Iprogram ye-Neuro-language okanye iNLP yintsimi ephuhlisayo yentsebenziswano yeengqondo ezinika iindlela ezilula nezifikelelekayo zokuthintela iinkqubo ezingenanto. I-NLP isetyenziswa ngempumelelo kwimida yothando kunye nolwalamano. Amasu e-NLP anceda ukufumana uthando, ukwakha ubudlelwane obumanyanisekileyo okanye ukuvuselela iimvakalelo ezidlulayo. Uthando ngumdlalo, kwaye yonke umdlalo unemithetho yayo. Uyazi - ube ngumpumelelo, akukho-ukulungiselela ukulahleka kunye nayo yonke imiphumo elandelayo. Ukuba ulahlekile othandweni bubuhlungu kakhulu, ngoko kungcono ukuqonda ngokukhawuleza imigaqo ephambili kwaye ufunde iindlela ezilula eziza kunceda ukuphepha iimpazamo ezingenakuxolelwa kwaye ujabule ngothando.
Ukwazi ukulungelelanisa. Isihluthulelo sovelwano phakathi kwabantu sifana. Kufuneka kufumaneke ukuseka indawo yomnxibelelanisi ngexesha loqhagamshelwano. Uya kufuneka ube isibuko, ubonakalise ukuziphatha komlingane wakho, ukuya kwiidhythm of breathing. Imisitho yakho, ukunyameka, ubuso buso, intetho yeelwimi kufuneka isondele ngokusemandleni. Isimo esiphezulu sokubukwa kwesimo semvelo kungokwemvelo, kungenjalo umntu uya kucinga ukuba uyaphilika.
Yiba yinkokeli kwintetho. Udinga ukuzilungelelanisa kwimvakalelo, ngokukhawuleza uholele umnxibelelwano kwiimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo eziya kuphazamisa indlela evakalelwa ngayo. Ukuba iqabane libophekile kwaye livaliwe ngokomzwelo, mncumo, uthethe ngobumnene kwaye ungenaxinzelelo. Ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva uya kufuna ukuyibukela kwaye akhanyise indlela ozibuza ngayo. Akukho msebenzi ophantsi "ukulungiswa" kwexabiso. Ukuba uthanda umntu, ngoko kunokwenzeka, kunye nenkqubo yeenkolelo ofana nayo. Bonisa. Yiba nomhlobo ontle. Kwi-NLP, "ukunqamanisa" enye yezona ndlela ezigqwesileyo zokubopha umntu. Ingundoqo yinto ukufumana okanye ukubamba umzuzu wolonwabo lomntu kunye nokumnxibelelana naye. Umculo, ukunqwenela, ukuvumba, ukuthintela ukuba iqabane livakalelwa kunye nawe, kufuneka livuselele iimvakalelo ezintle kuyo. Ngexesha elizayo, uya kudibanisa le mizwa kunye nawe kwaye uzame ukuzithethelela.
Khuthaza. Iingcali ze-NLP zibizwa ngokuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokwenza ukuziphatha okufunekayo okubizwa ngokuthi "ukuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo". Lo ngumqondiso kumntu owenza ngokuchanekileyo kwaye ukuziphatha kwakhe kumnandi kwaye kudibana nokulindela. Njengokukhuthaza, ungasebenzisa ukumomotheka, ukumanga, ukuncoma, ukunyamekela, ukunyamezela, njl. Ngokukhuthaza umlingane ngokuqinisekiswa okuqinisekileyo, uyakha impendulo kunye nezakhono ozifunayo. Sebenzisa indlela yokudlulisa. Isipho esihle kakhulu sokukhumbula abantu. Iqulethe iisethi zeememori zabantu abaye basichaphazela kwaye bashiya umkhondo kubo. Umbono wabantu abatsha uhambelana nale nkumbulo. Ngokomzekelo, igama lomntu ontle kwaye onentsingiselo kuthi uya kubeka ngokuzenzekelayo iimpawu ezilungileyo bonke abanye abantu endleleni yethu kunye negama elifanayo. Sebenzisa ubunzima bokutshintshisa kwaye uphukise umlingane wakho kulezo zikhumbuzo ezintle azithumele kuwe.
