayo. Ukuphuhliswa kwamawele kuhluke ngokukodwa kwiphuhliso lomntwana omnye. Amawele adibanisa omnye nomnye kwinqanaba lomlomo, ngoko aqala ukuthetha kamva kunontanga. Xa baqala ukuthetha, abantwana baya kuqonda ulwimi kuphela.
Umntwana oqhelekileyo uqala ukuqonda nokuphendula egameni lakhe kwiinyanga ezilisithandathu, amawele aqala ukusabela kwigama kuphela ngonyaka omnye. Bangakwazi ukuphendula egameni lamamawele abo. Kuze kube yiminyaka emibili, amawele aziqapheli ukubonakalisa kwabo kwisibuko. Kwiminyaka yesikolo amawele angathetha endaweni yokuthi "mna" nesigamazwi "thina".
Amawele angatshatanga avelisa lula kakhulu. Aba bantwana banokuphathwa njengabantwana bamaxesha ahlukeneyo. Amakhwenkwe afundiswa ngokukhawuleza, kwaye amantombazana ahlala ethanda. Kwintsapho apho abantwana beeminyaka ezahlukeneyo bekhula, abazali bazama ukuthanda nokunyamekela abantwana ngokufanayo. Ngamawele, kulungile ukwenza ukhetho. Ngokomzekelo, ubaba unomdla ongaphezu komntwana omnye, kunye nomama wesinye. Emva koko abantwana baya kufumana inani elifanayo lothando.
Khumbula izinto ezinjenge ...
- ... ukuhlangabezana namawele kuphela.Ukuba umntwana omnye ezalwa, unina unokukwazi ukuzimela ngokuzimeleyo nomntwana, kodwa xa azalwa amawele, oku akunakwenziwa. Ubawo kufuneka bancede unina. Kungcono ukuhambisa ngokukhawuleza imisebenzi, ukuze abantwana kunye nosapho babe namandla aneleyo.
- ... amawele asondlo ngokufunwa. Omnye umntwana unokunyangwa xa elambile. Amawele awavumelekanga oku. Ekubeni sondla kwaye sibeke umntwana omnye ukuba alele, umntu wesibini uyavuka. Xa ugqibile ngeyesibini, owokuqala uyavuka. Kwaye oko kuyaqhubeka kungapheliyo. Abantwana kufuneka baqheleke kwi-regime. Kukulungele ukuzondla ngelo xesha kunye nababini. Yiyo into endiyithandayo indoda.
- ... amagama angenanto . Akuvumelekile ukubiza amagama aqhagamshelana. Umzekelo, uDasha noMasha. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo akukhuthazwa ukuba idibanise amawele "hey, twins, apha". Kungcono ukubiza abantwana ngegama.
- ... ubeka embhedeni . Kubalulekile ukulala kunye namawele. Ngaloo ndlela, unokubuyisela amandla akho. Ngokuphathelele amawele, baya kuhlakulela umkhuba wokulala ndawonye. Ukuba sele ulala embhede omnye, amawele alala ngcono.
- ... ukuzola . Ukuba elinye lamawele liqala ukumemeza, okwesibini liya kuthatha ngokukhawuleza. Ekubeni umama onganayo izandla ezaneleyo, kuyimfuneko ukuthatha uncedo lwezihlobo.
- ... ukuhlala yedwa. Amabhinqa kufuneka axhumane rhoqo ngangokunokwenzeka nabanye abantwana, oku kuya kubanceda ukuba baqhelisele ihlabathi.
- ... njengeziganeko . Ukuba ugqoke abantwana kwiingubo ezifanayo, kunokubangela ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, njengoko umntwana ebheka rhoqo kuye.
- ... ngemali . Ngokuza kwamawele kwintsapho, kuya kufuneka uchithe kabini. Ngoko uthengela njani amathoyizi ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Kungcono ukuthumela abantwana beekgs ezahlukeneyo. Ngokuphathelele ieholide, kufuneka baphumle komnye nomnye. Ngokomzekelo, ngolunye ihlobo, enye inye yahamba yaya ku-ugogo wayo, kwaye iwele zihamba nabazali kwi-resort, nakwezinye ihlobo.