Kanjani, ekugqibeleni, ukulahla uphawu lokulondeka?

Ungayinqoba njani isohlwayo kwaye ufumane esinye isiqingatha? Amabhunga kunye neengcebiso.
Idatha yangaphandle, imilinganiselo yeerameters, ingqondo, imfundo - oku kuyamangalisa, kodwa, njengommiselo, ayikho isiqinisekiso sokuba le ntombazana iya kufumana iqela elifanelekileyo. Ngokudlulileyo, abantu ababi kakhulu abahlala kude neentlobo zeengelosi bayaziqhayisa ngokwabo. Kwaye wena, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama kangakanani, awuzange uxoxe nomntu othile oza kulusebenzisa ngandlela-thile indima yakho njengomlingane ebomini ixesha elide. Kodwa awuzange ucinge, mhlawumbi, ingxaki ikuwe? Mhlawumbi uyaziphendulela ngokuziphatha kwabo namagama abo bangakuvuyisa? Yintoni engayi kuba yinkinga kunye nendlela yokulahla ubunyulu? Masiqonde ndawonye!

Kutheni ungazange ukwazi ukufumana indoda yamaphupha akho kude kangaka?

Ngokutsho kweengqondo zengqondo, uphawu lobumninzi luyinkalo yomntu kunye nesimo sengqondo kubantu. Ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi abafuni abafuna ngokwenene. Mhlawumbi oku kumiselwe ngumphakathi wanamhlanje okanye umxholo wemiyalelo yabazali. Ngokutsho kophando lwezenhlalakahle, ininzi yamantombazana ayiphendule ngaphandle kokungabaza ukuba bayathanda ukubona ngaphantsi kwabo njengendoda enentaba yezihlunu, ngenxa yokuba uthando kunye nemvakalelo yeemvakalelo yinto engenanto. Ewe, kunokuba kupholile, kodwa kuphela ekuqalekeni. Ndikholelwe, ngenxa yobomi bentsapho aba bantu abafanelanga nonke, kwaye bona ngokwabo abahambeli ngokukodwa. Iikopi ezifanayo aziyi kukukhathalela ukuba ubushushu bakho bunjani, ukuba awuhlali kakuhle, amava akho kunye nezicwangciso zekamva aziyi kuba mnandi kuye. Kufuneka uqonde ukuba abesilisa be-alpha banomdla kuphela ekuzijabuliseni kwabo kunye ne-ego, bahlala kuphela. Ngoko ungamangalisi ukuba "isiqhamo" esifanayo kwiinqanaba zokuqala emva kokuzibandakanya ngaphandle kwesazela sesazela siya kuhoywa iifowuni kunye nemiyalezo.

Kukho nembono ekhoyo ukuba ininzi yabasetyhini bethu banomdla ngokukodwa kwimpilo-mali yomntu, ukukhula kwakhe komsebenzi. Ewe, ngakwesinye icala-le nto inqwenelekayo kukuba nayiphi na intombazana ifuna ukuba intsapho yakhe kunye nabantwana ayidingi imfuneko. Ukongezelela, ukufumaneka kwezemali kuqinisekisa ubomi obucace ngakumbi novuyo kunokuba ngaphandle kwabo. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunokwenzeka njani ukuhlambalaza, ngaba amadoda abacebileyo, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunoko, bakhethe ukulingana kwabo. Ewe, kukho amabali amaninzi malunga neCinderella, kodwa olu lwalamano lubucayi kwaye kaninzi kukho ithuba lomntu elikhumbuzayo lakhe elikhethiweyo liziphi iziqendu ezivela kuyo. Ndikholelwe, ngamanye amaxesha isisityebi, kodwa sisisilumko kwaye sinenjongo, unako ukukhulisa umbusi onamandla, oza kuba yintando kunye naye. Emva koko, njengoko besithi, emva komntu ophumeleleyo ngumfazi ozilumko okholelwa kuye.

Ukuze ungenzi iimpazamo ngeendlela zokukhetha ikusasa, kucetyiswa kakhulu ukuba udlulise iimvavanyo zentlalo kwaye ufumane i-psychotype yakho kunye nobabini. Le ndlela iqinisekisa ukuba uya kubheka ngokungafaniyo abo baya kufumana indlela yakho ebomini. Isiqinisekiso sinobudlelwane obonwabileyo kunye nobunzulu obuhambelana nokulinganiswa kwabalinganiswa kunye nemiphefumlo, izifiso ezifanayo kunye neembono zobomi.

Ungalususa njani uluncedo kwaye ufumane iqabane lakho ebomini?

Okokuqala, kufuneka ulahlekise umthwalo wengqondo owenza ukuba ungaboni abantu ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba ubone ngubani owenene. Kule nto ufuna, okokuqala, okokuqala, ukususa kuwe impawu zokubaluleka nokuzikhukhumeza, ukuba ube ngokwakho, ungabi ukwesaba ukuba ungenakuphanga kwaye ucele nomdla umntu owamthandayo ngobomi bakhe. Ukuba lo ngumlingani wakho oyintombi, uya kuvuyela ukuba nomdla kuwe. Vumela ukunethezeka kokuthetha into engqondweni yakho, into oyifunayo ebomini. Ndikholelwe, abo abangekho endleleni kunye nawe - baya kushiya kanye, oku akufanele kuzisole. Ngubani na onokutshatyalaliswa okufanayo-kuya kuhlala iminyaka emininzi.

Into ephambili akuyikuzibeka njengeyona njongo ephambili - ukufumana indoda ngobuhlobo obunzulu. Phila, phuhlisa, uqhagamshelane nabahlobo, funda into entsha kwaye awuyi kubona ukuba uthando luya kubakho ubomi bakho. Emva kwayo yonke into, njengoko i-classic yeencwadi uShakespeare ithe: "Uthando lubalekela abo bawuphishekelayo, kodwa abo babalekela, baqhube entanyeni ..." Siyathemba kakhulu ukuba uya kuqonda - akukho zikhwama ezipheleleyo kunye nezigulane ezizithobileyo aziyi kuthatha indawo yolonwabo loluntu olungenalo uthando kwaye uyakuthandwa. Sinqwenela ukufumana indoda yamaphupha akho ngexesha elifutshane!