Iinkqubo ezintathu ezilula zeNLP zoLuthando
Umlobi weendlela zokuqala ze-NLP uVictoria Isaeva (Eva Berger) encwadini yakhe ethi "NLP ukuthanda uthando: 11 zobuchule eziya kunceda ukuthanda, ukutshata, ukutshata nabani na" unikeza ubuchule obuninzi obuza kunceda ukuqala ulwalamano olutsha okanye ukuphucula abo sele bathathe umlo .
I-Technique "Umhla wokuqala wokuqala"
Ngaphambi kwentlanganiso yokuqala enomdla, zama ukuphindaphinda ube ngumgcini wesikrini, umlawuli kunye nomdlali wefilimu yakho ebizwa ngokuthi "Umhla Wami Olungileyo." Uya kuba nohambo oluya kwiintlanganiso zexesha elizayo, umbhali onguphi na. Njengoko ugqiba isigqibo, kuya kudlula. Ukwenza oku, khumbula umhla wakho ophumeleleyo okanye nje imeko ovuyayo ngayo. Qinisekisa le mivakalelo kwakhona, ukubuyisela izandi, ukuthunga, imifanekiso kunye nemizwa kwimemori yakho. Yenza ukuba likhanye kangangoko, zama ukuziva yonke into ngokwenyama. Hlanganisa le mvakalelo kwaye uyigqithise ngengqondo kumhla ozayo. Cinga indlela uvakalelwa ngayo uvuyo kunye nolonwabo xa udibana nomlingane wakho, umbone, uve uze uzive unomdla kuwe. Yenza inkcazo yendawo yokuhlangana, indlela kunye nalapho uhlala khona, yintoni isandi ovalele ngasemva, ukuvumba, ubone iindawo ezikuyo kunye neendawo zangaphakathi. Uthetha ntoni na? Uyidla okanye uphuze ntoni? Ukuphuhlisa imeko, hlakulela emzimbeni wokuzonwabisa. Vumela uvuyo ludlulele kulo ngomsinga ofudumalayo, umphefumlo uya kucula, kunye nasezintsheni zegulfri. Thatha "bona", kwaye uhambe ngokuzithemba ngosuku lwakho olonwabileyo.
I-Technique "Umgaqo weEWE ezintathu"
Umlobi wezobugcisa ubizwa ngokuba nguSocrates. Kusetyenziswa ngokufanelekileyo ukunyanzeliswa kwengqondo ngenjongo yokufumana imvume yomntu. Umgaqo-teknoloji usekelwe ekufumaneni iimpendulo eziqinisekisiweyo kwimibandela emithathu malunga nezinto ezicacileyo (umzekelo: isibhakabhaka sibhakabhaka, utshani buhlaza, amanzi amanzi). Ngomlinganiselo ophezulu wokuba umntu athi "ewe" ukuya kwesine, kodwa sele sele umgaqo (umzekelo: uyandithanda?). UVictoria Isaeva ubonisa ukuba usebenzisa le ndlela yamandulo kunye nephumelelayo ukuze ufumane imvume yomntu kwimicimbi enxulumene nokuphuhliswa kobudlelwane: ukuthandana, ukuhlalisana, ukutshata, ukuhamba, ukuthenga, njl. Umbuzo ofuna ukuwufumana kukuba "ewe" akufanele kubuzwe, bangaphi ukufaka itoni yokuzola kunye nezwi elithembekileyo.
I-Technique "Ukuxhatshazwa"
Ukuxhatshazwa kwezinto kukuthatha isenzo esilungeleyo okanye amagama owawunqumle ngobuqili indlela yokubuyela kuyo (ukungaphumeleli, isinqumo sesigqeba). Kwi-NLP-uthando, olu buchule lunokunceda, umzekelo, ukuphepha ukuxabana okanye ukuhlukana. Ukuba iqabane liyakhathala ngokunyamezela i-antics yakho, unetyala kakhulu kwaye uyaguquka ngokwenene, kodwa uvakalelwa kukuba ulungiselela intetho enomsindo okanye amazwi okuyeka, uthi: "Ndiyazi ukuba iphosakelo lam linamandla kangakanani. Akukho ukuxolelwa kum, kwaye kunzima ukungavumelani nalo. Ndiyayiqonda ukuba unomsindo kum (ukuzonda, ukuphosa), kodwa vumela ndilungise iimpazamo zam kwaye ndibonakalise ukuba ndingcono kunezenzo zam! "Isenzo sokulindela" isigwebo "siyaphazamiseka kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi kunika ithuba lokufumana ukungcola.